19|Recongizing our emotions

Thriving After 50 "Mind Body Soul"

Hey Fam, Master Coach G here on Thriving After 50 "Mind Body Soul" And today I am going to continue to talk about our emotions and how we must Recognizing our emotions Here are a list of some emotions we experience Love Anger Happiness Fear Sadness Rejection Anxiety Joy Envy Gratitude Excitement Pain Abandonment Shame Confusion Guilt Resentment That's just to name a few from my studies. I found out that we can experience so many unresolved emotions that we could actually feel in a lifetime. Imagine being a child and experiencing some of these things and not knowing how to deal with them. So what we do is we carry these emotions into our adulthood without ever becoming healed and that's what causes problems. But here are the three that I want to focus on today Rejection, abandonment, and resentment can all have negative effects on a person's life & health Rejection Can cause a range of emotions, including hurt feelings, loneliness, sadness, anger, and embarrassment. Abandonment Can lead to feelings of shame, guilt, powerlessness, and poor self-worth. People with abandonment issues may also have a fear of rejection or isolation, and may have difficulty in relationships. Some causes of abandonment issues include physical or emotional neglect or abuse Resentment Can cause a person to feel edgy or touchy when thinking of the person they resent, or to deny anger or hatred towards them. Resentment can also be provoked when the person is recognized positively. Some causes of resentment in relationships include neglect, lack of support, unresolved conflicts, or control issues. OK today I have no script. I'm shooting straight from the hip and I'm gonna share how rejection abandonment and resentment affected my life personally and may be something that you can relate to. I did not grow up with my mom. My grandparents raise me that caused me to have a feeling of rejection for years. I felt like my mom never wanted me and never cared. I felt abandon even though I knew that my grandparents loved me very much but I still felt abandoned. With that feeling of rejection and abandonment came resentment these are some very very strong emotions feeling rejected and abandoned cause resentment my whole entire life toward my mother. I had a lot of anger lot of sadness, a lot of anxiety. I was confused because I couldn't understand why she didn't want me. That rejection abandonment and resentment caused me to have a lot of anger and bitterness for 95% of my life towards my mother. Honestly, I'm a be real. I just didn't like her love her because she was my mother loved that she gave birth to me, but I did not like the fact that she did not want me. I didn't like the fact that I always felt rejected by her. I didn't like the fact that I felt abandoned by her that resentment was such a powerful emotion. I mean, I couldn't even be in the same room with her without feeling resentment. Those emotions pretty much took over my life. It was so difficult living with resentment because of the rejection and the abandonment that I felt and then the day that my mother health started failing and I had to come and take care of her boy oh boy tell you that the resentment that I felt Was unbelievable. I'm talking about my health seriously affected by that I couldn't eat. I couldn't sleep. I just wasn't taking care of myself because of the feelings of those emotions that I had. I didn't recognize what it was. I was not aware of what it was. All I knew was that it was such a strong feeling that it just took over my life. I was always upset. Pleasant don't get me wrong now. I was pleasant. I was nice but the resentment was affecting me , affecting my life because I was not aware that I felt rejected and abandoned. I would say to people yes I have a mom who gave birth to me, but I would call her my incubator because she carried me in her womb and she gave birth to me and then she put me in an incubator to grow up. That's how I felt. Not having the awareness and recognizing these emotions of feeling rejected and abandoned, I had no idea how to deal with them. I just didn't know what what I realize was. I had to heal from the feeling of rejection and abandonment. That was the only way the resentment was gonna go away. That's why it's important that we recognize our emotions because my health did suffer for a lot of years because of what I was carrying around on the inside of me. So the three A's came in to play Awareness Accountability Adjustments I had to become aware of the emotions of rejection and abandonment and the resentment and then I had to take accountability for what I was feeling my emotions and then I had to make adjustments, but once I did those three things my whole life changed that's when the healing process started so if you are dealing with the emotions of rejection, abandonment or resentment urge, I encourage you to become aware take accountability and make the necessary adjustments because if you do not, you will continue to live in this emotional state and that is not a good place to be. That's what I have for you today, I hope this episode has added value to your life Thank you for joining me today here on Thriving After 50 "Mind Body Soul" If this podcast was a benefit to you subscribe, follow and share it with someone that it may help as well! I appreciate you!! Remember, knowledge applied is power This is Master Coach G and I'll see you on the Next Level!