How to Have a Feminist Wedding (and Still Wear White!)

The One Fab Day Wedding Podcast

In episode nine of The One Fab Day Wedding Podcast, Claire and I are hoisting our feminist flags to discuss the somewhat controversial topic of feminist weddings. Most brides these days are, like us, passionate about the issues surrounding gender equality, but planning a wedding that reflects those values can actually be pretty tricky! Long-standing traditions like wearing white, tossing the bouquet and walking up the aisle with your Dad are loaded with patriarchal origins and/or sexist connotations. This doesn't necessarily mean you should ditch them, but mindlessly adopting them isn't ideal either. That's why, this week, we're doing a deep dive into the bizarre world of wedding traditions and presenting some fun alternatives! Plus, we answer the age-old question, "What do you do when your other half isn't pulling their weight in wedding planning?"

Episode Breakdown: Episode 9 - How to Have a Feminist Wedding

Wedding tip: We discuss the merits of doing a full, head-to-toe dress rehearsal a few days before the wedding. Bonus content: the story of how Claire's husband ripped his trousers from seam to seam on the dance floor at a friend's wedding.

Main topic: Our deep dive into the bizarrely sexist origins behind some commonplace wedding traditions includes an appeal to let women eat wedding cake without thinking about their reproductive cycles, and our thoughts on garter tosses, writing your own vows, first looks, and ball-and-chain tropes.

Wedding dilemma: A listener writes, “I was enjoying wedding planning at the start, but now I’m feeling a bit frustrated, as my other half just isn’t pulling his weight. I feel like I’m doing all of the organising, he just kind of goes along with everything I suggest and says, ‘That sounds great’, and then I’m left to deal with the suppliers, sort out the deposits, etc. My friends and Mam have all said the same thing, which is that I’m really lucky that he’s so easygoing and I can basically do whatever I want, but I don’t see it that way at all. At the end of the day, it’s not my wedding, it’s our wedding, and I really want him to be invested in it.” This week's advice is a mini masterclass in delegation.

Something to do when you're not planning your wedding: Claire shares one of her current favourite pastimes, nosing around celebrity homes via house tours on the YouTube. Highlights include Zachary Quinto's million-dollar loft via Architectural Digest and Amy Sedaris' magical DIY-heavy apartment via New York Magazine.

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Music by Kevin Macleod

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