Episode 52: 2024 The Year of the King?

I Can't Fux With You! Confessions of An Uppity Black Woman

The sh*t we not fuxing with today is the word "king," and to be clear, we not fuxing with the traditional use of the word "king" as it relates to how Uppity Black Women and Black Men relationship. We have not talked about the celebrities in a bit, but this conversation was spurred by a recent Instagram commentary on Stedman Graham of THE Oprah and Stedman pairing. The words applied to describe Mr. Graham are "confident masculinity." Specifically, a Black Man who does not cower at the bright light of Oprah. He is so settled in his masculinity that Oprah's bigness does not threaten him (nor should it, his lane is not her lane and vice versa). Now, let's compare that to recent viral fodder involving Simon Biles' husband (and that's all he gets in this summary, Simone Biles' husband because I never can remember that n*ggas name, Owens something??). When asked recently about how they met, Simon Biles' husband claim to not know who Simon Biles was. Like, he tried to get us to believe he.did.not.know.who.the.G.O.A.T.was. Oh n*gga please, n*gga please. This to me was a good example of a dude who thinks he is a king (and demands to be treated as such) and displays his "king" nature by displaying cowardly masculinity, a masculinty that dismisses this phenomenal Black Woman (like wasn't Sis on a box of Wheaties??). As Black people we have been complicit in the use of the word king as expressed by Simon Biles' husband. Thus the word often grates me when I hear Black Men want to be referred to as such, when they do not display King behavior, Stedman behavior. Our dedication to the Simon Biles' husband way, one rooted in the imperialism of patriarchy (that one is from the Queen), and not loving kindness and respect, unfortunately has permeated the Black Collective causing true damage to how Black Men and Black Women relationship. True Kings do exist, and Uppity Black Women, we should all honestly assess whether we are complicit in assisting in disseminating (and being complacent with) the sexist model of the "king" in our day-to-day operations.
REFERENCES IN TODAYS EPISODE

• Goddess Qetesh - Goddess of Sacred Lust
• Oprah Winfrey and Stedman Graham's Complete Relationship Timeline
• Olympic gold medalist Simone Biles' husband Jonathan Owens says he's 'the catch' in their relationship. Her fans disagree.
• Wheaties Century Collection Gold Box #3: Simone Biles
• bell hooks, Ain't I A Woman: black women and feminism: The Imperialism of Patriarchy
• Married Black Men’s Opinions as to Why Black Women Are Disproportionately Single: A Qualitative Study

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