How important is finding compatibility to you when dating? When seeking a life partner, you don’t want to choose anyone. You wanna find someone you’re compatible with, but what does that mean? The word compatible is where two things are able to exist or occur together without problem or conflict. There are some things that you don’t want to mix tog…

Disagreements, frustrations and disappointments are impossible to avoid in relationships. Although we can’t avoid disagreements and frustrations in relationships, it doesn’t mean they have to turn into arguments. Disagreements aren’t the same as arguments. An argument occurs when two sides are approaching a disagreement in unhealthy and unproductiv…

Have you ever found yourself frustrated or disappointed when dating? A disappointment is a negative feeling that results from something not living up to an expectation. When we open up ourselves to romantic interests (e.i. dating) we normally have some form of hope or expectation. An expectation to meet someone we like, where feelings are mutual, a…

What does it mean to be honest about your Relationship mistakes? A mistake can be intentional or unintentional but the key is, it’s wrong. It is a form of behavior that is either dishonest, unjust, or immoral and often violates another. In life and in relationships we make mistakes, the question is, what is our response once we commit them. For som…

Any solid entity needs a solid foundation or anchor to bring it stability. Consider for a moment a ship without an anchor. It would find itself fighting against the current, drifting from place to place unable to remain in one place. Consider a home and the destruction that would follow after a storm if it lacked a strong foundation. This is no dif…

Why is it when a woman chooses a man that is deemed undesirable by the world, people attack her character, assuming there’s an ulterior motive? As if her motives can’t be pure driven from the heart and wisdom. Recently on a podcast Channing Crowder attacked the character of Ciara and Russell Wilson. In his podcast Channing proclaimed that the only …

Have you ever made a rash decision that you regretted later. In life we all have moments or things where we are urged to loose control. This could be something common such as an act of cutting someone off in a moment of road rage, or it could be something uncommon such as a violent attack upon a cheating spouse. In the case of Will Smith, it was go…

To celebrate or not celebrate Valentine’s Day, that is the question? Just because something is a cultural norm, it doesn’t mean it has to be a normal practice for you. Valentines Day is a national celebrated holiday, but its value varies from person to person. Some people love it, the romance, the gifts and special attention that comes with it. Yet…

How does one remain happy and content in singleness? Be intentional in your approach! Finding happiness and contentment in singleness is not an accident. Just as having a happy marriage isn’t. Obtaining success in life requires you to take action. God tells us that one reaps what they sow. If you are purposeful in your choices as a single man or wo…

Dating can be a rollercoaster!!! There are moments in the dating process where you have emotional highs. You meet new people, you meet someone you like, you get to know that person, and maybe it turns into a something special. Yet, there are also the lows. You can’t find a date, you meet bad people, or find yourself rejected. What is your approach …

It’s often said in sports, “if you’re not getting better, you’re getting worse.” I believe this saying is not only true in sports, but in relationships. As a spouse you should always be seeking to grow. How can you be a better husband? How can you be a better wife? One way to be intentional to grow in your relationship is by setting marriage goals,…

How are you approaching family & in-laws within your relationship? When it comes to weird uncles, hardheaded cousins, or even that overly intrusive Mother, family dynamics can be challenging. So much so terms such as Monster-in-laws are used to describe them. Although we all have “THOSE” family & in-laws it doesn’t mean challenging family dynamics …

If you had to choose between Looks vs character, which would you choose? Thankfully when approaching relationships a person doesn’t have to choose between looks vs character. Both play an important role within relationship. Yet, too often people place more emphasis on looks rather than character. Most people when choosing whom to date are driven by…

There’s an old saying, don’t put your business in the streets. Yet, how does this apply in the 21st century? In the age of social media, blogging, and streaming people are sharing more personal information about themselves in an ever increasing way. Yet, when sharing, when do you cross the line. When can sharing become damaging, to you personally. …

A myth is a widely held but false belief or idea. There are ideas people hold that aren’t always true. Unfortunately, people pass on these false ideas or personal preferences as truth, forming myths. Myths can be passed down from generation to generation, mentor to pupil, or even through social media platforms. Although something sounds true, or pe…

Is there a right or wrong amount one should spend on a wedding? Weddings can be amazing, but they can also be extremely costly. The average wedding in America is 30,000 dollars. Yes, you read that correctly. People are spending on a wedding the same price you can buy a car, or a down payment on a home. Is spending this amount wrong or something you…

Traumatic events are incidences that cause physical, emotional, spiritual, or psychological harm. Sometimes relationships face challenges as a result of incidences between a couple. This can be a spouse who does something dishonest, or a partner who says hurtful things. Yet, in relationships there are some traumatic events that don’t come from the …

Is it proper to compare marriage to a business? There a lot of things we can compare marriage too. Some people compare marriage to a rollercoaster, and the ups and downs one may experience. In my book, Chasing Happily Ever After, I compared building a house to building a solid relationship, and the importance of a strong foundation. Even God compar…

It has been said, “diamonds are a girls best friend.” So naturally a woman’s probably going to want one when getting engaged. A diamond ring has become a staple among what is offered when proposing in marriage. Yet is it superficial of a woman to reject a man’s engagement, if he offers something other than a diamond? This is a sensitive subject bec…

Singleness IS NOT a disease, not is it a bad thing! Being single isn’t purgatory, an in-between period of life that you have to suffer through until you get to something better (aka marriage). First off, who said marriage is something better. If you ask some people, marriage can be jail, but that’s a different topic. Singleness is an amazing part o…

Experiencing a tough breakup is like loosing apart of yourself. For those that have experienced a breakup or divorce can understand the emotional and physical toll it can take on you. In relationships you invest a lot to make them work. You open up your heart to another person, trusting that they will value it. Unfortunately, many times that is not…

Messaging bad habits in marriages have lead to more unnecessary conflicts than I care to count. Don’t let them happen to you! Good communication is critical to any successful relationship. Unfortunately, many couples don’t always consider how they communicate over messaging as part of their good communication skills. The truth is people spend way m…

Have you ever made a text messaging gaffe while dating that may have cost you another date? Good communication is critical to any successful relationship. This is even more apparent early in the dating process, because one mistake could end your interaction forever. Therefore there are unwritten rules of communication when dating, yet with each gen…

Is your relationship Private or Public? This is a question that takes on a new meaning today. In the past to say your relationship was private (a.k.a secret) meant you didn’t tell anyone about your relationship. For example, your friends, family and others in your community didn’t know about or had little details of your relationship. Today this is…

Getting married is an exciting time! A big part of that excitement is moving in together. This is what a couple has been dreaming about and waiting for. That moment when their lives fuse together as one. Although this is exhilarating, it can also be stressful. I believe the first year of marriage can be one of the most stressful and difficult years…

Why do we push things off that are important? Going LIVE on social media throughout the week to share faith, life & relationship encouragements is something God placed on my heart, and is important to me. One of those is my Newlywed Chronicles. I started off two months ago committed and consistent. It was going good! Yet as the weeks went on, my co…

The term breadwinner referees to the primary or sole income earner in a household. Throughout much of history the male has occupied this role, while the wife mainly took care of the kids and home. This didn’t make it right or wrong, but was a result of tradition. During World War I in America this tradition began to change. Woman took to the work f…

Self-Sabotage: To destroy oneself physically, mentally, or emotionally hindering your own success and well-being. Relationships have their challenges, but what happens when you are part of the problem, versus part of the solution? When this occurs you are self sabotaging your own relationship success. The hard part about self sabotage is often time…

What do you do when there is a loss of trust within a relationship? Trust is a foundational piece to any relationship. Unfortunately there are moments within a relationship where that trust is broken. Maybe it’s a partner who has good intentions but doesn’t do all the things they promise to do. Maybe it’s someone who continually does something hurt…

Is it possible to know someone, yet at times feel like you don’t? In life, people change! Hopefully for most of us those changes are for the better. As we get older and we have life experiences, those life experiences impact us differently. As a result we are not who we used to be and we’re not going to be who we are. This doesn’t mean we all have …

Life is full and chapters and seasons In life we have chapters, or some know them as seasons. These are periods of time that represent major events and transitions. Sometimes these chapters can be great, and life is good. Unfortunately, there are also seasons of pain and challenge. It is during these times we must remember God is constantly at work…

What a wonderful feeling to be newlyweds, but now what? There are an array of joyful emotions one feels when they first get married. The joy to fulfill a dream you’ve longed to see. The satisfaction of finally being able to reach a goal you’ve patiently waited for. The relief of finishing all the engagement and wedding planning obligations. Finally…

Dating someone of a different race isn’t always easy. Often when people are of a different race there are differences. These can be cultural differences, religious differences, child rearing difference or even economic differences. Therefore, when trying to connect with somebody romantically where these differences apply, it can be challenging. Wha…

Guarding your heart while dating will help you avoid unnecessary pain. The truth is you can’t trust all people until you know they are trust worthy. Yet, in time as someone shows themselves trust worthy can a person’s guard push them away keeping your relationships from going to the next level. Can a person be too guarded while dating? If the goal …

What is all the buzz about Derrick Jaxn? The social media buzz over the past week or so has been talking about Derrick Jaxn. Derrick is a self proclaim relationship expert who has given relationship advice over the past 8 years or so. He has used this platform to bash men who cheat and mistreat women. Yet, it has been revealed that he himself is a …

It hurts to see a friend possibly caught in a bad relationship. As friends you want to be there for each other, through the good and the bad. So what do you do when you find a friend caught up in a bad relationship? Helping a friend isn’t always as easy as it may appear. Often times those caught up don’t always want help. Either they don’t feel som…

Why does it appear that the nice guy always gets overlooked for the bad boy? Many times women will say they want a Good Man. Women will share how they desire a man who is caring, thoughtful, patient, understanding, and generous, A.K.A the nice guy. Yet, when it comes time to choosing a man it appears that many women overlook the nice guy and are dr…

Friendships can be difficult to maintain when one enters into a romantic relationship. There’s a saying, two are better than one. Friendships are a critical part of every person’s life. It is our friends that partner with us, laugh with us, cry with us, drive us to be better, and celebrate with us. But what do you do when that friendship is deterio…

What good is love without action? Imagine for a moment a marriage without words. Where a couple were unable to speak through sound, sign, or pen. What would be said? I would argue a lot could be said. The husband cooking for his wife, taking her on trips, or helping her with her needs would speak volumes. The truth is showing love will always speak…

Dating can have its ups, but it can also have its downs! It feels good when people find you attractive. It feels good, when you’re going out on dates, getting to know someone and forming bonds. It feels even better when that relationship turns into something promising, a deeper commitment. BUT, what about when people aren’t attracted to you. When y…

You would think the holidays would bring joy and cheer to the hearts of everyone, but unfortunately that just in the case. Life has its challenges, and at times these challenges can be frustrating, stealing one’s peace and joy. Often an area of frustration comes from relationships. When in a relationship there’s no where one can hide or turn off th…

Is it a bad thing to rush into marriage? Marriage is one of the most important choices you will ever make? It’s because, who you choose to marry will impact you for the rest of your life. For those who make a wrong choice or marry prematurely it can bring heartache, frustration, and sadly divorce. Therefore why rush into marriage? There isn’t a “ON…

Holiday Loneliness is a real thing! There are singles who are challenged with loneliness throughout the year, and then there are singles who are very comfortable with their singleness. To understand that you don’t need a romantic partner to find fulfillment is critical to healthy living, but yet even those who are secure in thier singleness can fin…

In 2020 we saw one of the most contentious political environment in history. This has brought a major divide within our our country, and sadly within our homes. Many couples are experiencing intense communications breakdowns, and this challenge is taring a part marriage. How should couples navigate politics within a relationship? In this podcast kn…

Is opposite attraction something you should pay attention to? Hollywood has often sensationalize the idea of opposites attract. There’s a glamour and excitement that without it a relationship is dull. As exciting as it may be to date someone who is very different than you. The question we need to ask, is opposite attraction practical when building …

Should you care about being equally yoked when dating and getting married. The word equally yoked is a term that is often thrown around when people talk about marriage, but what exactly does it mean and is it something people should even pay attention to. The idea is a spiritual term that many are not familiar with, because we are no longer primari…

In relationships you are bound to have disagreements, but what do you do with them? When you take two different people who were raised differently you are bound to have disagreements. A disagreement is when two people have differing view points. For example, you believe the house should be cleaned weekly whereas your spouse may believe it should be…

Have you ever desired to ask someone out, but struggled to build the confidence to do it? If you’ve ever lacked confidence to ask someone out, you are not alone. All people of different backgrounds have found themselves intimidated in one way or another to approach someone they may like. This intimidation keeps people from possibly meeting in build…

Co-parenting is hard. It requires working together and communication. In part one we shared tips to help couples navigate different parenting styles, but how do you work with a person where you difference drew you a part? There is a reason why couples are divorced or no longer together. Maybe someone hurt the other or cheated on them. Whatever the …

What do you when how you want to raise your child differs from your spouse? Everyone has an opinion on how to raise children, but what happens when those opinions differ when you’re married? How do you work through the challenge of having differing parenting styles? In this podcast episode we take a look some of the challenge parents face when rais…