Healthy Friendships - Relationships

Ascend Men

Whilst researching and preparing this series on Relationships, Josh Campbell preached at the C3 Church Cambridge on 22nd April talking about “Courageous Friendships”. As a result, I added-in “Healthy Friendships” to our schedule. Why? Because healthy friendships are fundamental to being single, dating, marrying.

So welcome to the podcast, Pastor Josh Campbell.

Josh referred to two c.1hr sermons delivered Levi Lusko which were “The secret to making friends” and “You need friends”.

Statistics to put a male orientation on loneliness:

MALE LONELINESS
According to a recent YouGov poll in the UK:

• 18% men (1-in-5), don’t have a single close friend
• 1 in 3 men (32%) don’t have a best friend
• For women the figures are 12% and 24% so potentially less severe
• The main difference is that men struggle to talk about their loneliness than women, which has the effect of making them even more isolated

MALE SUICIDE
Samaritans' interpretation of the ONS 2022 data for England:

• Overall suicide rate of 10.5 per 100,000 (same as 2021)
• Male suicide rate was 3x that for women i.e. 16.1 per 100,000 compared to a female rate of 5.3 per 100,000
• The highest suicide rate is in males aged 50-54 (23.1 per 100,000)
• Much ascribed to men’s inability to talk about their loneliness

If you know somebody who is rock-bottom and there is any thought they might want to end their life, ask them if they’re considering suicide. Asking the question can ONLY help. It will never give somebody an idea of taking that action. Don’t put it off. Who’d want to be too late? Want to talk more? Contact Alan Colley via Facebook or email ([e-mail]).

THREE key points from Josh's sermon:

1 - Keep an open heart (in terms of the impact of others' friendship with you and yours to them)

2 - Stay humble (nobody wants a know-it-all, arrogant, proud mate)

3 - Don’t be a coward (have those difficult conversations even if they risk the relationship)

Secular groups that are aimed to help with loneliness and men's mental health:

• Men’s sheds https://menssheds.org.uk (a few around Cambridge)
• Andy’s Man Club https://andysmanclub.co.uk (Cambridge AMC led by one of our Ascend brothers)

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