"The old Sarah can't come to the phone right now"

Deconstructing Gaslighting™

The theme this month is: LOVE. This is going to be a month of unpacking a few of the top ways I see the topic of “LOVE” and Gaslighting intersecting. AND we’re going to start it off with an amazing colleague that put up a post on social media that read, “embracing your authentic self without fear of rejection can be accomplished when you stop rejecting yourself first.”

Can you relate to that statement at all? I messaged her immediately and said, “This! This is what I want to talk about on the pod!”.

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Bio: My guest today is Amie Woolsey. Amie Woolsey is a certified betrayal trauma life coach and Brainspotting Practitioner. She has helped hundreds of people reclaim their lives after abuse, betrayal & or divorce, using her extensive experience and holistic approach to healing the heart, mind, and body. There are multiple resources available created by Amie, alongside opportunities for both group and private coaching. Amie is the co-host of The Choose to BE Podcast, creator and host of The Empowered Divorce Podcast, is affiliated with Safe Space, and creator of her signature program, Believing In You, Divorce 101 and Intimacy Within.

Story Time: Sarah and Amie have a candid conversation about a variety of ways external gaslighting led to internalizing those messages, which resulted in a variety of ways they rejected themselves... AND about a few key things that helped them in their journey BACK to themselves.

Top Take-Aways:

• There were a number of take-aways throughout the episode, but here I'll list the three pillars Amie mentioned as her pillars of coaching. They are: Awareness, Acceptance, and Agency.
• Awareness = getting curious when we are "spinning" and feeling uncertain;
• Acceptance = the release of self-judgement;
• Agency = when we accept we gain clarity, and are able to move into changing any behaviors we want to.

If you want to understand more about the ways gaslighting has shown up in your life, and robbed you of knowing yourself, loving yourself, and trusting yourself, check out my and Amie’s websites. We both have offerings that will help you break the hold self-gaslighting has had over you and help you step into that Radical self-love.

I encourage you to follow me and Amie on your preferred social media platform… I’m on Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok. Amie is also on Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok.

And remember – you may have crashed and burned; been broke and hurt, but damn it, You’re a phoenix and you’re rising again. I think it’s time we fly.