"The Sex Talk You Never Got" with Sam Jolman

The Something New Show

What does it mean to "Reclaim the Heart of Masculine Sexuality" in a healthy way? In this powerful episode of The Something New Show, host Jordan Linscombe sits down with Sam Jolman, a highly respected therapist specializing in men’s issues, marriage counseling, and sexual abuse recovery. Sam shares profound insights from his 20 years of experience, offering wisdom on the most neglected aspects of men’s lives, healthy sexuality, and healing.

Sam is a Licensed Professional Counselor with a Master of Arts in Counseling. He has also been trained in Narrative Focused Trauma Care through The Allender Center. Sam’s expertise has earned him high praise, including a forward in his book from renowned author John Eldridge, who described Sam as a man he would trust with his friends and sons. Sam, his wife Amanda, and their 3 sons live in beautiful Colorado Springs.
In this episode, Sam & Jordan discuss:

• Contrary to cultural opinion, male sexuality is often misunderstood and neglected. Sam unpacks how cultural narratives have shaped men's views on sexuality and the heart.
• Sam discusses the complexities around if male sexuality is fundamentally broken. He offers fresh perspective on how men can find healing and restore their God-given design.
• Sam speaks to the balance between the mechanics (the physical aspect) and the poetics (the emotional and spiritual connection) of sex.
• An elk hunting trip where Sam expected to be initiated into the warrior spirit, but instead found himself being initiated into the role of the lover—redefining what it means to be a man with heart.
• The key differences between sensuality and sexuality, and how understanding these distinctions can bring deeper meaning to relationships.
• "To Be a Man is to Have Heart": Sam emphasizes the importance of men embracing their hearts, understanding that being a true lover is at the core of their God-given design.
• The difference between awe—an appreciation for beauty and creation—and lust, which objectifies. Sam dives into how men can redirect their desires towards awe and respect.
• Reflecting on the purity culture of the 1990s, Sam shares its unintended consequences and offers a healthier approach to living out one’s sexual integrity.
• The connections between shame, fear, control, and how men can find healing and reclaim their innocence. Sam explains how God’s kindness plays a crucial role in this recovery & healing process.
• Additional insights on how men can reclaim aliveness and innocence in healthy sexuality.
• How you can enter to win a free autographed copy of Sam's latest book, "The Sex Talk You Never Got".

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Connect with Sam Jolman & Get Your Copy of His New Book:
🌐Website & Book: https://www.samjolman.com/
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