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The Anxiety and Non-Monogamy Episode
Manage episode 343578513 series 2965418
We take another dive into discussing common barriers to communication and relationship security with writer Lola Phoenix, who has been navigating this for theirself and others online and IRL for years.
2:00 a lot of common questions
5:00 power dynamics
8:00 on being protective of the community
10:00 what are your biggest challenges with non-monogamy?
14:00 disagreement doesn’t have to be scary
17:00 forgive yourself for being afraid of abandonment
22:00 attention helps us to survive
25:00 I will grow my own life regardless of you
27:00 what is an anchor? A personal reason for doing
32:00 is being primary the most fun?
36:00 we are primed for monogamy
39:00 personal preference is not the rule
42:00 jealousy regarding sleepovers/sex
46:00 i don’t need to hear the details for you to have fun
50:00 red flags vs irrational
53:00 women have to look for threats regularly
56:00 book suggestions
59:00 object impermanance
1:03:00 how to ask for partner support
1:08:00 on hiring a sex worker
36:00 people are encouraged to be monogamous
Find your host on ellestanger.com
Find your host on Twitter.com/ellestanger
Follow your host on Patreon.com/strangebedfellows for just $1 a month
Find our guest at nonmonogamyhelp.com
85 episodes
Manage episode 343578513 series 2965418
We take another dive into discussing common barriers to communication and relationship security with writer Lola Phoenix, who has been navigating this for theirself and others online and IRL for years.
2:00 a lot of common questions
5:00 power dynamics
8:00 on being protective of the community
10:00 what are your biggest challenges with non-monogamy?
14:00 disagreement doesn’t have to be scary
17:00 forgive yourself for being afraid of abandonment
22:00 attention helps us to survive
25:00 I will grow my own life regardless of you
27:00 what is an anchor? A personal reason for doing
32:00 is being primary the most fun?
36:00 we are primed for monogamy
39:00 personal preference is not the rule
42:00 jealousy regarding sleepovers/sex
46:00 i don’t need to hear the details for you to have fun
50:00 red flags vs irrational
53:00 women have to look for threats regularly
56:00 book suggestions
59:00 object impermanance
1:03:00 how to ask for partner support
1:08:00 on hiring a sex worker
36:00 people are encouraged to be monogamous
Find your host on ellestanger.com
Find your host on Twitter.com/ellestanger
Follow your host on Patreon.com/strangebedfellows for just $1 a month
Find our guest at nonmonogamyhelp.com
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