Stop Holding People Accountable | Ep. 17

Strong & Awake

Episode 17 | The Leaky Bucket of Accountability

In this episode of Strong & Awake, Dane and Mitch challenge the conventional wisdom around accountability. They argue that relying on others to hold us accountable is a way to dodge responsibility and set ourselves up for failure. Instead, they advocate for a practice of self-accountability that starts with creating and holding space for self-reflection— which can be done in community. They outline a process of committing to new behaviors, releasing old habits, and embracing the discomfort that leads to real change. Through personal anecdotes and practical advice, they invite listeners to take ownership of their growth and transformation. Don't just listen—take action and start holding yourself accountable today.

Chapters:

• 00:00 Introduction
• 01:23 The Accountability Partner Myth
• 04:08 Why Isn't it Working?
• 07:11 Creating and Holding Space
• 13:29 Daily Practices for Grounding
• 18:20 True Repentance and Commitment
• 21:04 The CREDO Framework
• 25:04 Accountability in Community
• 32:37 Taking Action

Mentions:

• Jerzy Gregorek: Quoted for the saying "Hard choices, easy life. Easy choices, hard life."
• "The Power of Habit" by Charles Duhigg: Referenced in the context of understanding habits.
• "Atomic Habits" by James Clear: Referenced in the context of understanding habits.
• Accountability: Discussed extensively, particularly the idea that self-accountability is more effective than relying on others to hold you accountable.
• Creating and Holding Space: The practice of creating a mental and emotional space to reflect and account for one's actions.
• Repentance: Described as a model for course correction, involving stopping, turning around, and moving in a new direction.
• Fess Up Fridays: A practice within MWOD where members reflect on their commitments, hold account for where they missed the mark, what they learned, and what they will do differently.
• CREDO Framework: A model for personal change involving Commit, Release, Embrace, Define, and Own stages.
• Ownership and Agency: Emphasized as critical for personal development and accountability.
• ItsProbablyNotForYou.com - Check it out!

Anchor Actions:

Self-Accountability Check-In: Every week, take a moment to reflect on three key points:

1. What goal did you set, and where did you fall short?
2. What did you learn about yourself in the process?
3. What specific action will you take to correct your course and move forward?

Create and Hold Space for Reflection:

• Dedicate a daily practice to create and hold space for yourself. This could involve a cold shower to wake up, a few minutes of breath-holding to center yourself, and journaling to process your thoughts. This routine helps you slow down, reflect on your actions, and prepare for the day with clarity.

Commit to a New Direction:

• When you identify a behavior or habit you want to change, make a clear commitment to a new course of action. Understand that you will face resistance and the urge to revert to old habits. Embrace the discomfort, release your preferences, and consistently practice the new behavior until it becomes a natural part of your routine.

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