302: 'I ask for stories about the sex that changed you.' (ft. Carly, creator of Aurore)

Dear Men: How to Rock Sex, Dating, and Relationships With Women

What if you could read about the sex that affected someone so profoundly they were never the same? What if you wrote about the sex that changed you in that way?

If you're turned on by audio porn, ASMR, or sexy stories (either reading them or them being read to you), you're not alone. While we seem to be fixated on men being obsessed with visual porn, according to research nearly one in three listeners of erotic audiobooks are men. According to another poll, men now account for 18% of romance readers.

This is a good thing for several reasons, including the fact that so much romance is written by women. If you're a man who's attracted to women and want to know what gets them hot, reading or listening to erotica makes a lot of sense! Bonus: It's likely to get you going as well.

Here I interview Carly, creator of Aurore, a collection of literary erotica. The twist? All the tales are true. In Carly's words, "These are stories mostly written by women about what turns them on and what gets them off."

Intrigued? Listen on.

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Memorable quotes from this episode:

• “In each city in Europe, I decided to go on Tinder and interview people about sex.”
• “I wanted him, but first I had to leave the marriage that I was languishing in, bored and ignored.”
• “Even though I loved reading erotica, I was turned off by the aspects that weren’t relatable.”
• “We women were having interesting sex, and were profoundly affected by a lot of the relationships we had.”
• “Write your own story; that’s the only one you can truly tell.”
• “I find that writing this kind of real erotica is a lot like therapy.”

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Mentioned on this episode:

• Aurore: readaurore.com