Stop Trying to Create Movie Moments

Romancipation

S2 Episode 10: Stop Trying to Create Movie Moments

Episode Summary

Who doesn’t love a good romcom, chick flick or trashy novel? While these types of stories entertain and move us, they unfortunately also have a sinister side. They create unrealistic ideas about what love, passion and a romantic relationship should look like. Too many of us fall prey to the idea that if someone really cares, they will fight for us or move mountains to make it work.
Romantic relationships can and should have moments of passion and gestures of love, but there is so much more to a successful relationship. Instead of focusing on grand displays of affection, people should appreciate the subtler signs that a partner respects you, admires you and wants to make your life better by meeting your emotional and physical needs.
When you focus on the partnership, instead of the picture-perfect idea of romance and love, you can find your own definition of happiness. Creating drama in hopes of inciting a positive reaction rarely works and often just creates confusion and tension in a relationship. Live in reality with your partner. Let fantasy be entertainment, not a relationship goal.
At the end of each episode, Marlee and Lis vent about commonly experienced issues in romantic relationships. In this episode, the ladies discuss snooping in your partner’s phone without permission.

Show Notes

Almost all of us are all guilty of trying to recreate movie moments in our relationships. We’ve been programmed to fall in love with a particular idea of a romantic relationship, but this type of love is improbable. Whether good or bad, you may find yourself trying to create drama in your relationship for the sake of these moments.
A lot of people build up unrealistic expectations to create situations and scenarios that reflect movie moments, when in reality, no matter what the grand gesture is, it will probably never meet your expectations. Some of the best moments in your relationship aren’t the big passionate gestures, but rather the small caring ones.
Your relationship does not need to be perfectly orchestrated, nor does it need to reflect a picture-perfect relationship like those you see on social media. Figure out what happiness looks like for you and go with that. Remember what the value of a partner is for you and be thankful for the everyday things your partner already does.
You may miss out on a wonderful partnership because you don’t get the over-the-top gestures you think you should be experiencing. Ideal concepts of passion, attraction, and commitment can lead you to lose sight of what’s right in front of you. Remember that grand romantic gestures don’t guarantee a committed, long-lasting relationship.
Today’s vent session topic is: When people read their partner’s text messages without the person’s knowledge. It’s a huge violation of trust, boundaries and is a serious red flag. It signals insecurity, and if you feel the need to do this, you shouldn’t be in the relationship.
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