Episode 38: Do Hard Things On Purpose with Clay Speakman

The BizDad Podcast

Clay Speakman, founder of EPIC Grit Club, shares his journey of finding grit and embracing the challenges of fatherhood. Clay emphasizes the importance of overcoming victimhood and taking control of one's own story. He also shares insights on cultivating grit in children and the power of struggling together as a family.

He encourages parents to have conversations with their children about growth and authenticity. Clay emphasizes the need to prioritize the growth, health, and safety of children over happiness and the importance of setting a vision for the future. Lastly, he highlights the power of doing hard things on purpose and the role of grit in personal and professional success.

Some highlights from our call:

“I spent my first 10 years as a dad running away from the chaos, the discomfort, and the frustrating things that I didn't know how to deal with. I define grit as the ability to do hard things on purpose — and the only way you grow it is by doing things that exceed your current capability.” -Clay Speakman

Additional key insights:

- Avoid victimhood.

- Build grit by doing hard tasks.

- Teach the value of struggle and failure.

- Strengthen family resilience together.

- Encourage open conversations on growth.

- Prioritize children's growth and safety over happiness.

- Strengthen bonds through meals and talks.

- Set and follow a vision for success.

And much more!

Timestamps:

00:00 Intro

01:00 Fatherhood & Business

04:07 Childhood & Adventure

06:02 Finding Grit & Overcoming Limits

07:28 Embracing Fatherhood

09:22 Hero of Your Story

10:47 Overcoming Victimhood

11:42 Wounded Warriors Inspiration

13:15 Parental Influence

14:18 Building Internal Grit

15:47 'Now What?' Importance

19:58 Cultivating Children's Grit

22:23 Family Struggles

24:08 Grit Family Events

25:04 Young Marriage

27:21 Career to Tech Transition

29:18 Tech for Specialized Communities

32:11 Tech Impact on Family

35:05 Authenticity & Connection

38:32 Being Authentic

39:18 Conversations on Growth

39:32 The Magical Age

40:00 Paradigm Shift

40:28 Understanding & Compassion

40:58 Parenting Hardships

41:26 Being Present

41:53 Waiting for Results

42:16 Vulnerability & Mistakes

43:14 Learning Together

44:13 Mission First

44:41 Family Meals Value

45:09 Avoid Over-Scheduling

45:36 Family Time Importance

46:12 Loved vs. Liked

46:38 Friend vs. Parent

47:04 Success Measure

47:32 Apologizing & Learning

48:01 Intentional Communication

48:41 Family Time & Space

50:15 Healthy Relationships

50:45 Passion & Family

51:29 Chasing Shiny Things

52:00 Start with End in Mind

52:23 Grit Value

53:16 Grit Gap

54:12 Future Vision

54:29 Avoid Shiny Things

55:19 Vision Importance

55:57 Chasing Next Thing

56:45 Setting Goals

57:41 Course Corrections

58:06 Communication Importance

58:25 Accountability Value

59:06 Doing Hard Things

01:00:02 Grit Club Mission

01:00:32 Weekly Grit Challenges

01:02:27 Resilience in Kids

01:03:08 Vulnerability Value

01:04:04 Grit Gap

01:05:02 Growing Through Challenges

01:06:26 Celebrating Failure

01:07:18 Strong Mindset Power

01:09:30 Overcoming Fear

01:10:29 Embracing Discomfort

01:11:55 Do Hard Things on Purpose

Follow Clay Speakman:

FB & IG: epicgritclub

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/clayspeakman/

LinkedIn Page: https://www.linkedin.com/company/epic-grit-club/

Email: [e-mail]

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