BLU Podcast #37 – Parents in Jail, Desire for Truth, Overcoming Abuse & Becoming Resilient

The BLU Podcast

Tune in now to Episode 37 With Special Guest Lizzette Vargas and Cohosts Tilsa D. Fernandez and Captain Matt Thomassen Tilsa D. Fernandez is the Founder and Owner of Divine Yoni Goddess, Divine Wedding Vows and Cohost of the Blessed Life University Podcast. She is a mother of 7 beautiful children. Matt Thomassen is a Captain in the U.S. Army and attorney at Thomassen & Tierney. Topics Covered: 0:00 - South Side Intro 3:45 – Similarities between German, Polish & Mexican Music 5:20 – What It’s Like Having a Father Who is in Jail & Not Knowing the Truth About It – Why is There a Separation Where the Parent Can’t Come Home 9:40 – How it Feels Hearing The Truth That Your Father is in Jail For the First Time – Looking Back at Life and Believing in Telling the Truth More Than Anything Else – Having to Let go of the Idea of Ever Having a Relationship With Your Father To Ease the Pain 13:37 – When You Have Been Hurt by Someone You would Rather Hear the Truth from Them Than Anyone Else – Forgiving Your Father Knowing You Will Never Have a Relationship With Him 19:07 – Focusing Your Energy Into People Who Deserve Your Energy, Not Those Who Hurt You 24:43 – Children Have a Great Ability to Make Sense of Things and Respond Well When You Give Them Truth and Reason – Life is Not Fair and Bad Things Happen to Good People – Resilience Means Getting Through The Toughest Times Quickly and Moving on – Toxic Masculinity Arises When We Don’t Heal From Traumas 34:28 - Covid as a Reboot for National Psychology – Some People Had Positive Realizations During the Pause – Stopping to Realize You are Hurt to Start Healing 39:07 - Life After Motorcycle Freedom Ride: Becoming Resilient – Journaling, Post Its on the Wall to See Trauma Visually – Purging Everything That Doesn’t Align With Your Higher Self – Externalizing Problems and Dealing With Them in a Responsible Way – Thoughts Have Weight They Are Heavy 48:40 - Reinvent, Renew and Reinvigorate – The Need a for a Strong Connection Between Police and The People They Serve – Police Gather Evidence of Crime and That Creates Fear and Anxiety in People Interactions With the Police are Stressful – The Need for Building a Connection Between Police and the Community in a Way That Inspires Confidence in People to Work With Police – Someone Has to Have the Back of Rank and File 57:26 - The Repetitiveness of Police Work – The Need for Required and Good Quality Therapy for Police From the Start of Their Career 1:02:48 - Being Passionate About Law Enforcement 1:07:50 - Mental Process of Overcoming Difficult Tasks – How You Feel About Something Does Not Affect Your Ability to do Something – Resilience as Doing Something Regardless of How You Feel About It – Overriding Your Mental Constraints 1:13:35 - Hijacking Motivation: Finding and Knowing Your Reason Why – Develop Good Habits & Discipline..It’s an Ongoing Process That Takes Continued Work 1:17:02 - The Importance of Accountability: Everyone Needs to Be Accountable, the Community and the Police - How Human Beings Work, How We React & What We Fight For 1:18:35 - Going through Domestic Violence – Having to Leave The State You Are In To Escape an Abuser -Dealing With Abuse at a Young Age – Gather The Important Things You Need Before You Leave: Prepare 2-3 Days Worth of Clothes in the Trunk of Your Car in the Event & Obtain Important Documents Like Social Security Cards and Birth Certificates 1:30:00 – End of Part 1 Watch, listen and download Episode 37 on the following sites: https://theblupodcast.com/ YouTube: https://youtu.be/7UbpysrCDeg Pandora: https://www.pandora.com/podcast/the-blu-podcast/PC:75155 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/1tnACSqaI7M2bxK3q6VPHZ Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-blu-podcast/id1568957253 Google Podcasts: https://www.google.com/podcasts?feed=aHR0cHM6Ly9mZWVkcy5zaW1wbGVjYXN0LmNvbS9VWThwMUk0aw%3D%3D You can also download Episode 37 on the following sites: Amazon Music, Gaana, Deezer, Overcast, Stitcher, IHeartRadio, Pocket Casts, PlayerFM, TuneIn and JioSaavn. Please watch, like and share, share, share!!!