The Divorce podcast

15:57

In this episode, Kate is joined by the founder of Divorce Recovery Seminars, author, former barrister, and family court judge Christopher Compston to discuss his personal experience of divorce through his unique professional legal lens. About the episode: Kate and Christopher start by discussing Christopher’s parents’ divorce and how this formed his view of marriage. He shares an invaluable insider perspective on the legal process having worked as a barrister and a judge. Christopher then goes on to explore his own experience of adultery and divorce. Kate and Christopher finish off by sharing some tips on how to recover, move on and lead a happy life after divorce, as well as some hard-hitting truths about how painful the experience can truly be. About our guest: Christopher Compston is a former barrister and was a Circuit Judge for nearly thirty years, dealing with everything from criminal to family matters. He retired in 2013. Twice married, he has had six children. For many years he and his current wife, Caroline, attended Holy Trinity Church in Brompton where he started and ran Divorce Recovery seminars for ten years. Christopher has written two books on the subject: ‘Recovering from Divorce’ (1993) and ‘Breaking Up Without Cracking Up’ (2011). More resources: You can learn more about Restored Lives on their website, and you can purchase Christopher’s book ‘ Breaking Up Without Cracking Up ’ on Amazon. Get in touch with amicable for information on the legal, financial and parenting aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert today. #LifeAfterDivorce…

The Divorce Podcast

1
‘Silent’ separation, staying for the kids and writing to heal 30:59

20 days ago30:59

30:59

In this episode, Kate is joined by award-winning author Laura Pritchett to discuss how a lack of communication led to the end of her marriage – and how journalling and writing helped her understand the truth and ultimately move on. About the episode Kate and Laura begin by discussing Laura’s essay, ‘ No sound, no fury, no marriage ’, and her divorce experience, which inspired her to write the piece. Laura explains how a lack of easy banter and general communication barriers ultimately led to the end of her marriage – and how journalling and writing her latest novel, ‘ Three Keys ’, helped her understand the truth and move on. Finally, Laura reflects on her 22-year marriage and what she’s learned about the part she played in the divorce. She shares how she eventually told her kids the news and the lessons she's taking forward into her next chapter… About our guest Laura Pritchett is an award-winning author of seven novels, two nonfiction books and editor of three anthologies. Her essay ‘ No sound, no fury, no marriage ’ was featured in the Modern Love column of The New York Times, and her latest fiction book. ‘ Three Keys ’ is based on her own experience of divorce. All her work is rooted in the natural world, celebrating the people who live close to it. When not writing or teaching, she’s generally found exploring the mountains of her home state of Colorado, particularly those near the ranch where she was raised. More resources Discover Laura Prichett’s work on her website. Get in touch with amicable for information on the legal, financial and parenting aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert today. #SeparationStories…

The Divorce Podcast

1
Money trauma, relationships and the truth about pensions in marriage 44:13

5 weeks ago44:13

44:13

In this episode, Kate is joined by a multi-award-winning Financial Coach and international author Catherine Morgan to discuss pensions and other financial aspects of divorce. About the episode: Kate and Catherine begin by discussing Catherine’s journey to becoming a financial coach and how personal life trauma shapes her relationship with money. They consider how money trauma may affect thoughts and actions during a divorce or separation. The conversation moves on to discuss pensions and why many people have such a strong emotional attachment to them. Catherine gives advice on how to avoid unfair pension arrangements during a divorce and what steps can be taken to improve your financial situation post-divorce. Finally, Catherine shares her top tips on how to get on top of your finances through scheduling ‘money dates’ with yourself and much more. About our guest: Catherine Morgan is a Financial Wellbeing Speaker, multi-award-winning Financial Coach and international author. Her Amazon #1 best-selling book, It's Not About the Money , presents a trauma-informed psychological approach to money. As the founder of The Money Panel®, Catherine trains financial professionals through her acclaimed Financial Coach Certification programme and works with consumers under her personal brand by running courses and retreats. After 15 years as a regulated financial adviser, Catherine created her current business focussed on the psychology of money. Recognised as one of the top 32 female entrepreneurs by Business Leader, her expertise has been featured in Forbes, Grazia, Meta, Amazon, The Telegraph and more. Her podcast ‘ It’s not about the money ’ is in the top 0.5% in the world. More resources: Learn more about Catherine on her website . Get in touch with amicable for information on the legal, financial and parenting aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert today. #Finances…

The Divorce Podcast

1
Five arguments all couples need to have with Joanna Harrison 42:48

7 weeks ago42:48

42:48

In this episode, Kate is joined by therapist, author and former divorce lawyer Joanna Harrison to share expert tips on how to have a healthy argument in relationships, as parents and post-separation. About the episode: Kate and Joanna begin by discussing Joanna’s book, Five Arguments All Couples (Need To) Have And Why The Washing Up Matters (Souvenir Press, £9.99). Joanna explains how key couple differences when it comes to communication, in-laws, daily chores, personal space and sex can all lead to arguments in relationships. Kate and Joanna also explore how these conflicts can manifest between ex-partners and co-parents. Throughout the conversation, they consider each sticking point and give expert tips on how to have healthier, more constructive disagreements. The episode ends with Joanna's communication tips for co-parents, including creating space and time for important decisions and encouraging curiosity about your ex-partner. About our guest: Joanna Harrison is an experienced couple therapist, former divorce lawyer and author of Five Arguments All Couples (Need To) Have And Why The Washing Up Matters (Souvenir Press, £9.99) . She regularly speaks and writes about relationship issues in the media and specialises in supporting couples who are considering separation or going through it. More resources: Learn more about Joanna on her website or purchase her book in your local bookstore or online . You can also read our blog ‘ Is it over? Should I leave? ’ on our website. Get in touch with amicable for information on the legal, financial and parenting aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert today #EmotionalJourney…

The Divorce Podcast

1
Emotional regulation, maturity and how to get your mojo back post-separation 35:17

9 weeks ago35:17

35:17

In this episode, amicable co-founder Kate is joined by Life Coach Katie Lloyd to talk about emotional regulation, maturity and how to get your mojo back following a relationship breakdown. About the episode: Kate and Katie begin by exploring her personal divorce story as a new mum and how this impacted her life outlook and career. They then look at the importance of emotional regulation and maturity during the separation process and subsequent co-parenting journey. Katie explains how different people's perspectives can influence negotiations during a separation. They also discuss the role of friends and family, how community can be a wonderful support during and after separation and finish with Katie's top tips on how to get through a rocky period and come out stronger. About our guest: Katie is a life coach, certified NLP practitioner and mental health first aider and enjoys helping clients get their mojo back after midlife wobbles. She is a metaphorical handhold through mid-life ups and downs – she knows becoming a parent or a relationship breakdown can be a tricky time. If you throw co-parenting into the mix, there’s a lot to navigate! Customers go to Katie for help regulating their emotions and getting their sparkle back. More resources: You can follow Katie on Instagram . Get in touch with amicable for information on the legal, financial and parenting aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert today. #EmotionalJourney…

The Divorce Podcast

1
Would you host a divorce party? Breaking the stigma with Sonia Gupta 35:12

11 weeks ago35:12

35:12

In this episode, amicable co-founder Kate is joined by Relationship & Divorce Coach Sonia Gupta to talk about her arranged marriage, separation story and why she joined a growing number of people hosting divorce celebration parties. About the episode: Kate and Sonia begin the episode by exploring Sonia’s arranged marriage, relationship and parenting journey. Sonia speaks candidly about how she struggled emotionally before making the decision to divorce. They also discuss the lack of family support Sonia experienced at the time. Sonia finishes by exploring the freedom she feels post-divorce and why she hosted a divorce party for her friends and family to celebrate the beginning of a new chapter. About our guest: Sonia is a mum of two who became a relationship and divorce coach following her own divorce. Sonia's journey serves as a beacon of hope, encouraging others to break free from stigma and judgment and embrace the promise of a fulfilling life post-divorce. More resources: Learn more about Sonia on her website , and follow her on Instagram for inspirational content. Get in touch with amicable for information on the legal, financial and parenting aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert today. #LifeAfterDivorce…

The Divorce Podcast

1
Making your children heard during divorce and separation 41:37

13 weeks ago41:37

41:37

In this episode, Kate is joined by Paul Richardson, an amicable Divorce Specialist, and Carlie Norris , an Accredited Family Mediator, to discuss how the voice of the child can be heard during the divorce and separation process. About the episode: Kate and her guests begin by discussing how child arrangements were made historically, and what are the current options available to separating parents. Paul then goes on to explain how amicable’s services help with child arrangements, and Carlie talks about the process and benefits of child-inclusive mediation. They also talk about how transparent conversations can reduce the overall level of conflict and strengthen relationships between both co-parents and children. Paul and Carlie finish off by giving tips on how to navigate the emotional side of the process for you and your children. About our guests: Paul is a Divorce Specialist with amicable and has been in family law for 20 years, qualifying as a family solicitor in 2010. He is also an Accredited Family Mediator with vast experience of working with couples to arrive at mutually agreed to prioritise any children of the family. Paul stepped away from his role as solicitor to join amicable in 2024 to help those going through separation work together to resolve issues regarding divorce, finances and children. He understands the emotions couples are going through and is able to adopt a sensitive, yet professional approach, to help guide them through the process. Carlie Norris is an Accredited Family Mediator and is Child-Inclusive Mediation trained. As the founder of Circle Mediation , Carlie has a particular passion in considering the child’s voice in family separation and in November 2023 co-authored the Family Solutions Group Report ‘ A Child’s Right to Matter ’. With more than a decade of dedicated experience in Restorative Justice, Restorative Practice, Family Group Conferencing, and Safeguarding within Children’s Services, Carlie’s enthusiasm for these fields shines through in her work. She is deeply committed to facilitating processes that empower participants to create meaningful, lasting solutions. Beyond her mediation practice, Carlie’s passion extends to education, as she continues to deliver training in restorative interventions and conflict resolution to organisations across both the public and private sectors. More resources: Get in touch with Carlie Norris through Circle Mediation or through Family Mediators Association . Get in touch with amicable for information on the legal, financial and children aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert today. #Coparenting…

The Divorce Podcast

1
Navigating the holidays without your children 37:11

15 weeks ago37:11

37:11

In this episode, Kate is joined by amicable’s Divorce Specialists, Anthony Syder and Bec Jones , to share tips on coping with not being with your children. Perhaps your child is with their other parent, and you may be listening to this on Christmas or another special occasion. About the episode: This episode looks at tips and advice to help you get through. Kate and her guests begin by describing common arrangements for children and focus on typical holiday arrangements and the effects they might have on you as a parent if you don’t get to spend this time with your kids. They explore how arrangements might affect children’s feelings, and what steps you can take to ensure that everyone has a great Christmas day without feeling guilty or worried. Anthony and Bec also share tips on how to approach talking about Christmas or other holiday arrangements with your co-parent and planning the festive season in advance. They finish off by sharing some tips about self-care if you’re spending this Christmas without your children. About our guests: Anthony is a Divorce Specialist at amicable and has worked in the area of divorce, mediation and family dispute resolution for the past 8 years. His areas of interest include the voice of the child and diverse and inclusive families. Having had over 10 years of experience as a divorce lawyer, Bec leads amicable's Negotiation team. Bec played a vital role in developing the amicable process and is renowned for her empathetic approach. With expertise in child arrangements, blended families, and complex finances, she is a fountain of knowledge. More resources: We understand that special occasions can be hard to cope with if you're not spending them with your children. If you feel that you need some professional help with mental health or simply an unbiased person to talk about your situation with, please visit BetterHelp via this link to get 20% off the first month for amicable customers. Mind is a mental health charity that is always here to provide you with the help and support that you might need. Alternatively, please get in touch with your GP or call 111 to get mental health help and advice. Please get in touch with amicable for information on the legal, financial and children aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert through the amicable website. #Coparenting…

The Divorce Podcast

1
Advice from The Breaking Dad and his new partner on blended families 49:09

17 weeks ago49:09

49:09

In this episode, Kate is joined by parenting team, Dan and Rosie, to talk about blended families. About the episode: Kate and her guests begin by exploring Dan and Rosie's very different separations with Rosie’s being more amicable then Dan's. They talk about the value of prioritising collaborating with your ex-partner. They also describe how they introduced each other to their children and how they approached conversations with ex-partners. Dan and Rosie look at common challenges like disciplining each others children and navigating boundaries. They finish by talking about unexpected joys and working alongside their ex-partners new relationships and families. About our guests: Dan is a 34-year-old Dad from Hampshire, and co-parent to his beautiful eight-year-old daughter Evie. Evie’s mum and Dan separated just over five years ago when she was two and have since been navigating the ups and downs of a co-parenting life which as we know can be tough. Dan started to share their journey together on social media in an honest, no-frills and candid way, to show other co-parents who are struggling with parental separation that they aren’t alone. He now has a substantial online following and is known as The Breaking Dad. Rosie is the loving mother to Tilly, 9, and Liza, 5. After meeting Dan, they began the rewarding but sometimes challenging journey of blending their families and now expect a baby girl together later this year. More resources: Get in touch with amicable for information on the legal, financial and children aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert through the amicable website. #Coparenting…

The Divorce Podcast

1
Healing with a Divorce Doula 47:24

19 weeks ago47:24

47:24

In this episode, Kate is joined by Farhana Hussain , the UK's first Divorce Doula, to discuss the healing journey post-divorce. About the episode: Kate and Farhana start the episode by talking about her journey to becoming a ‘divorce doula’, including her own struggles of finding support in the emotional journey of divorce. Farhana shares her own take on cooperative parenting and unique nesting arrangements. they then look at how she helps others through separation and how to get creative with deciding arrangements for children. Kate was fascinated by Farhana’s process of helping people their ‘why’ which they can use as as a guiding light throughout the separation and co-parenting process. About our guest: Farhana is on a mission to revolutionise divorce support. As a British Bangladeshi and devoted mother to three teenagers, she combines practical advice with deep emotional and spiritual healing, streamlining the cost of divorce on your finances, mind, and body. She has been featured as a divorce expert in magazines, broadsheets, and national papers, including the BBC, Evening Standard & Good Housekeeping. More resources: Get in touch with amicable for information on the legal, financial and children aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert through the amicable website. #Coparenting…

The Divorce Podcast

1
How the latest government budget could impact your divorce 26:21

21 weeks ago26:21

26:21

In this episode Kate is joined by Louise Oliver , a Certified Financial Planner, to discuss the recent budget announcement and how it will affect divorcing couples at different stages of the process. About the episode: Kate and Louise start by summarising the main headlines from the announcement. Then they go on to explore in detail how CGT, increased stamp duty on 2nd homes, tax on the sale of businesses, increased VAT on private schools and changes to the rules on inheriting pensions affect divorcing couples and their children. They finish off by giving tips on how to manage the anxiety that comes with financial changes by seeking timely advice as well as having important conversations about these changes at every stage of the divorce process. About our guest: Louise Oliver is a Certified Financial Planner with over 30 years of experience. She's often a go-to expert for commentary for the National and local media. Louise is also a member of Resolution , a community of family justice professionals who work with families and individuals to resolve issues involving the breakdown of your marriage in a constructive way. More resources: Get in touch with amicable for information on the legal, financial and children aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert through the amicable website. #Finances…

The Divorce Podcast

1
The three G's with Paul Roseby 41:53

23 weeks ago41:53

41:53

In this episode, Kate is joined by Paul Roseby OBE to talk about his separation and divorce story. About the episode In this episode, Paul opens up about his divorce, sharing the sudden shift in his long-term marriage when his ex-husband decided to end their relationship. He describes the emotional challenges of navigating the separation and how he coped with the pain. Kate and Paul explore the valuable lessons he gained from the experience, including the three G's. They end the episode by discussing his current relationship and the growth that came from his journey. About our guests: Paul is a broadcaster and CEO and Artistic Director of the National Youth Theatre. In over a decade at the helm of the world’s leading youth arts charity he has commissioned over 150 plays, pioneered the NYT REP Company, led a ground-breaking international cultural exchange programme and directed many hit productions. They include the London 2012 Team Welcome Ceremonies, Handel & Hendrix at Somerset House, Generation Sext for Sky Arts, When Romeo Met Juliet for BBC2, and Tom Stoppard’s abridgement of Shakespeare’s The Merchant of Venice at the Royal Opera House and the National Centre for Performing Arts in Beijing. More resources: Get in touch with amicable for information on the legal, financial and children aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert through the amicable website. #SeparationStories…

The Divorce Podcast

1
Property & divorce FAQs 51:12

25 weeks ago51:12

51:12

In this episode, Kate is joined by Jamie Cole, the co-founder of Sail Homes and Sail Legal , and Edwina Homfray-Davies, a Licensed Conveyancer with over 20 years of experience and part of Sail Legal, to discuss the most common property and divorce FAQs. About the episode The discussion starts by exploring the impact property ownership has during divorce and separation. Jamie and Edwina look at how property is treated in a divorce including options such as buying-out your ex-partner, joint ownership or selling and splitting the proceeds. They consider the various professionals you may need to use, such as conveyancers, mortgage brokers, estate agents and your bank, and which documents you need for buying and selling property during a divorce. Edwina and Jamie give great tips on Stamp duty land tax and how to ‘ensure you’re exempt from the additional 3% levy. They also discuss the customer journey in a transaction between ex-spouses, and how a Separation Agreement can speed up the process. Jamie and Edwina share the most common pitfalls and a few top tips for selling a property and explain how their expertise in dealing with transfers post-divorce can make the whole process a lot smoother and quicker. About our guests: Jamie Cole, co-founder of Sail Homes, has been involved in property since 2017, specialising in probate and conveyancing. He has successfully exited two businesses, and prior to his property career, worked in fitness software. Jamie now focuses on helping clients navigate property sales during life transitions, such as divorce, with a strong track record of delivering results. Edwina Homfray-Davies is a Licensed Conveyancer and Fellow of the Institute of Chartered Legal Executives (FCILEx) with over 20 years of experience in conveyancing. She brings a wealth of knowledge and expertise to every property transaction, having successfully navigated clients through countless sales, purchases, and property law complexities. For the past three years, Edwina has been at the helm of Sail Legal, which offers a modern, client-focused approach to conveyancing. Known for her meticulous attention to detail and commitment to smooth, transparent property transactions, Edwina is passionate about delivering excellence in legal services. More resources: Get in touch with amicable for information on the legal, financial and children aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert through the amicable website. #Finances…

The Divorce Podcast

1
Neurodiversity, divorce and separation 40:13

27 weeks ago40:13

40:13

In this episode, Kate is joined by Dr. Angharad Rudkin and Anthony Syder to talk about neurodiversity, divorce and separation. About the episode: In this episode, we look at what neurodiversity is and explore how it impacts both neurodivergent adults and children during family separation. Angharad and Anthony share their tips on navigating specific issues, such as the negotiation process, legal process and cooperative parenting. About our guests: Angharad is a Clinical Psychologist with over 20 years of experience working with children and their families and lecturing on child psychology at the University of Southampton. In collaboration with OnlyMums and OnlyDads Angharad designed and runs the popular "What About Henry?" course for family law professionals. Angharad has co-authored parenting books and children’s books and was the Consultant Editor for the divorce guide “101 Questions about Separation and Divorce with Children”. Angharad is the author of “The Split Survival Kit” which she wrote with children’s author Ruth Fitzgerald. Angharad regularly appears on TV and radio as an expert on child and family issues and has recently been shortlisted for the Resolution Children’s Champion Award. Anthony is a divorce specialist at amicable and has worked in the area of divorce, mediation and family dispute resolution for the past 8 years. His areas of interest include the voice of the child and diverse and inclusive families. Angharad is running a one-hour session titled ‘Neurodiversity – What does it mean?’. For more details and to book, please click here . More resources: Get in touch with amicable for information on the legal, financial and children aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert through the amicable website. #EmotionalJourney…

The Divorce Podcast

1
How to untie the knot amicably 47:06

29 weeks ago47:06