165: How to Stop Giving Away Your Power with Amy Morin

Seven Figure Consultant with Jessica Fearnley

In this week’s episode of the Seven Figure Consultant Podcast, I interview the incredible psychotherapist, mental strength trainer and international best selling author, Amy Morin. Amy has a fascinating story to share, as she takes us through her journey from therapist to writer, all while living on a sailboat in the beautiful Florida Keys.

We discussed recognising and reclaiming personal power, including how to shift our mindset, establish healthy boundaries and confront challenges head-on for personal growth and empowerment.

During our conversation, Amy talked about the concept of mental strength and how it has shaped her life. She shared about personal experiences of loss that ultimately inspired her to write her renowned book series, "13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do".

In this episode:

The Sailboat Adventure (00:01:10) Amy shares her unique experience of living on a sailboat in the Florida Keys for the past seven years.

Mental Strength and Personal Journey (00:03:34) Amy discusses her career as a therapist and how her personal journey of loss and grief led her to develop mental strength.

Writing "13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do" (00:05:29) Amy shares the story of how she wrote an article titled "13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do" as a letter to herself, which eventually gained widespread attention and led to the publication of her book.

The Seasons of Life and Feeling alone (00:07:27) Discussion on how problems can compound, the ups and downs of life, and feeling isolated during difficult seasons.

The Power of Mental Strength and Personal Growth (00:09:39) Exploration of the importance of mental strength, learning from painful experiences, and not letting tough times define us.

Stop Giving Away Your Power (00:11:58) Conversation about how women often give away their power unknowingly, blaming others, and feeling like victims.

The Power of Taking Action (00:14:17) Taking control and empowering ourselves to take action in difficult situations.

The Influence of Attitude (00:16:23) Exploring how our attitude and body language can shape interactions and outcomes, and the importance of shifting our mindset to radiate confidence and positivity.

The Power of Language (00:20:42) Changing our language from "I have to" to "I choose to" can have a significant impact on our well-being and sense of agency.

Setting Boundaries and Asserting Power (00:22:00) By showing self-respect, speaking up, and setting boundaries, we can influence how others treat us and realise our own power.

Taking Action and Gaining Confidence (00:25:38) A story of transformation from feeling disempowered to pursuing a dream career by taking small steps and gaining confidence through action.

The Dopamine Adrenaline Hit (00:27:36) Exploring the powerful feeling of personal growth when stepping into something previously thought impossible.

Finding out more about Amy Morin (00:28:27) Amy discusses her series of books, including "13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do" and "13 Things Mentally Strong Women Don't Do", and shares where listeners can find out more about her.

Key Takeaways:

• Amy's personal journey taught her not only how to get through tough times but also how to enjoy the good times in life. She observed that some people remain stuck in a painful place even years after a difficult experience, while others manage to keep getting back up and maintain a positive attitude. This led her to study people's behaviours and learn about the difference between those who heal and grow from painful experiences and those who don't.
• Even when we feel powerless, there is always something we can do to improve our circumstances or how we feel about them.
• The language we use can have a profound impact on our mindset and well-being. Changing phrases like "I have to" into "I choose to" can make a world of difference. It's about taking ownership of our decisions and feeling empowered.

Quotes:

"What can I do about it? What do I have control over? As long as we empower ourselves to know there's always something we can do, it really empowers us to say, 'Alright, let's do something about this issue that I'm facing.'" - Amy Morin

“You can train your brain to do things differently over time if you consistently do something. So if every time you feel afraid, you say ‘I'm just going to go sit at home and not leave the house’, you've trained your brain to warn you of any kind of danger so that you immediately go home. On the other hand, if you recognise that ‘All right, I'm feeling kind of scared, but I'm going to face this fear’, over time you can train your brain to say ‘yeah, when we feel fear, we take action. We don't just go home and do nothing’.” - Amy Morin

“I think we get almost like the biggest dopamine, adrenaline hit when we step into something that we've been telling ourselves for decades we could never do. I definitely think that's where a lot of our personal growth suddenly comes to the fore and you're like, ‘What was all that about? Because that felt easy and it actually felt kind of fun’.” - Jessica Fearnley

Useful Links

Amy:

Amy’s Website - AmyMorinLCSW.com

Follow Amy on Instagram - @‌AmyMorinAuthor

Podcast - Mentally Stronger With Therapist Amy Morin

All of Amy’s books can be found at AmyMorinLCSW.com/books

Jessica:

The Six Elements of a Seven Figure Business – Free Download

Get in touch with Jessica to discuss your consulting business

Jessica’s LinkedIn

Submit your questions for this season’s Q&A episode

Guest Bio

Amy Morin is a psychotherapist, mental strength trainer and the award-winning host of the Mentally Stronger With Therapist Amy Morin podcast.

She’s an international bestselling author. Her books, including 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do and 13 Things Mentally Strong Women Don’t Do, have been translated into more than 40 languages and sold more than 1 million copies.

The Guardian dubbed her “the self-help guru of the moment.” Forbes calls her a “thought leadership star” and People says her book is one of the top 20 must read books of all time.

Her TEDx talk, The Secret of Becoming Mentally Strong, is one of the most viewed talks of all time with more than 23 million views.

She lives on a sailboat in the Florida Keys.