[EMPOWERMENT SERIES] EP#2 – DOES PEOPLE-PLEASING GO AGAINST YOUR VALUES?
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Many of us grow up hearing that we “shouldn’t rock the boat”, “open a can of worms”, and that we should simply “sweep it under the rug”. In my not-so-humble opinion, these are all idioms for “shut the eff up and suffer in silence”. These are seemingly noble encouragements for us to keep putting everyone else in front of ourselves and keep people-pleasing our pretty little asses off.
Unfortunately, when we chronically stifle our voice, we are sending a subconscious message to our mind that we simply don’t matter as much as everyone else. Taking care of the other person’s emotions is FAR MORE important than your own. So no wonder you’ve been struggling with self-worth!
Here’s where it can get complicated: If you consider yourself someone who has a strong core value around honesty, integrity, or authenticity, yet you constantly shape-shift in order to please others, you aren’t really honoring your own value. And I’m guessing that if you are looking to attract new friendships and relationships rooted in honesty and integrity, you aren’t looking for folks blowing smoke up your ass… to people-please you. So… you should probably BE the person you are looking to attract.
In this week’s show, I break down two major ways people-pleasing shows up in our world and how to know if it’s serving you (yes, that’s actually a thing) or if it’s stealing your joy. Be sure to grab your freebie worksheets that accompany this episode because you’ll be learning all about the connection between your core values and your people-pleasing behavior and how to stand in your personal power.
This pod explores:
- The real definition of people-pleasing (especially if you don’t identify as a people-pleaser)
- How being a kind, compassionate person can backfire on you and how to make sure it doesn’t
- Why you HAVE GOT TO stop saying “I feel so bad!” or “I feel so guilty!”
- My 4-question journal prompt to help you discern if you are honoring your core values… or if people-pleasing is effin’ everything up
This episode is part of a limited, 6-part podcast series teaching you all the tools and strategies you need to kick your confidence and self-worth into high gear. I’ve also created detailed (and #gorge) worksheets to accompany each episode in the series to aid you in cementing all your ah-ha moments and anchor in lasting change.
Recent scientific studies have shown that taking pen to paper helps the brain retain information substantially more than listening alone. Get ready to set powerful boundaries (without guilt), contend with fear and worry like a boss, kick imposter complex to the curb, and finally believe you are ‘enough’ already. So clickety-click RIGHT HERE and grab your free worksheets!
CHECK OUT WORTHY.! IT’S TIME TO BELIEVE YOU ARE WORTHY, ONCE AND FOR ALL.It’s time to stop talking constant shit to yourself. It’s time to stop caring so much about what everyone else thinks of you. It’s time to let go of that death grip on perfectionism, self-doubt, and people-pleasing. After all, how has that been working? That’s what I thought.
Let’s kick that shit to the curb, shall we? I’m about to open the doors for an exclusive, small group-coaching immersion that will teach you the skills to access some serious “enoughness,” start believing in yourself, and speak up for yourself like a bold, boundaried badass. Oh, and this 9-month, deep-dive includes TWO all-inclusive, 5-day, luxury retreats! Hello!
Want in? Of course, you do. Clickety click RIGHT HERE or click the fancy image to read all about it and MARK YOUR CAL! The application window officially opens September 2nd, 2024!
Additional Resources:- CHECK OUT WORTHY.
- FREE WORKSHEETS WITH THIS POD SERIES
- EP #372 – PRIMITIVE FEAR TO MODERN ANXIETY: UNDERSTANDING THE FOUR MODERN FEAR RESPONSES
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