Best Scarlett Tandy Podcasts (2024)

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238. How to Love Your Husband Well in a Blended Family (Summer Book Series) 1:01:47

10d ago1:01:47

1:01:47

As Randall and I have been moving in and out of this empty-nester season, we have found it hard to prioritize each other. When we don't prioritize each other, the enemy can and will use it to cause division. I don't know about you, but I do not want a roommate for a husband, where we barely get to see each other much less have intimate conversation…

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237. Parenting Adult Kids in a Blended Family and Life Update 49:51

15d ago49:51

49:51

This episode is really all about our current struggles. I thought I would share them with you because you might be walking through this season now or in the future. Even everyday life issues affect us differently in a blended family. We just want you to know, you are not alone! We want you to have your best Summer yet with your blended family this …

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236. Prioritizing Your Blended Family (Part 5 of 5) 56:01

1M ago56:01

56:01

We want you to have your best Summer yet with your blended family this year, whether with your whole family or strengthening the relationships you can access. We know how it feels to be cut off from those you love. The good news is that we created something to help. We took what helped us connect and reconnect with each other and our kids and creat…

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235. The Blended Family Bucket List (Part 4 of 5) 30:58

1M ago30:58

30:58

235. The Blended Family Bucket List (Part 4 of 5) We want you to have your best Summer yet with your blended family this year, whether with your whole family or strengthening the relationships you can access. We know how it feels to be cut off from those you love. The good news is that we created something to help. We took what helped us connect an…

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234. The Family Hangout Your Stepfamily Needs (Part 3 of 5) 48:40

2M ago48:40

48:40

We want you to have your best Summer with your blended family this year, whether with your whole family or strengthening the relationships you can access. We know how it feels to be cut off from those you love. The good news is that we created something to help. We took what helped us connect and reconnect with each other and our kids and made the …

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233. Find Your Couple's Common Interest in Your Stepfamily (Part 2 of 5) 38:49

2M ago38:49

38:49

We want you to have your best Summer yet with your blended family this year, whether with your whole family or strengthening the relationships you can access. We know how it feels to be cut off from those you love. The good news is that we created something to help. We took what helped us connect and reconnect with each other and our kids and creat…

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232. Exploring Common Interest in Your Stepfamily | Part 1 of 5 37:11

2M ago37:11

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232. Exploring Common Interest in Your Stepfamily | Part 1 of 5 We want you to have your best Summer yet with your blended family this year, whether with your whole family or strengthening the relationships you can access. We know how it feels to be cut off from those you love. The good news is that we created something to help. We took what helped…

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231. How to Enjoy Your Blended Family (Prep Work) 29:17

2M ago29:17

29:17

We want you to have your best Summer yet with your blended family this year, whether that be with your whole family or strengthening the relationships you have access to. We know how it feels to be cut off from those you love. Over the next 5 weeks, we will post the videos that come straight from the E.N.J.O.Y the Journey Ultimate Guide which goes …

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230. Your Thoughts Can Destroy Your Stepfamily 1:12:56

2M ago1:12:56

1:12:56

I found some old videos from a challenge I did with a group of ladies in 2020 about taking our thoughts captive. This concept changed my life. The information is so valuable, that I wanted to share it with you. It’s set up as a 5-day challenge so feel free to listen to it day-by-day or all at once. The key is putting these things to use. Day 1: Tak…

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229. Best Advice to a Single or Alienated Mom 1:00:38

3M ago1:00:38

1:00:38

In this episode, I am sharing my best advice to a single mom or an alienated mom (someone who doesn't have contact with their children). If you are in this season of life you are not alone. Honestly, if you are an empty nester or struggling mom, this could help you too. EPISODE RESOURCES: If you're tired of waiting for your "STEP" family to "BLEND"…

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228. Jumpstart Your Relationship With Your Stepchild | Stepdaughter Chronicles 59:01

3M ago59:01

59:01

Do you desire a relationship with your stepchild but don't know how or where to start? Maybe you have been rejected in the past and stopped trying. Even if your stepchild has nothing to do with you, check this out. Who knows maybe it's just what you need to turn things around. If you're tired of waiting for your "STEP" family to "BLEND" try this...…

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227. Manipulation and Misunderstanding With Your Stepchild| Stepdaughter Chronicles 1:09:29

3M ago1:09:29

1:09:29

Is your stepchild being manipulative causing drama and division in your stepfamily, is it a misunderstanding, or is your child just hurting? In this episode, I will talk with my stepdaughter about her perspective. EPISODE RESOURCES: If you're tired of waiting for your "STEP" family to "BLEND" try this… STEPFAMILY JUMPSTART: WAYS TO CONNECT INSTANTL…

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226. Inside the Mind of Our Children on Transition Day | Stepdaughter Chronicles 54:59

3M ago54:59

54:59

Transition Day is rough in a stepfamily. Many different factors cause that. Today I'm talking with my stepdaughter who is now 25 about her thoughts and feelings when she was transitioning from house to house as a child. We might not have all the "right" answers, but we hope it stirs up conversations in your house. If you're tired of waiting for you…

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225: How Our Mood Swings Affect Our (Step) Mother/Daughter Relationships 1:19:17

4M ago1:19:17

1:19:17

Today Ryleigh (stepdaughter) and Scarlett (Stepmom) talk about menstrual cycles and how they affect mood, which puts a strain on their relationships. This was a hard conversation to have, because PMDD has taken Ryleigh down some dark roads, but we have seen God show up every time. Follow Ryleigh and her musical journey on YouTube https://www.youtub…

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224: Ways to Help Your Stepdaughter During Different Seasons of Blending | Stepdaughter Chronicles 51:13

4M ago51:13

51:13

I have been getting messages lately from stepmoms asking how they can better support their stepdaughter during different seasons of life. Ironically Ryleigh (my stepdaughter) wrote a song about our stepmother/stepdaughter journey. I immediately asked her if we could discuss it on a podcast and if she would sing the song for you. In this episode we …

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223: How it Makes You Feel When Your Parents Talk Crap About Each Other, Stepdaughter Chronicles 40:08

4M ago40:08

40:08

My stepdaughter has been in my life for 16 years. In the very beginning, our relationship was sweet. Then she quickly realized she wanted a life with just her and her dad and that didn't involve me. I tried my best to be who and what I thought she needed but it wasn't ever enough. It actually had the opposite effect. Today our relationship is great…

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222: What to Expect When You Weren’t Expecting With Jyl Barlow 1:03:13

5M ago1:03:13

1:03:13

222: What to Expect When You Weren’t Expecting With Jyl Barlow One of my least favorite stepfamily comments is, “Well you knew what you were signing up for.” That’s like telling a new mom or dad, well you knew parenting was going to be hard so I don’t want to hear you complain about it. In both situations, you do not know what to expect until you a…

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221: How to Find Rest in Your Stepfamily with Jen Debrot 29:18

5M ago29:18

29:18

If you are anything like me, and a lot of you are, I struggle to find rest. I get passionate about my work, I love to serve others, and then of course family things. Between all of that, I become overwhelmed and exhausted. Did you know that God commands us to rest? This is something many people in our culture now stopped practicing. I loved Jen’s p…

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220: Sharing Equal Custody Doesn’t Make You a Bad Mom with Jen Debrot 49:00

5M ago49:00

49:00

220: Sharing Equal Custody Doesn’t Make You a Bad Mom For so long I thought “GOOD MOMS” have full custody of their kids and anything less meant something was wrong. In today’s episode, I talked to Jen Debrot about her approach to sharing custody. Follow Jen at Jen Debrot on Instagram Check out Jen Debrot: Our Blended Journey If you're tired of wait…

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219: 14 Ways to Connect With Your Spouse 44:33

5M ago44:33

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219: 14 Ways to Connect With Your Spouse In today’s episode Jamee from Make It a Date shares 14 practical, low to no cost ideas to connect. Don’t let another year go by without prioritizing your marriage. Your blended family needs you to have a happy, healthy marriage! Follow Jamee at Make It a Date on Instagram Check out Make It a Date Ideas on Et…

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218: What To Do When Your Spouse Comes Out the Closet Special Guest: Jessica Frew 53:20

6M ago53:20

53:20

In today’s episode, we discuss a topic that most stepfamilies have not experienced, but I know several of you who are and I wanted to pull back the curtain of this forbidden topic and bring you and your family some hope. I brought in the co-host of the Husband-in-Law Podcast, Jessica Frew to talk about her blended family story and how she and her f…

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217: Help Your Kid Communicate With You and Your Coparent 43:37

6M ago43:37

43:37

Teaching our kids emotional intelligence will benefit them for the rest of their lives in all their relationships. I love finding and sharing tools that will help your stepfamily blend smoothly. In this episode, I talked with Fiona Kong about this simple tool she used to help her young son express his feelings each day while living in 2 homes! This…

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216. My Kids Went to Live With Their Other Parent, Now What? 35:41

6M ago35:41

35:41

Lately, we have had lots of people join our B. Fam community who are walking through the same storm we went through. Each of our kids went to live with their other parents when they became teens against our better judgment. This was a heartbreaking and devastating season for our family. As hard as it was though it taught us all a lot about ourselve…

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215: What to do When Your Kids Want to Live With Their Other Parent. 33:24

6M ago33:24

33:24

Lately, we have had lots of people join our B. Fam community who are walking through the same storm we went through. Each of our kids went to live with their other parents when they became teens against our better judgment. This was a heartbreaking and devastating season for our family. As hard as it was though, it taught us all a lot about ourselv…

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214: How to Avoid Holiday Burnout in Your Stepfamily 48:30

7M ago48:30

48:30

214: How to Avoid Holiday Burnout in Your Stepfamily Does anyone else love Christmas as much as we do? I get sad every year when it comes and goes because I don’t feel like I truly enjoyed it due to all the running around and stress that also showed up uninvited. I teamed up with Ginger from The Family Core and Brittney from Blending Bravely to tal…

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213. Christmas Light Scavenger Hunt (REPOST) 23:56

7M ago23:56

23:56

This is a repost of one of my favorite Christmas traditions. Is looking at Christmas lights a tradition for your family every year? If it’s not then it could be a really fun way to hang out with your family. If it is your thing already, we also share some cool ways you can add to the fun and make it an adventure. A few ways we share in this episode…

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212: Thinking About Raising a Stepfamily in Two Different States with Joslynn Flowers of Daily Stepmom 49:56

7M ago49:56

49:56

212: Thinking About Raising a Stepfamily in Two Different States | Joslynn Flowers of Daily Stepmom All stepfamilies have their unique things that make up their family dynamics and add to the ease or difficulty of the blend. In this episode, our friend Joslynn from The Daily Stepmom shares her desire to raise her kids in an environment different th…

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211: Hey Stepmom, They’re Not Your Kids with guest Nacho Kid’s Lori and David 49:27

8M ago49:27

49:27

211: Hey Stepmom, They’re Not Your Kids with guest Nacho Kid’s Lori and David Are you fed up with your stepkids or with people telling you they’re not your kids, yet you are doing all the mom things for them. This episode is for you. We talk with Lori and David from Nacho Kids Academy about the right and wrong way to disengage and engage with your …

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210: Parental Alienation: A Stepfamily Nightmare with Guest Lisa Goodpaster 49:14

8M ago49:14

49:14

If you have ever been on the receiving end of parental alienation, you know what I mean when I say it’s a nightmare. In this episode, Lisa Goodpaster shares her story of being a child of parental alienation. You can find her whole story in her book, Alienated When Parents Won’t Parent. Today we discuss the damage it does to the child, early signs t…

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209: Social Media Stalking the Ex (Special Guest: Raising His Kids) 47:06

8M ago47:06

47:06

This episode deals with a bad habit many of us have been guilty of ourselves or have been on the receiving end of. Stalking the ex or their significant other is not beneficial to us, but we do it anyway. There are many different reasons why people stalk their ex online, and in this episode, I discuss those reasons with Toni and Lauren from Raising …

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208: God’s Redemption in Your Blended Family (Ch. 10 Blended and Redeemed) 55:10

8M ago55:10

55:10

As we wrap up this book study, our prayer is that you have found hope for your blended family. Every chapter has been filled with information that has the potential to change the future of your blended family if you are willing to utilize it. Today’s chapter points you to the one that can truly bring healing and lasting change to your family and th…

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207: Tips for Taking Your Ex to Court (Ch. 9 Blended and Redeemed) 41:25

9M ago41:25

41:25

I can’t speak for everyone, but I would say the majority of people who have experienced divorce do not want to spend their time or money in court. Although we understand there are occasions when it is necessary. Most of the time, fear or pride, back us into a corner and we feel like court is the only way out. In this episode, I talk with the co-aut…

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206: Long Term Effects of Divorce from a Child’s Perspective 1:03:17

9M ago1:03:17

1:03:17

Have you ever wondered what kind of effects your divorce will have on your children or even grandchildren? Check out this week’s episode as I discuss with Ryleigh Tandy (my 24-year-old Stepdaughter) about the men she has watched walk out of her life and how that created her perspective on marriage now. She even sings us her new song “Wait” which is…

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205: Pitfalls of Child Manipulation and Parent Alienation (Chapter 8: Blended and Redeemed) 1:10:35

9M ago1:10:35

1:10:35

205: Pitfalls of Child Manipulation and Parent Alienation (Chapter 8: Blended and Redeemed) This episode had me (Scarlett) reflecting and asking my grown kids questions about their upbringing. In chapter 8 of Blended and Redeemed, Scott and Vanessa share very practical tips to help your kids feel like they are "home" with both parents. We discuss t…

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204: Coparenting Complications (Chapter 7: Blended and Redeemed) 1:07:44

9M ago1:07:44

1:07:44

One of the biggest complaints in a stepfamily is (co)parenting. Whether it be trying to parent with your new spouse and that automatic protective mode we find ourselves in when it comes to someone telling our child what to do. Or the frustration of trying to parent with someone you once loved, but now can’t seem to agree on anything. We end the epi…

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203. Blending Our Bunch (Ch. 6 Blended and Redeemed) 1:06:36

10M ago1:06:36

1:06:36

This week talk about our favorite stepfamily topic and that is putting FUN in dysfunction! Whether you choose to be intentional in creating a relationship with your stepchildren or not, you ARE creating a relationship. What you do from the very beginning lets your stepchild know you care and want them in your life. Even if your stepchild pushes you…

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202: 4 Steps to Breaking Up with Inner Vows After Divorce (Chapter 5: Blended and Redeemed) 58:47

10M ago58:47

58:47

After your divorce, have you ever said to someone else or to yourself? I will never allow this to happen to me again. I will never allow anything bad to happen to my children. I will never allow anyone close to me again. I will never forgive him/her for breaking up our family. These are inner vows we make to protect ourselves, but in doing so we ar…

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201: 6 Steps for a Marriage Reflecting God (Ch. 4 Blended and Redeemed) 1:06:00

10M ago1:06:00

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You’ve probably heard us or someone at some point say to make God the center of your marriage, but what does that even mean? In this episode, Randall and I go over 6 steps for a marriage reflecting God found in the Blended and Redeemed Book we have been reading. We are currently using Blended Kingdom Families Book Blended and Redeemed as our online…

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200: Who Comes First in a Stepfamily with Ginger & Heidi 1:14:47

10M ago1:14:47

1:14:47

This week I talked with Ginger from The Family Core over chapters 1 & 2 of the Blended and Redeemed book by Scott and Vanessa from Blended Kingdom Family. We created a virtual book club so you can join us in discussing these very important stepfamily topics. This week we discussed what it’s like going through the fire in your stepfamily and how God…

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199. When You Go Through the Fire in Your Stepfamily with Ginger from Family Core 49:54

10M ago49:54

49:54

This week I talked with Ginger from The Family Core over chapters 1 & 2 of the Blended and Redeemed book by Scott and Vanessa from Blended Kingdom Family. We created a virtual book club so you can join us in discussing these very important stepfamily topics. This week we discussed what it’s like going through the fire in your stepfamily and how God…

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198. Problems With Extra Curricular Activities in a Stepfamily 50:26

11M ago50:26

50:26

We love our kids and want to give them all the best opportunities possible, and we should. We believe extracurricular activities teach our kids many life lessons and give them a sense of belonging, which we know is something our stepfamilies need. But there are some things we need to keep in mind to show our kids we love, support, and prioritize th…

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197. Do You Carry Your Stepfamilies Mental Load? 41:33

11M ago41:33

41:33

There are 2 sides to running a family. The actual chores/task that need to be done and the mental load of thinking about all the things that need to be done. This typically falls on one person intentionally or unintentionally. Your family comes together and falls into a natural rhythm and there are many tasks you are 100% ok with taking on the sole…

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196. Help for Military (STEP) Families With Co-Founders of Live the Life 40:16

11M ago40:16

40:16

A major contributing factor in my divorce was due to being a military family. We were young and dumb when we got married and within months 9/11 happened and we were faced with a life altering future like many others. 4 years later, 2 kids, multiple moves and a deployment leaving my ex husband with PTSD and myself with anxiety, we lacked the support…

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195. Celebrating Your Anniversary is Vital for Your Stepfamily 39:56

11M ago39:56

39:56

If you have been divorced, you have the gift of understanding how precious marriage is. You know how a relationship can go from good to bad and what factors contribute to that. You know the pain of that fall out for everyone involved. On our 2nd anniversary a divorced woman gave us this advice…“Never stop doing this, keep making it a priority to da…

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194. Living With Chronic Illness Guest Holly Davis 1:01:22

12M ago1:01:22

1:01:22

Blending a stepfamily is hard enough, but if you have a chronic illness it makes it that much more difficult. What would you do if you went from living your busy active mom life to being stripped of the ability to do everyday tasks like eating or leaving your house? For many of us, it’s unimaginable, but that is what happened to Holly from Well Ble…

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193. What Are You Scared Of? | Guest Jen from Thrive By Action 1:03:04

12M ago1:03:04

1:03:04

What are you scared of? Our fears can be silly things, irrational or justifiable. But the truth is regardless of the reason we're scared, it can play a huge impact on how we enjoy our life, parent, and even chase after what we want. This episode is all about doing things that scare you. When you push past the fear, you discover a sense of power and…

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192. How to Live With a Dysfunctional Family Guest: Jamie Bailey 50:36

1y ago50:36

50:36

This episode is all about how to live with your DYSFUNCTIONAL FAMILY. Don’t be ashamed, we all have them, heck sometimes we are them! I talked with christian marriage counselor Jamie Bailey about recognizing the dysfunction in yourself or other family members and how to move forward in a positive, healthy way. You are not your past, you can break c…

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191. Parenting Teens After Dark with Holly from Well Blended Life 56:53

1y ago56:53

56:53

Have you tried to connect with your preteen and teen and get 1 or 2-word phrases back like “I’m fine”, “It’s cool” or “Good” when you ask them about their life? I know this frustrated me. I knew my kids needed a safe place to discuss life, but I wasn’t it! When I heard Holly from Well Blended Life talk about parenting after dark, I thought that was…

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190. Help, I Can’t Stand My Spouse Guest Kenny & Heidi: Marriage in Motion 365 46:21

1y ago46:21

46:21

We tell you all the time to have fun with your spouse and you will see less problems. It’s a catch 22 though if you can’t stand your spouse. We get it. When things have gone so wrong for so long, it’s hard to get passed the issues long enough to connect again. Which keeps you in this unhappy marriage cycle. Please if that is you, listen to this epi…

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189. Benefits of Family Meetings with Alex and Lisa 51:14

1y ago51:14

51:14

Randall and I have heard for years of the importance of having family meetings. We see a common factor in many successfully connected families and that is that communication is key. At the core of that, is giving your family an opportunity to feel seen and heard, in the know, and have a sense of belonging. Family meetings do just that! So why aren’…

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