How to Survive a Breakup with Rosie Wilby

Single Sounds

DESCRIPTION

In this episode, Katie invites the "Queen of Breakups" Rosie Wilby to share her wisdom on surviving and even thriving after a breakup. Covering everything from the seven key reasons relationships end to handling the aftermath with friends and family, Rosie provides comfort, science-backed advice, and plenty of wry wit. You'll learn why the sadness comes in waves, the mental tricks to stop feeling so terrible, and how to set boundaries with your inner circle so they can actually help (not hinder!) your healing.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Phone a trusted friend straight after the breakup conversation happens
• Write out a pros and cons list to gain clarity without the rose-tinted glasses
• Seek professional help if you're still struggling with closure years later
• Reinvent yourself by trying new hobbies, careers or travels after some time
• Don't rush into dating before you've had time to process the emotions
• Decline friends "helping" you too quickly if it doesn't feel right yet
• Understanding the science behind heartbreak makes you feel less alone
• Reframing the breakup as an exciting catalyst for positive change

BEST MOMENTS

"I actually went straight over to a friend's house. I rang her. It was really late at night and she was like, we are getting on a flight at 4am, but just come."

"I found the writing out the cons really helpful... it's called a negative reappraisal strategy. When you look at the negatives...that clear-sightedness about the reasons why it was not the right person for you."

"Be selfish. It's a great time to look after yourself and it's a great time to do that because you are thinking very inward about what do I want to do, how do I now fill my time."

VALUABLE RESOURCES

Read The Breakup Monologues book

Rosie Wilby website

ABOUT THE GUEST

Rosie Wilby is an award-winning comedian, author, speaker and the creator of global hit podcast and book The Breakup Monologues. She has appeared many times on BBC Radio 4 programmes including Woman’s Hour, Loose Ends, Saturday Live and Four Thought, on TV programmes including Good Morning Britain and at major festivals including Latitude and Glastonbury. Her first book Is Monogamy Dead? was shortlisted for the Diva Literary Awards 2017, longlisted for the Polari First Book Prize 2018 and followed her TEDx talk of the same name.

Her acclaimed trilogy of solo shows investigating the psychology of love began with The Science of Sex and ended with The Conscious Uncoupling, which toured to venues including London's Southbank Centre and was shortlisted for Funny Women Best Show. Nicknamed 'the lesbian Louis Theroux', Rosie loves to use humour to unpack difficult questions about modern life and spread awareness of more conscious ways of beginning, maintaining and ending human relationships. She presents radio shows for the BBC, Virgin Radio and Resonance FM, writes for publications including The Guardian, Sunday Times , Cosmo, Stylist and New Statesman and speaks about relationships, resilience and reinvention at conferences and corporate events.

ABOUT THE HOST

Katie McNamara - London.

I started Single Sounds to create a new fun method of dating as I felt that there is now little variety with how to meet people. I absolutely love podcasts and believe in the strong sense of self you can get from them so I thought it was perfect for a dating medium.

As I like to say this podcast is for people who have too much personality for a dating app.

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