Learning to Trust After Having Your Heart Broken: Why You Can't Trust Feelings, Conversations, or Chemistry During the Early Stages of a Relationship

Introvert Attraction ~ Love, Dating, & Relationships

Here are today’s episode highlights!
0:00 | Introduction
0:55 | Introverts are at risk of falling too quickly for someone we feel a strong connection with.
3:05 | You can’t get to *know* someone just by talking to them ~ It creates a false sense of intimacy based on the things they choose to share.
5:00 | How can you learn to trust someone when you’ve been hurt before?
5:30 | The two things we often confuse with trust in the early stages of a relationship: Feelings and perception.
7:10 | True lasting trust is based on your shared *experiences,* NOT your shared feelings or conversations.
8:45 | What does “trust” actually mean? Trust is built over time on the things that people DO, not the words they say. Trust requires a consistent *alignment* between their words and actions.
The ingredients that lead to REAL and meaningful trust: Truth-telling, reliability, following through, and *showing* a consistent alignment between their actions and their words (repeatedly across time).
9:35 | The crucial difference between trusting someone else and trusting yourself.
11:05 | The importance of pacing yourself in the early stages of a relationship ~ Pacing yourself helps you to not get swept away by your feelings before you’ve truly gotten to *know* the other person.
12:30 | For introverts: Having outside perspective and support helps you to stay true to yourself, rather than losing yourself and having your heart broken if things don’t work out.
13:00 | A few questions you can ask yourself to help you reflect on past relationships before you move forward (so you don't accidentally repeat the same mistakes with the next person).
Improving your self-awareness of past relationship patterns allows you to start making changes toward a healthier relationship foundation in the future!
A final note: Please make sure not to beat yourself up if you’ve gone through this experience and had your heart broken. And please try your best not to isolate and instead lean on other people for support: You are not alone!!
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Keep staying strong on your own journey navigating the dating world! You’ve got this!
Can't wait to see you next week!! ~Jillie🌟
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