Set up to Fail: Patriarchy's Femininity Trap

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Are women guilty of manipulation and passive-aggressive tendencies? Sure! However, we are here to point out that these tactics are used across the board by women AND men. Moreover, we can't ignore the unfortunate reality that many of us were trained as young children to avoid more direct ways of communicating, so manipulation is often the only tool available to us to get our needs met.
In this episode, we talk about the role of authoritarian religious parenting in conditioning us to use manipulation to get our needs met, the social pressures that further promote manipulation, and the projection that often lurks behind accusations of manipulation. Rather than buying into notions of women as the "weaker sex" and thus more prone to "emotional irrationality," we uncover the power struggle behind these deep-seated sexist ideas to show how they trap women (and men!) in dysfunctional and dissatisfying relationships. We also suggest more healthy alternatives that offer liberation to ourselves and our loved ones.
Relevant Articles and Resources:

• Masculinity might be more toxic than we think: The influence of gender roles on trait emotional manipulation (ScienceDirecrt)
• Too Sweet, Or Too Shrill? The Double Bind For Women (NPR)
• Speak Your Mind, but Not Like That: The Double Bind Theory (Psychology Today)
• What is Religious Authoritarian Parenting? (DL and Krispin Mayfield)
• Projection (Psychology Today)
• 10 Signs of Internalized Sexism and Gaslighting (Psychology Today)
• What You Need to Know About Phobia Indoctrination & Religious Cults
• On Our Best Behavior: The Seven Deadly Sins and the Price Women Pay to be Good (Elise Loehnen)

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Chapters

1. Set up to Fail: Patriarchy's Femininity Trap (00:00:00)

2. Life Updates (00:00:08)

3. Why we're talking about this topic (00:04:54)

4. A double bind for women in conservative communities (00:18:27)

5. Religious Authoritarian Parenting (00:20:15)

6. What else this accusation distracts us from (00:27:31)

7. How should we show up then? (00:38:57)

8. Phobia indoctrination (00:50:39)