Men in Chaos

Calming the Chaos

Men in Chaos – Podcast Interview with Ben Killoy

Calming the Chaos welcomes Ben Killoy, US Marine Corps Veteran, husband, father and host of two podcasts: “The Military Veteran Dad” and “The Business of Fatherhood.” He is also the author of a book called “The Five Steps to Achieving an Authentic Life.”

In this podcast, Ben talks about how men can learn to remain calm in the face of chaos. He challenges men to view Fatherhood in a whole new way by “Bringing every Dad Home.” This challenge moves beyond the deployment of soldiers back to their physical homes and families. Rather, Ben encourages all men to find a home inside themselves. By accessing a calm place within their own hearts so that they can help themselves, men can then help their families and their communities move through experiences of chaos.

The goal: To share Ben’s story of chaos being a man, a father, a husband and a Marine. Ben also shares how he was able to develop tools and strategies to help himself and many other men access a calm place within their own hearts so that they can help themselves, their families and their communities move through experiences of chaos.

1. Introduction to Ben

1. 1. Who are you now?
   2. Share your story of how you got to where you are now
   
   
2. An overview of Chaos: “A state of disorganization, confusion, resulting from anything in our environment that throws us off balance, overwhelms or confuses us.
   1. Stereotypes (males, Dads, husbands, Military, leaders)
   2. What do men do when chaos comes? How to calm the storms?
   3. Do men get scared? (Internalizing fear)
   4. Other issues of chaos (“chaos of the heart, wired from a man”)
   
   
3. Issues of chaos specific to men
   1. Understand and know where you are at (vs. finding the goal)
   
   
4. Tools and strategies for men to access when in chaos

1. GPS analogy: “We know where we are going, but without knowing where we are at, how can we start?”
2. Part of calming the chaos is knowing where to start

1. 1. The legacy and the destination
   
   
2. Ben’s podcast https://www.militaryveterandad.com/podcast/
   1. https://www.benkilloy.com/listen
   2. Ben’s Website link: https://www.militaryveterandad.com/ and Benkilloy.com
   
   
3. Listen shortcuts https://www.militaryveterandad.com/listen

1. Book link: https://www.amazon.com/Five-Steps-Achieving-Authentic-Life-ebook/dp/B07FL9KF1T