Minisode | In-Laws Still Close to BM, Chauffeur Duties for Kids

Stepmonster

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So my main complaint for years now has been the fact that his family was so happy that I came into their son's life. They saw a light they had never seen in him. They were always unhappy with how hubby and bio mom treated each other and left early on several occasions. I felt like I was a breath of fresh air for them. Hubby’s sister moved here and is living with his parents. She came down and all of sudden she and bio mom are best friends. It drives me insane and it’s felt like a total lack of disrespect for my feelings. His family comments on all her Facebook posts, goes to her birthday parties and then comes to ours too, and the list goes on and on. I’m slowly learning there’s nothing I can do to control this issue but nevertheless hurts my feelings.

Then this week bio mom and me got into it. 15 year started high school. We are 50/50. We pay her child support. She is remarried. She has twin boys. She doesn’t work. We agreed she wanted 15 yo to go to a specific high school so we changed paperwork for us to be primary household. This means only 1 parent gets the bus. She knew it would be us and that there was no way he could go to the other high school across town because me and hubby work full time and it would be impossible. She texted me the other day complaining about how much she is in the car with her twins and how it’s not fair and how her husband said she should have never agreed for 15-year-old to go to the high school we agreed to and I lost it. I told her she doesn’t work and gets child support and to basically get over it. I help with the driving to sleepovers, doctor appts, orthodontics appts and I work full time an hour away. I have no sympathy. She told me she couldn’t believe I had the audacity to bring up HER child support and that things between us will never be the same. She reached out and things have seemed semi-normal. Very minimal about the kids.. which I am ok with. Just wondering any tips and tricks to navigate through these teenage years, split schedules living across town, driving kids to school or not? Should I apologize? What to do?