Why Men Struggle In Relationships w/ Bryan Withrow Reeves

The Heartbeat

In this episode of The Heartbeat, Brian Withrow Reeves discusses the differences between men and women when it comes to intimacy and relationships. He explains that while men and women have the same essential needs for safety, love, and acceptance, they often approach relationships and problem-solving differently. Brian also talks about the challenges men face in today's society and the importance of connection in relationships. He shares insights from his own personal journey and offers advice for men who are seeking more fulfillment in their relationships.

Key Takeaways:

• Men and women have the same essential needs for safety, love, and acceptance.
• Men and women often approach relationships and problem-solving differently, which can lead to conflict and disconnect.
• The culture we live in rewards men for solving problems and achieving outcomes, which can create a disconnect in relationships.
• Men need to learn how to be more relational and connect with their partners on a deeper level.
• The crisis in relationships is a crisis of connection, not of money, sex, or social media.

About The Guest:

Brian Reeves is a relationship coach, author, and speaker. He has been coaching couples for ten years and has worked with countless men and women to help them improve their relationships. Brian is the author of the book "Choose Her Every Day or Leave Her," which has been read by millions of people.

Quotes:

• "Men and women tend to come at things very differently and from a different set of initial priorities and values, and that can create endless conflict or disconnect."
• "The real crisis in relationships is a crisis of connection, not of money or sex or social media."
• "Men and women are constantly experiencing a disconnect because men are problem resolution-oriented, while women are in the conversation to create connection."
• "We are rewarded for solving problems and achieving outcomes, but we are not rewarded for collaborative, nurturing ways of being."
• "Men need to learn how to be more relational and connect with their partners on a deeper level."

Links:

• Brian Reeves' website
• Brian Reeves' book, "Choose Her Every Day or Leave Her"

0:00:00 Mens needs / womens needs 0:01:02 Disconnect between men and women 0:03:45 The crisis in modern dating / The crisis in modern relationships 0:04:31 Masculine culture 0:05:41 Selfish thinking vs inclusive thinking 0:08:26 How to respect needs and boundaries 0:10:28 Responsibility in relationship 0:13:39 How to be compassionate and assertive 0:17:59 Men's initiation 0:30:17 Survival mode in relationships 0:37:27 How to make inclusive choices 0:38:50 Men need to seek wise counsel and support 0:43:30 What men find attractive in a woman 0:46:14 The challenge in relationships 0:57:09 Brian Reeves' book "Choose Her Every Day or Leave Her"