Reframing the Friendship Fail with Shasta Nelson

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This week, we are reframing friendship — or more specifically, the friendship fail. To find out how a deep friendship has the potential to be rehabilitated, we talk with friendship expert Shasta Nelson, who has been called the Brené Brown of friendship. We talk about reframing loneliness, qualities every friendship needs, not downplaying our successes, and so much more. Listen for all the goods — your friendships will thank you.
Shasta Nelson has been studying friendship, both personally and in team environments, for 20 years. Her research has been made accessible for readers in Friendships Don’t Just Happen!, which teaches us how to make new friends as adults, and Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness, which teaches us how to make our closer relationships more meaningful and healthy. Her work has been featured in The New York Times, The Washington Post, and Harvard Business Review.
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Chapters

1. This week's episode (00:00:00)

2. Introducing Shasta (00:01:25)

3. Reframing loneliness (00:02:54)

4. The triangle (00:08:48)

5. Friendship fails (00:13:37)

6. The importance of vulnerability (00:16:30)

7. Reflections on lost friendships (00:22:53)

8. Getting away from harmful labels (00:27:59)

9. Shasta's friendships (00:29:52)

10. Owning our successes (00:34:20)

11. The place for growth (00:37:17)

12. Belonging in community (00:41:17)

13. Being ambitious and intentional in relationships (00:42:46)

14. If we stay lonely, that is fatal (00:49:32)