Your Host Miriam Njoku, a trauma recovery coach, shares her journey healing from trauma and interviews guests whose stories will inspire you to change the narrative of your life, uncover your resilience and create a way forward. Overcoming Your Story Podcast invites black women in Africa and the diaspora to connect to their inner strength, change narratives ingrained in them through living in patriarchy, childhood trauma or racism. Conversations cover mental health, childhood trauma awarenes ...
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Every second Thursday, join us, Candace and Miriam who have studied and worked internationally, as they discuss intergenerational trauma and wounds and how they can affect the lives of people in Africa and its diasporas (Black people of African descent around the world). Each episode will cover struggles in personal and professional life, mental health, family dynamics, intergenerational trauma and many more. We will share knowledge, resources, tools and ideas we found helpful for finding em ...
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Miriam Njoku: "I Can't Achieve My Way Out of This" - Workplace Racism in...
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This week's episode is the second part of my discussion with Rosie Yeung. We talk about racism in the workplace. This podcast episode summary comes from www.changinglenses.ca/podcast Rosie Yeung|6/8/2021 “I will always be the Black girl first, before Miriam Njoku. I cannot achieve my way out of being seen with prejudice. That's how they view people…
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Miriam Njoku: Breaking The Chains of Trauma
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This week, Miriam shares an interview she had with Rosie Yeung and her podcast Changing Lenses podcast. The following is from Changinglenses.ca/podcast Have you ever been told you can’t do it, or you’re not good enough for something you really wanted? What if you got that message in your whole life starting from childhood? What if abuse or racism y…
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Connecting Stories: Married at 14 - Part II
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This week Miriam shares part 2 of her own story on Ify Bamigboye's podcast: Connecting Stories. We talk about resilience, overcoming childhood and inter-generational trauma, emotional, mental, and sexual abuse. This second part is still full of events happening but also other experiences where I took steps in building the life I want to live. Ify i…
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Connecting Stories: Married at 14 - Part I
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This week Miriam is sharing an interview she had with Ify Bamigboye on her Podcast Connecting Stories. I share my story about overcoming childhood and inter-generational trauma, emotional, mental, and sexual abuse. This is the first time I share my story in full, I tend to rush through my story but Ify has this way of helping her guests tell their …
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Getting Real With Paula: Managing Personal Traumas over the Holiday Season
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Episode 34 - Getting Real With Paula: Managing Personal Traumas over the Holiday Season. Miriam is sharing an episode from the Getting Real With Paula Show on which she was a guest in December, this is a great conversation for the holidays and other gatherings we have in our families. Key Takeaways: - I share my story and how I got to coaching -How…
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Book Review - Nobody Knows The Trouble I've Seen by Dr Inger Burnett-Ziegler
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Miriam is doing a book review of Nobody Knows The Trouble I've Seen: The emotional lives of Black Women. Nobody Knows The Trouble I’ve Seen Subtitle: The Emotional lives of Black Women, it came in June 2021 and is written by Dr. Inger Burnett-Zeigler. It is part memoir, part self-help, and part academic nonfiction. Key Takeaways Black women are see…
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Episode 32 This week, Miriam connects with her listeners to wish them a wonderful holiday season, read them and healing prayer and say the episode will take a break and release the next episode on January 12, 2022 Key Takeaways Update Ancient Prayer read twice Holiday Season Wishes These are words you can write to yourself or read them out loud. (T…
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Episode 31 - Invisible Loyalties: Ties That Bind Us Miriam is doing a Family Dynamics Series and the week’s episode is about Invisible Loyalties, those strong ties that bind us to our family, village, group, country and that hurt us in the long run. This is a fascinating episode especially during this holiday season. The concept was coined by Ivan …
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Episode 30: Miriam recently had an experience with implicit bias and she wants us to think about how as a society we can think about overcoming implicit bias. Every human being has implicit bias and often they are unconscious. How do we bring our biases to the conscious realm in order to release them. I have been encountering implicit bias and raci…
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Family Dynamics Series : The Golden Child and The Scapegoat
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Episode 29 The Golden Child and Scapegoat Dynamic Miriam is doing a Family Dynamics Series and the week’s episode is about The Golden Child and the Scapegoat in the Family, these are two roles that siblings can take in a dysfunctional family. KEY TAKEAWAYS Update about your host Gold Child and Scapegoat definition Characteristics of the Golden Chil…
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Family Dynamics Series: A First Daughter's Struggles to Find Her Place
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What happens when the first daughter of a family who takes care of her siblings gains entrance into a boarding and has to leave home? This week's episode is the illustration of what poverty, instability in the home, family enmeshment and parentification does to a young woman trying to find her place in the world. The episode is based on the New Yor…
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Family Dynamics Series : Narcissistic Mother
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Episode 27: Narcissistic Mother. Miriam is doing a Family Dynamics Series and the second episode is about the Narcissistic Mother. . KEY TAKEAWAYS What is a narcissistic mother? The traits of a narcissistic mother Manipulation techniques that she uses How the child develops themselves in relationship to the narcissistic mother The golden child and …
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Ebere Okonkwo : Making Mental Health Care Accessible
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Miriam speaks with Ebere Okonkwo from Lagos Nigeria. Ebere is the Founder of MyCareBuddy, an online platform that offers Nigerians mental health care and consultation in a non-judgmental space. Our guest is also a mental health advocate, writer and spoken word artist. . KEY TAKEAWAYS What experiences led Ebere to found MyCareBuddy We talk about the…
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Family Dynamics Series : Family Enmeshment
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Episode 24: Family Enmeshment. Miriam is doing a Family Dynamics Series and the first episode is about Enmeshment. Enmeshed family bonds are those that lack boundaries between family members. . KEY TAKEAWAYS Why is it important to talk about family emotional enmeshment Dynamics of an enmeshed family and how the child is viewed Blurred boundaries, p…
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In Conversation with Author Petrona Joseph
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Miriam speaks with Author Petrona Joseph from Montreal who just released her book yesterday September 7 titled Stigmatized: Breaking the Silence and Demystifying Mental Illness. Petrona Joseph, previously featured on Breakfast Television, is the blogger behind Montreal-based ‘Slayedit Montreal.’ As a trilingual Concordia graduate in linguistics, he…
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Are Your Limiting Beliefs Holding You Back?
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Episode 23: Miriam dives into limiting beliefs which are thoughts, opinions that one believes to be the absolute truth. How many times have you told yourself you can't do something? Sadly this means we don't get to experience certain things because of our limiting beliefs. . KEY TAKEAWAYS How limiting beliefs can hold us back How limiting beliefs c…
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Arnold Etoua: Don't Run Away From Your Past - Pt 2
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EP 22_EditedEP 22_EditedSPEAKERSSpeaker 2 (80%), Speaker 1 (20%) So in this second part, I would like us to talk about your studies, because I know you're very educated. So I was thinking, how did you manage your studies in Cameroon? And then? Yeah, let's start with that. Because those were not optimal conditions to study in. Yeah. Um,I mean, my ed…
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Episode 21: Miriam speaks with Arnold Etoua, a Cameroonian/American therapist. This is a fascinating conversation in which Arnold and I discuss the first 19 years of his life spent in Cameroon, a country we are both from. I thank Arnold for his openness and vulnerability in discussing his childhood. . KEY TAKEAWAYS Arnold's daily life after his mom…
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Today Miriam talks about narcissistic abuse based on a book my French Psychologist, Isabelle Nazare-Aga called in French "Les Manipulateurs sont Parmi Nous", literally "Manipulators Are Among Us" she read many years ago that helped her get out of her second manipulative relationship. KEY TAKEAWAYS What are the two types of manipulators/narcissists …
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KB Mulera: Find Strength in Loving Yourself
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In this interview, Miriam speaks Kabasigyi Mulera, an African Canadian Creative. She is a multifaceted creative (photography, videography, writing, spoken word) and a psychology student. She is presently based in Uganda KEY TAKEAWAYS Growing up in a predominantly White city in Canada and racism Why she went back to school to study psychology Why un…
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In the Part two of the discussion with Hawa Noor, Hawa and Miriam explore what is means to have a healthy self esteem. In this second part of the interview, Miriam speaks to her friend Hawa who she met at the Mastercard Foundation in Toronto. Hawa is a journalist, creative writer, researcher, editor and artist from Kenya who is based in Toronto, Ca…
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In this episode, Miriam speaks to her friend Hawa who she met at the Mastercard Foundation in Toronto. Hawa is a journalist, creative writer, researcher, editor and artist from Kenya who is based in Toronto, Canada. KEY TAKEAWAYS Learn for what reasons Kenya is considered home for Hawa How Hawa moved back home working in her community and reconnect…
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Dr. Doyin Anibaba: Debunking mental health myths
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Doyin Anibaba, MD, Mental health awareness Our guest today is Doyin Anibaba. She is a medical doctor with a particular interest in mental health. She is the founder of Wellforte, a platform through which she raises awareness about mental health, mental illnesses and reduces stigmas around mental health. She has counseled people both on- and offline…
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DESCRIPTION In this episode, Miriam talks about shame, silence and secrets and how they affect us. She explores what shame is and how it affects our mental health. Shame and silence are linked and it creates isolation. She shares her own journey and adds in there the idea of secrets that we don't share and they eat us up from the inside. KEY TAKEAW…
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Discussion With Amanda Iheme, Psychotherapist in Lagos
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Our guest today is Amanda Iheme is a psychotherapist and architecture photographer based in Lagos. She is founder of Ndidi Private Mental Health Practice in Lagos, Nigeria. Amanda is a therapist and architecture photographer. In this episode Miriam and Amanda explore mental health, childhood trauma, seeking help in the Nigerian, African context. KE…
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Description In this episode Miriam explores the idea of being a feminist in the African context. The inspiration for the episode came from listening to rooms about feminism on Clubhouse KEY TAKEAWAYS We should not deny their pain when women come forward and share about what they went through. "These are our traditions", "we've always done it this w…
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How Patience is Using Her Story to Help Others
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In this earnest and moving episode, Miriam speaks to Patience Abonge a trauma awareness activist. Patience opens up about her own mental health journey, the message she is trying to get out to the world and how she is using this to help others. KEY TAKEAWAYS There is no one who is going to believe in your more than yourself. Patience grew up living…
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In this episode Miriam talks about the art of healing and how it can not only transform ourselves but also impact those around us. So many families are scarred by generational trauma, if we work to heal it in ourselves we can avoid passing on it on to our children. KEY TAKEAWAYS We inherit many things from our families, genes, traditions and trauma…
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How Emmanuela Forged Her Path - Interviewing Emmanuela Alimlim
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In this episode, Miriam speaks to Emmanuela who she met at Mastercard Foundation. Emmanuela was born in Kenya but has been living in Canada since 2013. Emmanuela talks about her upbringing, mental health and the expectations of others so many of us carry throughout our lives. KEY TAKEAWAYS Emmanuela grew up in northern Kenya, with a typical African…
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Today Miriam talks about what she has been learning at her weekly class at the mind and body institute. She has been finding out different techniques she can use to manage herself and feel whole. Such as eating mindfully, creating, meditations and more. In this episode she shares what she has learnt about forgiveness, of others and of yourself. KEY…
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Overcoming Your Story is geared towards black women, how they can connect with themselves, unleash their power and step out of their limiting beliefs. So, in this episode, Miriam speaks to Ify, a coach, teacher and trainer who helps black women manage their emotions and relationships. Ify opens up about her own story, why she does the work she does…
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In this episode, Miriam talks about the father wound. She explores her own relationship with her father and discusses the impact of his abandonment on her forming and building relationships as an adult. KEY TAKEAWAYS Miriam’s mother married her father very young. Her father was a prince and had multiple wives. Her mother had grown up knowing him as…
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Miriam is joined in this episode by Tatiana from Washington DC. Tatiana is currently a food photographer whilst working on a variety of business ideas including a simple syrup product. They met on clubhouse talking about their childhood and today they discuss Tatiana's upbringing, her difficulties in life as an adult and the culture in Cameroon. KE…
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Miriam is an avid reader and does a lot of continuous research on trauma and trauma recovery. A couple of years ago she came across an article on time and prolonged trauma that shook her. In this episode she talks about the article, how she experiences time and why a sense of foreshortened future is a trauma response. KEY TAKEAWAYS If somebody has …
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A Very Brave Conversation with Brenda Chuinkam
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Today Miriam welcomes Brenda Chuinkam onto the podcast. Brenda is a designer, entrepreneur, blogger and many other things! She is one of 4 children and is very pro-African, especially in regards to the culture and fashion. In this episode they talk about mental health, being authentic and trauma. KEY TAKEAWAYS Brenda’s Dad was a diplomat which mean…
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In this episode, Miriam wants to talk about going to therapy as a black African woman. Miriam is the only person in her family to go to therapy and has started sharing what she has learnt with them and wants to be open and honest about her experiences. She hopes that her own experience of therapy will aid her in coaching others, particularly in reg…
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In this episode, Miriam interviews her friend, a teacher and filmmaker, Telma Diaz. Telma was born in Portugal to her mum who was from Guinea-Bissau and her Portuguese Dad. Telma moved to Guinea-Bissau for a couple of years whilst her mum set up their life Switzerland, Telma then spent most of her childhood and teens in Geneva before moving to Engl…
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Welcome to the first episode of Overcoming Your Story by your host Miriam Njoku. Miriam has a passion for psychology and uses this and her own experiences to coach others and help them free themselves from the burdens of childhood trauma. She is trying to destigmatise many topics in African culture, including discussions around mental health and ai…
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Welcome to Overcoming Your Story, a podcast by Miriam Njoku. Miriam is passionate about mental health awareness and particularly childhood trauma and its effects on a person’s life. As a trauma-informed coach, she helps others to free themselves from the burdens of childhood trauma. She wants to destigmatise mental health topics and normalise talki…
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Free The African First-Born Child From The Burden of Parentification
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Have you ever noticed how some firstborns tend to put a lot of pressure on themselves and others? Have you ever witnessed (or been in the shoes of) a daughter or son taking the role of a caretaker for younger and older relatives? Have you ever been encouraged to carry your family's legacy? or This could be linked to a relationship dynamic called pa…
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The Cycle Of Intergenerational Trauma in Your Family Could Stop With You
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TRIGGER WARNING: We touch on the topic of sexual assault and other topics that listeners might find difficult. Have you ever felt stuck in your life, feeling like everybody is achieving more than you are? Have you ever felt shame about your background, your family, the way you were brought up? This could be linked to intergenerational trauma, liste…
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Free Your Dating Life From The Influence of Your Past Traumas
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Episode 2 - Free Your Dating Life From the Influence of Your Unresolved Traumas In this second episode of Free Your People, we will discuss how trauma influences our dating life and give some tips on how to enter the right relationship for you and feel fulfilled and connected in a relationship. You will learn: The importance of self-awareness to av…
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Candace is a career & business coach as well as an international consultant. Miriam is a writer, consultant and trauma recovery coach. The idea of this podcast emerged from the realisation of the extent to which the way they were raised has impacted their adult relationships, decisions, and the way they showed up in the world. Coming both from cont…
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Free Yourself From The Burden Of Workaholism
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As career women and recovering workaholics who recently transitioned out of the corporate world, it only felt right to begin this podcast with the topic of workaholism. In this first episode, we will discuss the emotional roots of work addiction, its manifestations and limits, as well as the ways to thrive in our career without crashing and burning…
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