He’s Cheating. Now What?

Sacred by Design

Everything changed with a ding, with a click on a tab; that’s all it took to discover the man you love has been cheating on you.

Now what?

That’s just one of the questions we’ll walk through on this episode of “Sacred by Design.”

Anne joins Andrea to discuss the ways infidelity leaves you with more than just a broken heart. Together, let’s Learn to name the symptoms your body is experiencing, to give words to the screaming questions in your head, to validate your response to a devastating discovery.

This is a heavy episode. Grab a cup of cold water and take a deep breath.

Let’s begin.

Highlights

D-Day is also known as Discovery Day: You’re caught off guard. You didn’t know there was something going on with somebody. And then you start connecting the dots and panic sets in.

Name what your body is feeling. Symptoms may include: confusion, irritability, headaches, lack of appetite, intrusive thoughts. This can be expected. You think your life looks one way and all of a sudden it looks completely different.

Be aware of getting the right support. The wrong support can almost be re-traumatizing.

Healing is possible. It can look like symptoms being reduced. The offending spouse is able to say, “What do you need today? What is this like? I’m here. I’m trying to walk in recovery.” And then, that builds trust because trust has been broken. Safety’s been broken in the relationship. Long term observable actions make the biggest impact. And that is what helps the wife begin to heal.

Resources

Dr Barbara Steffens

The Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists
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