Hypnosis for Confidence
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Hello,
I’m Jonathan Garside from The Hypnosis Clinic.
Today, I’d like to talk about self-confidence. Coming across as being a confident person is just as much about how you look as how you feel.
Did you know, that of the communication between people, only about 14% is made up of the actual words that we use, a further 8% is the way in which we use those words and the rest, a whopping 7o something percent is body language.
You’d be amazed about how much your body language tells another person; if you’re lying for example, nervous, sexually interested, so much of what we say isn’t said at all - it’s shown.
Even if you don't feel confident, practicing confident body language can increase your self-esteem and make you feel better about yourself. Here are some more ideas from very well mind.com about how to increase your confidence through body language.
Appear confident by maintaining eye contact in social interactions. Good eye contact shows others that you are interested and comfortable. Look the other person in the eye about 60% of the time. If direct eye contact feels too intimidating, start by looking at a spot close to the person's eyes.
Leaning forward in a conversation indicates interest and attention. While it can be tempting to maintain distance if you are socially anxious, doing so conveys the message that you may be disinterested or aloof.
Stand up straight. Don't slouch! Those with social anxiety tend to try and take up as little space as possible, which can mean sitting slumped over in a protective pose. Straighten your back, pull your shoulders away from your ears, and uncross your arms and legs.
Oh and keep your chin up. Do you look at the ground when you are walking? Is your head always down? Instead, walk with your head up and your eyes looking forward. It might feel unnatural at first, but eventually, you will become used to this more confident pose.
Don't fidget. Fidgeting is an obvious sign of anxiety and nervousness. Appear more confident by keeping fidgeting to a minimum.
Avoid your pockets. Though it can be tempting to shove your hands in your pockets, doing so makes you look more anxious and less confident. Keep your hands out of your pockets to look more self-assured.
Slow your movements. Fast movements make you appear more anxious. Everything from hand gestures to your walking stride can make a difference; slow down and notice how you feel more confident.
Take larger steps. As you slow down, try to take longer strides when you walk. Confident people take larger steps and walk with authority. Doing so will make you feel less anxious.
Watch your hands. Be careful about touching your face or your neck; both are indications that you feel anxious, nervous, or afraid. Confident people don't make these types of movements.
Give a firm handshake. How is your handshake? A weak or limp handshake is an obvious sign of a lack of confidence, so work on making sure that you offer a firm hand when meeting others. After practice, it will come naturally.
So you see, displaying confidence is about how we look as well as how we feel. Our blog has lots of tips about how to be more confident and if you’d like to find out more about Body Language, look out for ‘Body Language’ by Alan Pease - it’s the definitive guide.
To find out more about the work I do helping people to build confidence and self-esteem, make an appointment for a free consultation. You can either come to meet me at our clinic in London’s regent street, or via a Telehealth video call.
I look forward to meeting you soon.
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