Best Jillie Leclair Podcasts (2024)

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Bonus Episode: Therapy vs. Coaching: What’s the Difference? How to Know Which Option Is Right for You on Your Relationship Journey 12:31

1+ y ago12:31

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In today's surprise bonus episode, we're exploring the differences between working with a therapist vs. a dating coach. I've received this question several times in the last few weeks, so I created an episode around it that you can reference when needed! Therapy and dating coaching are complementary and can be used together, but each has its own sp…

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Learning to Trust After Having Your Heart Broken: Why You Can't Trust Feelings, Conversations, or Chemistry During the Early Stages of a Relationship 15:02

1+ y ago15:02

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Here are today’s episode highlights! 0:00 | Introduction 0:55 | Introverts are at risk of falling too quickly for someone we feel a strong connection with. 3:05 | You can’t get to *know* someone just by talking to them ~ It creates a false sense of intimacy based on the things they choose to share. 5:00 | How can you learn to trust someone when you…

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Dating Success Story #2: How to Escape the Dreaded Situationship and Attract a Committed Relationship With Someone You're Excited About 14:56

1+ y ago14:56

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Hello introvert fam! I'm dropping a surprise TWO episodes to share dating success stories this week! I love love love celebrating people’s hard work, perseverance, and success with dating! I hope that hearing their stories inspires you on your own dating journey✨ 0:00 | Intro ~ This episode shares the dating success story of Jen, a woman in her ear…

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Dating Success Story #1: How a Single Dad Bounced Back From Divorce and Attracted His Dream Partner in 2 Months! 13:25

1+ y ago13:25

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Hello introvert fam! I'm dropping a surprise TWO episodes to share dating success stories this week! I love love love celebrating people’s hard work, perseverance, and success with dating! I hope that hearing their stories inspires you on your own dating journey✨ 0:00 | Intro ~ This episode shares the dating success story of Patrick, a single dad i…

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Dating Profile Makeover: One Simple Strategy to Magnetize the RIGHT Person TO You (And Repel Away Everyone Else) 15:41

1+ y ago15:41

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Here are the highlights of today's episode: 0:00 | Recap from Episode #1: An effective strategy is the key to online dating success (give it a listen!) 4:00 | The 3 components of your dating profile: 1) Photos, 2) Bio description, 3) Icebreaker messages. A customized dating strategy helps you to stand out and speak directly to your dream partner! 4…

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Does Online Dating Work for Introverts? How to Stand Out From the Crowd and Connect With Your Dream Partner 15:43

1+ y ago15:43

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Here are the highlights of today's episode: 0:00 | Does online dating work for introverts? 3:05 | Online dating is confusing, which creates self-doubt and uncertainty: Are there any good people left out there? Do you have a chance with them? 4:45 | What are you doing wrong? What should you be focusing on? The desire to take action yet being uncerta…

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TWO Big Announcements: Season 3 is starting, and INFJ Growth is expanding!! 3:53

1+ y ago3:53

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Hello everyone!! I'm SO excited to announce Season 3 is starting, AND that we are expanding our community to include introverts of all types!! Whether you're an INFJ or a different type (or even if you don't know what the heck MBTI is!), people in our community all value the same things: Personal growth, relationships, emotional connection, resilie…

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Season 2 Finale ~ Staying True to Ourselves, Our Relationships, and Our Desired Future as INFJs 22:37

2y ago22:37

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It's been an incredible 8 weeks with you all exploring INFJs and romantic relationships. I'm so grateful to everyone asking questions and for all the messages, I love you all so much! I'll be taking a break before Season 3, but please feel free to reach out and connect with me on Instagram or email in the meantime! I haven't decided if I'll choose …

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Q&A Thursday #7 ~ Why It's Hard for INFJs to Walk Away, Loyalty, and Feeling Guilty After Ending a Relationship 34:55

2y ago34:55

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Come join us for our final Q&A Thursday #7! I included timestamps below in case you want to jump back and revisit any of these topics: 0:00 | Introduction 1:22 | Why it's hard for INFJs to be the one to walk away from a relationship; valuing ourselves for loyalty and commitment to our relationships (Lauren) 12:33 | ESTJs and INFJs: Differences in d…

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Breaking Up Is Hard to Do: All About Break-Ups, Boundaries, and the Infamous INFJ Door Slam 49:38

2y ago49:38

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Today's episode explores why break-ups can be so difficult for INFJs. Sometimes break-ups can be drawn out, but other times we'll "door slam" and completely disconnect from our emotions and our partner. Learning to stay strong in ourselves is so important, along with allowing ourselves to grieve what we've lost: Both the loss of the relationship, a…

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Q&A Thursday #6 ~ All About Attachment: Why Avoidant Partners Struggle With Fear of Intimacy, Commitment Phobia, and Control the Progression of the Relationship 41:23

2y ago41:23

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Come join us for Q&A Thursday #6! I included timestamps below in case you want to jump back and revisit any of these topics: 0:00 | Introduction 0:40 | The reasons why people with anxious attachment often end up in relationships with avoidant partners; why avoidant partners pull away in relationships and struggle with intimacy (Monique) 13:33 | Why…

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Learning to Balance Our Expectations With Staying Present in the Moment 22:25

2y ago22:25

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Today's episode explores why INFJs have difficulty with expectations in our relationships. Our Ni (introverted intuition) naturally looks to the future, and we often have an idealistic vision of how we believe our relationships should be. This can be a strength of INFJs, but it can also lead to us putting unhealthy pressure on ourselves and other p…

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Q&A Thursday #5 ~ Avoidant Partners, Lopsided Relationships, Physical Intimacy, and Long-Distance Difficulties 59:13

2y ago59:13

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Come join us for Q&A Thursday #5! I included timestamps below in case you want to jump back and revisit any of these topics: 0:00 | Introduction 0:50 | Moving from anxious attachment into secure attachment: Recognizing triggers, labeling feelings, thoughts, and beliefs; communicating with our partner when anxiety flares up, and the importance of ou…

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Anxious Attachment: Why INFJs Fear Abandonment and Feel Stuck in Relationships With Emotionally Unavailable People 45:12

2y ago45:12

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Today we are discussing attachment styles. Attachment styles are the different ways that we relate to and connect with our partner in romantic relationships. There are 4 attachment styles: Secure (low anxiety, low avoidance): You are comfortable with emotional intimacy, and you feel connected with your partner. You don't feel overly anxious, nor do…

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Q&A Thursday #4 ~ Handling Defensive Partners, Speaking Our Partner’s Language, and Staying Out of the “Friend-Zone” While Dating 50:03

2y ago50:03

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Come join us for Q&A Thursday #4! I included timestamps below in case you want to jump back and revisit any of these topics: 0:00 | Introduction 0:33 | Exploring Ti decision-making, love and appreciation languages for T types vs. F types, learning to speak your partner's language (Katrina) 6:45 | Ti types value independence and resist outside influ…

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Emotional Safety, Attachment Needs, and Staying Connected to Our Partner During Disagreements and Relationship Challenges 32:57

2y ago32:57

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Today we are discussing attachment needs in relationships. There are many types of attachment needs, but a few important needs include: Emotional and physical safety, feeling validated and valued by your partner, feeling accepted, emotional connection and intimacy, vulnerability, empathy, mutual trust and respect, and relational repair. Some of the…

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Q&A Thursday #3 ~ Rebuilding Trust, Compassionate Boundaries (Without Manipulation), Breaking Free From Ni-Ti Loop, and Online Dating for Introverts 48:37

2y ago48:37

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Come join us for Q&A Thursday #3! I included timestamps below in case you want to jump back and revisit any of these topics: 0:00 | Introduction 1:52 | Learning to trust again after being hurt in the past, opening up and being vulnerable while dating someone new (Teresa) 12:21 | Fe development in long-term relationships: Setting boundaries around n…

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Romantic Relationships: How INFJs Can Connect With Our Partner While Embracing Our Unique (And Separate) Self 30:04

2y ago30:04

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Today we are exploring our romantic partner: the second pillar of building healthy, connected relationships. INFJs can sometimes experience blurred boundaries and confusion between our own identity and the identity of our romantic partner. It is important that each person is separate and feels whole, so that healthy connection can develop without t…

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Q&A Thursday #2 ~ Intense Attraction, Codependence, Text Messages, and Trust Issues 1:06:02

2y ago1:06:02

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Come join us for Q&A Thursday #2! I included timestamps below in case you want to jump back and revisit any of these topics: 0:00 | Introduction 2:46 | Taking care of our partners emotionally, exploring signs of codependence vs. interdependence (Tina, Samantha) 12:02 | How to handle feelings of intense attraction while dating or in early relationsh…

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The Building Blocks of Connected Relationships: How INFJs Can Discover Our Deepest Needs, Wants, and Desires 56:55

2y ago56:55

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Today we are diving into self-discovery: the first pillar of building healthy, connected relationships. As INFJs we often are so focused on emotionally caring for our partner that we forget about our own needs! We also sometimes minimize or downplay our needs because we fear being rejected, feeling like a burden, or being perceived as needy. INFJs …

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Q&A Thursday #1 ~ MBTI Type Compatibility, Dating Anxiety, and Letting Go of the Need to “Fix” Ourselves 43:42

2y ago43:42

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Today is our first Q&A Thursday! I included timestamps below in case you want to jump back and revisit any of these topics: 0:00 | Introduction 2:16 | MBTI type compatibility: INFJ & ISTP; Jillie's thoughts about type compatibility (Sarah) 10:19 | Dating anxiety, overanalyzing in early relationships (Ashlyn) 16:35 | Letting go of the need to "fix" …

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Romantic Relationships: How INFJs Can Overcome Our Challenges and Learn How to Build Deeply Connected Relationships With Confidence 34:52

2y ago34:52

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We are kicking off Season 2 today, and it's all about romantic relationships! As INFJs we greatly value our relationships, particularly with a romantic partner. We often prioritize meaningful connection and depth in our relationships, and we have high expectations of ourselves and our partners. However, the nature of being an INFJ comes with some u…

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Season 2 Announcement ~ Introducing Q&A Thursdays! 2:29

2y ago2:29

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Hello everyone! Season 2 starts on Monday, August 15th, whoo hoo! Season 2 is all about romantic relationships! I've received the most questions about INFJs and relationships, so we're taking a relationship deep dive during Season 2 (and I'm SO excited!!) We'll continue having episodes on Monday and Thursday, with a small change: Monday's episode w…

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A Deep Dive Into INFJ Boundaries: Learning How to Stand Up to People Without Feeling Guilty or Worrying What They Think About You 46:06

2y ago46:06

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Today's episode is all about boundaries! For the longest time I believed that boundaries are meant to be walls: Impenetrable fortresses that protect us from being hurt by other people. I've since learned that boundaries are actually quite a bit more complicated! Boundaries are tools that allow us to balance taking care of ourselves with our natural…

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The INFJ Journey of Self-Discovery and Learning How to Value Ourselves (Outside of Making Other People Happy) 28:44

2y ago28:44

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INFJs often experience hardship or trauma early in life, and it can shape our identity as we grow up. We're often taught that our value as a person lies in our ability to take care of people, and to make other people happy. This can lead to people pleasing, prioritizing other people over ourselves, and neglecting our own needs. Over time we can beg…

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What Happens After Hitting Rock Bottom? Why Life Suddenly Seems Harder After Getting Unstuck 14:38

2y ago14:38

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Personal growth takes us on a journey of ups, downs, and everything in between. For a long time I believed that “hitting rock bottom” was the hardest thing we can experience in life… but I’ve realized that sometimes it’s even scarier once we‘ve made a little forward progress and realize how much we were struggling at our lowest point. I wanted to s…

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Why INFJs Can Feel Like a Whirlwind Moving a Million Miles an Hour in the Outside World 23:32

2y ago23:32

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During times of prolonged stress, INFJs can be taken over by our inferior function extraverted sensing (Se). These episodes of “Se grip” can cause us to feel like a different person, moving a million miles an hour and unable to slow down. Se grip can also occur suddenly after a long period of Ni-Ti loop, when our brain delivers a “jolt” psychologic…

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Why INFJs Can Feel Overwhelmed and Exhausted When Interacting With the World Around Us 21:28

2y ago21:28

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There are many different things in our external environment that can make us feel overstimulated and drain our energy: Interacting with other people, tackling challenging cognitive tasks, and handling unexpected stressful situations, among many others! These types of stimuli are processed through our extraverted sensing (Se). As our inferior functi…

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Why INFJs Can Feel Overly Sensitive to the Words of Other People (And What We Can Do About It) 25:45

2y ago25:45

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INFJs can struggle with taking people's words personally, especially if the person says something hurtful or critical. We naturally use our inferior extraverted sensing (Se) to absorb external information, then we internalize and "read into" the underlying meaning with our dominant introverted intuition (Ni). This can lead to us misinterpreting wha…

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Why INFJs Can Self-Sabotage Our Closest Relationships When Our Emotional Needs Aren't Being Met 21:35

2y ago21:35

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INFJs highly value emotional connection and depth with our close relationships. We naturally invest a lot of energy into nurturing intimacy with our partners and people close to us, so we can struggle with navigating relationships when we don't receive that same effort back in return. INFJs are especially at risk of this happening when we are in a …

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Ni-Ti Loop and Relationships- Why INFJs Struggle With Over-Analyzing Feelings and Getting Stuck in Our Heads 20:45

2y ago20:45

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INFJs often struggle with over-analyzing and getting stuck in our heads, especially with our close relationships. When we are unable to use our healthy Fe (extraverted feeling) decision-making function, we are left to analyze and attempt to make decisions with our Ti (introverted thinking) function. INFJs naturally seek emotional closure in our rel…

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We Need to Stop Explaining Ourselves 17:38

2y ago17:38

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INFJs often feel like outsiders, especially in a world that greatly values concrete measurable logic over intangible intuition. If we're not careful, we can fall into the habit of believing that we need to explain our every decision in order for our opinions to be valued by other people. This is especially true if our partners are ST or NT types, b…

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Why It's So Important for INFJs to Have Future Goals 13:40

2y ago13:40

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In this episode we explore why INFJs thrive with external goals, and why our NJ functions have the potential for us to be incredibly powerful at working toward and achieving our goals. INFJs feel deeply connected to our purpose when we are actively making progress toward our goals and serving others, and when we can see evidence of our own growth a…

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Exploring the Four Functions in the INFJ Cognitive Stack 25:47

2y ago25:47

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Come join me as we take a deep dive into the four functions in the INFJ cognitive stack! Understanding our introverted and extraverted functions helps to raise our awareness, so we can maintain psychological balance between our internal and external worlds. Here are the INFJ cognitive functions we're exploring in this episode: Ni = Introverted iNtu…

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What Do the Letters in an MBTI Type Actually Mean? 21:13

2y ago21:13

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Today we're exploring the different letters of MBTI personality types! These letters indicate different ways that we collect information from the outside world, and how we make decisions and navigate the world around us. Extraversion vs. Introversion ~ E /I Sensing vs. iNtuition ~ S/N Thinking vs. Feeling ~ T/F Judging vs. Perceiving ~ J/P INFJs ha…

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Getting to Know Our True Selves as INFJs 20:40

2y ago20:40

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Today we're diving deep into the world of Cognitive Function Theory! Personality types are not meant to stick you into a boring generic box. Learning how your brain processes information is the first step to understanding yourself, so you can start making the changes you desire in every area of your life! ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Free Resour…

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