Have it YOUR Way

The Hoss Lady

If you want it done, but want it done YOUR way... you need to listen to this one.

The website to order the Total Home Reset Audio Course mentioned in this episode is www.thehosslady.com/declutter

Here is the transcript for today's episode:

Becky: It. Hello. Welcome to the Haas Lady podcast where I help you declutter your life and your home. Hello, my amazing Haas listeners. It's Becky, the Haas lady. I am so happy today. It's a beautiful spring day and you're probably going to hear some nature sounds as I am sitting here with my door open with the frogs and the ducks and the birds and the pond and the beautiful spring day. I am living a life that I always wanted. I have the freedom to go places and do things on my own schedule and helping people every single day. It's just a great day and I just wanted to share that with you. So if you're new to the podcast, let me introduce myself. I am Becky, the Haas lady, which is home organization simplification specialist. And really to simplify that even more, I'm basically just saying that I am a Home Organization specialist. So it's my passion to help women get their environment cleaned up so that they can create systems of organization that are sustainable. So here we are. Thank you for being here. I would love for you to leave a review and share this podcast with your friends and family. I know even the most productive people in life that still need a little help with organization. So this is for everyone. Okay, so today I wanted to talk about something that came up in a text exchange with one of my clients. She's an avid listener and a dear friend. She recently ordered my audio course called The Total Home Reset and has been listening to the first module about decluttering and organizing the kitchen. So this message was during the kitchen lessons and she sends me a picture of her husband who is not helping her. And now to disclose, she loves this man dearly and she was obviously teasing when she sent this, but it was a picture of him sitting in a chair and it said something like, this is how he helps me in the kitchen. Obviously not helping her in the kitchen. Now, to be fair, they are moving in the next few weeks and there is a lot that needs to be done. And sometimes she feels like most of it falls on her. So what was my response? Well, I could have consoled her and said things like, oh, girlfriend, let's rise up against the man, let's take him down or whatever. But no, I simply said, well good, now you get to do it your way. She laughed and was like, well, good point. I do like my way better. So here's the deal, guys. You can either have help and be content with the way they help, or you can have it done your way, but you can't have both. How many times have you asked for help? Then the person helping does it wrong. So you complain and you fuss. Now, how is that person supposed to ever want to help you again. And I have heard and do not completely disagree with the concept that sometimes people purposefully help out with minimal effort in order to not be asked again. But we are not here to deep dive into why people do this. Because if I had the answer to that, I'd probably be making millions of dollars a day coaching struggling couples. But as it is, I don't know that answer. But what I do know is that it doesn't matter because you can't control what other people do or think or how they behave. So to put your energy into trying to figure it all out, it's not only a waste of time, but it's such a waste of mind power. The day I realized this was the day I found a completely new level of peace. And from that day forward, I could have chosen to be constantly disappointed in the person I loved. Not helping me because I assumed they didn't love me. Or I could have chosen to complete the task I wanted done in a way that I wanted and done it because I loved myself. I know, I know that when I'm surrounded by clutter and junk and trash and mess, my mental health struggles.