S01E04 The Not Giving Advice Episode
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Check in Question:
- Do you believe criminals can be truly rehabilitated in prison?
Big Ideas:
- “You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with.”
- Fear of people who are different than us
- The costs of the advice trap that leads to dysfunction in teams
- Advice is personal and the transfer of it doesn’t alway flourish in another context, or with another person
- Best practices shift based on context, and means that there is only one.
- We don’t live in a linear world, so there can’t be a best.
- Advice creates demotivated advice receivers and overwhelmed advice givers
- Advice creates a short term solace
- Advice is everywhere and we all seem to like giving it out
- Is sharing of information giving advice?
- Sometimes the expertise and advice is wrong for you
- The power of the scientific process (randomized trials)
- Selling your idea as “THE” idea
- Is the problem the assumption behind the advice and not the advice itself?
- The importance of drawing out the ideas of all people, and being attuned to why they aren’t sharing their ideas
- The person who talks the most often has the “power” in a situation.
- Are we willing to share our voice and have power dynamics shift as a result?
- How to hold power? Being worthy of power.
- Power with people versus power over others
- When we interact with people who want our advice and expect to receive it
- The people who want to be told what to do, and the people who love to tell others what to do
- What about the cultures where giving advice is a natural part of life because it is a passing along of knowledge?
- What’s the middle way?
- Is advice giving a way to exert power over others
- The intention behind the advice giving has many nuances
- The dynamics of the relationship matters when it comes to advice giving/receiving
References:
- The Advice Trap by Michael Bungay Stanier
- The Unforgivable (movie with Sandra Bullock)
- Adam Grant
- Elias Porter – 6 Listening Attitudes
- Chatter by Ethan Cross
- Quiet by Susan Cain
- The Power of Giving Away Power by Matthew Barzun
- The Karpman Drama Triangle
- The Wisdom of Coaching
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