Hold On to Your Kids (Episode 1 of 3)

The Journey: PCA Parent Podcast

Guests: Katie McDonald, Julie Hildebrand, and Gabe Boyd

The book we all read is titled Hold On to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More than Peers written by Gordon Neufeld, Ph.D., and Gabor Mate, M.D. This is NOT a recommendation of this book, but an in-depth exploration of the concepts of “attachment” parenting that are raised and an exploration of the idea that youth need to be more connected to their parents than to their peers.

“Attachment” parenting addresses the importance of the relationship between parents and their children as well as children and other things, especially the connection of children with their peers.

Parents who are looking to foster and encourage peer relationships might need to reconsider the importance of these relationships - the MOST important relationship/connection that your children need to have secure is the relationship with you as their parent!

Parents, we should want our children to “attach” to us IF we are attached to Christ - as Paul said, Be imitators of me, as I am of Christ” (1 Cor. 11:1).

Josh McDowell, “Rules without relationship leads to rebellion.” When a child is acting unruly, these behavioral issues are really, at their core, relationship issues.

Benefit of having your children at PCA is that your child should have multiple attachments of like-minded, Christ-centered people in their lives!

The secret of parenting is not what the parent does, but who the parent is, in the life of a child - that’s a very profound point in this book!

Special shout out to Jared Wood for allowing us to use his music - check him out at JaredWoodMusic!