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Stepping Out of the Shadow of Tragedy with Liz Bailey
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Losing a parent has a devastating effect, and losing the parent to suicide can bring compounding grief and anger. On the show today, Liz Bailey, a solicitor living in London, joins Yuliana to discuss losing her father to suicide and how the work she put into dealing with it gave her the courage to step outside the shadow cast by this tragedy and forge a solid path to an inspiring llife filled with purpose.
The conversation begins with Liz describing the event that reshaped her life - the tragic death of her father to suicide - as well as finding out about her father’s depression after his death, dealing with the immense rage she had towards him, and forging a path to forgiveness. She then delves into how this event caused a shift in her relationship with her mother and brother, her own struggles with depression, and her strong resolve to break the generational curse of depression that seemed to hover over her family. Liz also discusses the importance of raising the emotional inner child we all have as humans into emotional adults. The episode comes to a close with Liz describing the one song that resonates with her life - a song that fills her with great joy.
Episode Highlights:
- The tragic event that redirected the course of Liz’s life
- Finding out about her father’s depression
- Facing her rage
- The shift in the relationship with her mother
- Processing the guilt around suicide
- Liz speaks about her own struggles with depression
- Nature vs nurture
- Breaking the family “curse”
- Raising your emotional inner child
- The one song that resonates with Liz’s life
Quotes:
“Anger is actually a normal part of grieving, even when someone doesn't commit suicide, because you're angry with someone for leaving you behind.”
“Grief is always complicated, and loss is always complicated. But with a suicide, you have such a high degree of anger that actually makes it, in a way, more difficult to cope with your loss and to feel the sadness, because sometimes the anger is just so overwhelming.”
“That's a place of such dark hopelessness that I hope no one you love ever goes to that place ever again.”
“27 is the age at which you basically have to stop blaming your parents for all the shit that's gone wrong in your life, and you have to take responsibility for it, and decide how you want your life to be as a proper adult.”
“No one is immune to feelings of fear and loss and loneliness and self-doubt.”
“Don't focus on the stuff that you didn't achieve today, because you can achieve that stuff tomorrow.”
“If you spend your whole life looking for the big moments of joy, you miss the small moments of joy, and life is a series of small moments of joy.”
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