Fleshing out your intentions

The Rebel's Guide To Getting Married And Planning A Wedding

I'm not going to lie, writing a book is hard. You get all excited and start writing and eventually you get all those initial words out, and then - in my experience at least - your brain and your fingers disconnect for a moment and you lose the ability to make words out of the thoughts in your head.

Do not fear though, your intrepid writer spent a few days trying to burst through that dam wall between "figuring out why you're having a wedding" and "here's how to get some epic wedding vendors" and I'm hoping this chapter is it.

From here we're going to start down the list of the different categories of wedding vendors, so I'm really looking forward to the hate mail I'm going to get as we open each of those cans of worms.

Before this chapter we were talking about figuring out how people like YOU get married, and also elopements, so if you missed those, clickity click.

Fleshing out your wedding intentions

The next logical extension of figuring out how people like you get married is shaping that vibe and intention into something that resembles the skeleton of a wedding.

Your wedding-creating team, your wedding vendors, will flesh out your intentions and dreams on that skeleton, but we need a starting point.

The head

The head of your wedding is the list of answers we went through before. Your core values, worldviews, and beliefs as a couple. Where are you going as a couple, what are your intentions for your wedding and how would you like it to feel?

The heart

The heart of this whole thing is so much more important than anything else, and it's not even about 'the day'. The heart of your wedding is your marriage and I hope that your marriage is bigger and better than your wedding, that as good as your wedding could be, it's only your best day so far and that your best as a couple is yet to come! In-fact, if it isn't, let's stop and regroup once we realise that it's super weird if your wedding is the best day of your life.

The spine

Much like a human body, the spine is the bit that holds everything else together and basically changes a blob of jelly into a body.

In wedding planning lingo we're talking about the general timeline of your wedding. We're not talking exact times yet, but what part of the day, then how will things look in that day-part?

This is not the complete list, but it's a good starting point of day-parts to choose from.

• Sunrise into breakfast
• Breakfast or brunch through to noon
• Lunch into the early afternoon
• Afternoon into the sunset
• Sunset into the evening
• Night (after sunset)

You'll note I don't mention times off the clock, because time doesn't matter as much as "relative to sunset" for the kind of event you're having.

Think about the difference between meeting a friend over lunch and going camping with a friend and talking around a campfire. Same friendship, two different day-parts, and I bet the campfire goes much deeper and is more intimate.

The most common day-part for a wedding would be sunset into the evening and it's no secret that it doesn't matter where in the world you are, or what time of year it is, it's almost certain that a late afternoon into the evening event is just nice. The temperature is best, the light is beautiful, the sunset colours are beautiful, and then the celebration continues into the night.

But that doesn't exclude the other day-parts from being fun and valid.

I've created sunrise elopements in that amazing just-before-sunset light and the couple of went off for an Eggs Benedict intimate breakfast --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/therebelsguide/message