A Deep Dive Into INFJ Boundaries: Learning How to Stand Up to People Without Feeling Guilty or Worrying What They Think About You

Introvert Attraction ~ Love, Dating, & Relationships

Today's episode is all about boundaries! For the longest time I believed that boundaries are meant to be walls: Impenetrable fortresses that protect us from being hurt by other people. I've since learned that boundaries are actually quite a bit more complicated!
Boundaries are tools that allow us to balance taking care of ourselves with our natural empathy and desire to care for others. Boundaries are meant to help us define and create separation between ourselves and other people.
INFJs can struggle with differentiating ourselves from others due to our extraverted feeling (Fe) auxiliary function. We are closely connected to the feelings of other people, yet we are much less aware of our own feelings. Therefore, it makes sense that we struggle to differentiate and separate our own feelings from the feelings of other people.
INFJs often struggle with setting boundaries due to our own feelings of guilt, and worrying that we are upsetting other people or letting them down when we need to reinforce a boundary. Learning the skill of "distress tolerance" helps us to strengthen our ability to cope with our feelings of guilt and fear as we practice setting and reinforcing boundaries with others.
This episode is a deep dive into how INFJs can start practicing these skills, and in doing so, also begin learning how to value ourselves and treat ourselves with the same respect, compassion, and empathy that we readily offer to others.

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