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Why INFJs Can Feel Overly Sensitive to the Words of Other People (And What We Can Do About It)
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INFJs can struggle with taking people's words personally, especially if the person says something hurtful or critical.
We naturally use our inferior extraverted sensing (Se) to absorb external information, then we internalize and "read into" the underlying meaning with our dominant introverted intuition (Ni).
This can lead to us misinterpreting what people actually meant, or even worse: Judging ourselves and allowing our self-worth to be determined by the words of other people.
But there's good news: We have more control than we realize! What I love about MBTI is that it gives us a cognitive function toolkit. We have the power to choose which perceiving function we would like to use in any given situation: Ni or Se.
Mindfully choosing to use Se rather than Ni allows us to stay present and connected to the other person in our conversations, rather than being swept away by our own internal thoughts and emotions.
We also discuss how important it is for us to have a sense of humor in our relationships! We can learn to let go of people's comments and opinions about us by using what I call "Se buffers" ~ Humor, physical exercise, outdoor activity, music, social interactions, or enjoyable hobbies can all be used to create space in our lives.
Se buffers are powerful tools to ensure that people's opinions do not integrate into our self-image or our inherent value as a person.
I'd love to hear if other INFJs have specific habits or techniques to buffer the words and opinions of other people!
Follow me on Instagram and shoot me a message with your thoughts on this episode, or let me know if you have any topics you'd like me to explore on a future episode!
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Free Resources:
Download your free Dating Profile 3 Step Magic Formula guide
Apply for Attraction Magic ~ 1:1 Dating Coaching with Jillie
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Let's Connect:
Instagram: introvertattraction
Email: jillie@introvertattraction.com
37 episodes
Archived series ("Inactive feed" status)
When? This feed was archived on July 22, 2024 12:39 (). Last successful fetch was on June 20, 2024 12:35 ()
Why? Inactive feed status. Our servers were unable to retrieve a valid podcast feed for a sustained period.
What now? You might be able to find a more up-to-date version using the search function. This series will no longer be checked for updates. If you believe this to be in error, please check if the publisher's feed link below is valid and contact support to request the feed be restored or if you have any other concerns about this.
Manage episode 334105384 series 3363780
INFJs can struggle with taking people's words personally, especially if the person says something hurtful or critical.
We naturally use our inferior extraverted sensing (Se) to absorb external information, then we internalize and "read into" the underlying meaning with our dominant introverted intuition (Ni).
This can lead to us misinterpreting what people actually meant, or even worse: Judging ourselves and allowing our self-worth to be determined by the words of other people.
But there's good news: We have more control than we realize! What I love about MBTI is that it gives us a cognitive function toolkit. We have the power to choose which perceiving function we would like to use in any given situation: Ni or Se.
Mindfully choosing to use Se rather than Ni allows us to stay present and connected to the other person in our conversations, rather than being swept away by our own internal thoughts and emotions.
We also discuss how important it is for us to have a sense of humor in our relationships! We can learn to let go of people's comments and opinions about us by using what I call "Se buffers" ~ Humor, physical exercise, outdoor activity, music, social interactions, or enjoyable hobbies can all be used to create space in our lives.
Se buffers are powerful tools to ensure that people's opinions do not integrate into our self-image or our inherent value as a person.
I'd love to hear if other INFJs have specific habits or techniques to buffer the words and opinions of other people!
Follow me on Instagram and shoot me a message with your thoughts on this episode, or let me know if you have any topics you'd like me to explore on a future episode!
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Free Resources:
Download your free Dating Profile 3 Step Magic Formula guide
Apply for Attraction Magic ~ 1:1 Dating Coaching with Jillie
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Let's Connect:
Instagram: introvertattraction
Email: jillie@introvertattraction.com
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