On The Poly (Pod)Cast we lift the lid on what life's like in a polyamorous relationship. We answer common questions, debunk misconceptions and contribute to the growing conversation around ethical non-monogamy (ENM). Whether you're polyamorous, monogamous or elsewhere on the spectrum, this podcast is for every person, regardless of relationship style or status.
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Listener Q+A: Adding A Third, Long Distance Poly And Intense Crushes
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It's our very first listener Q+A episode! We've collated all the best questions we've got recently and put all the answers in one place. We chat about how to safely add a third to a relationship and the ethical considerations that go with it. We answer questions on transitioning to a long distance dynamic, how to deal with intense crushes and what …
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Jealousy: The Good, The Bad, The Sexy feat. Dr. Joli Hamilton
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Finally, a deep dive into jealousy. We are joined by certified sexuality educator, best-selling author, Ted X speaker and host of the ‘Playing With Fire’ podcast Dr. Joli Hamilton. We chat about why feeling jealous can be a good thing, the differences between jealousy and envy and how to use jealousy to create erotic experiences. First, Rich chats …
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Should There Be A 'P' In LGBTQIA+? feat. Liana Griebsch
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Is non-monogamy Queer? Does it fit under the LGBTQIA+ umbrella? Does it even need a category at all? We are joined by sound healer, coach, Queer mentor and host of the Queer and Poly Podcast Liana Griebsch to discuss where non-monogamy fits and why people feel the need to categorise it at all. We chat about the parallels between the Queer and non-m…
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Our First Ever Week of Visibility for Non-Monogamy feat. Brett Chamberlin
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Happy Week of Visibility for Non-Monogamy! To discuss the first ever week of its kind we welcome back the Co-Founder and Executive Director of the Organisation of Polyamory and Ethical Non-Monogamy (OPEN) Brett Chamberlin. We discuss how the week came about, each of the day's themes and how each of us can get involved. A huge thanks to Brett for co…
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Compersion: Should We Feel It? feat. Marie Thouin
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What is compersion? Should you feel compersion? Do you have to feel compersion when you're non-monogamous? Leading expert on compersion, Marie Thouin, joins us to talk about compersion, the different ways that it can be felt and some of the things that can help it and hinder it. But first, Rich and Siobhan talk Foo Fighters, #Poly4Paly and online d…
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The Space Between Friends And Lovers
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Not friends, but not lovers? We discuss the grey colourful, often-dismissed area between platonic friendship and serious, romantic relationships. We unpack the terminology we have for these relationships and how following binary thinking can severely limit the possible spectrum of relationships we might experience. Get your Poly4Paly tickets. You c…
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Discover Your Bonding Type feat. Dr. Eli Sheff
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We are joined by Dr. Eli Sheff, the world's foremost academic expert on polyamorous families with children. In this episode, we discuss The Bonding Project, her endeavour to help people across the relationship spectrum learn more about how they bond. We took The Bonding Project tests and discuss our results with Dr. Eli, plus we get an update on he…
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Non-Monogamy: A Gay Cliché feat. Mike and Kyle From Gayish Podcast
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Are all gay men non-monogamous? Do gay men want monogamy? Does non-monogamy feel compulsory in the Gay community? We put these questions and much more to the hosts of the Gayish podcast Mike Johnson and Kyle Getz. We chat about the role non-monogamy plays in Gay dating, how it can be difficult to negotiate monogamy and if discrimination and homopho…
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The Future Of Love feat. Roanne Van Voorst
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Sex with robots. Dating avatars. Polyamory. Is this the future of love? Futurologist and anthropologist Roanne Van Voorst has the answers. We discuss some of the topics in her new book, Six in a Bed: The Future of Love - from Sex Dolls and Avatars to Polyamory, and uncover the impact of technological advances on how we build relationships. We delve…
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Does anyone actually like being a secondary? Today, we dive into some of your good, bad and mixed experiences of being a secondary. We chat about the term 'secondary' and how it could be improved, some of the reasons why being a secondary can work and the difference between implied and intentional hierarchies. Thanks so much to everyone who shared …
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Be A 'Responsible Slutty Person' feat. Noa Elan
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WARNING: We have a brief discussion about self-harm in this episode. We are joined by the CEO of Plura Noa Elan. Plura is an app that facilitates connections between burner, queer, artist, creative, polyamorous, wellness, kink, conscious, spiritual, and alternative people. We chat to Noa about the difficulties of cultivating consent in online space…
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Does Non-Monogamy Make You Repeat Toxic Relationship Patterns? feat. Meg Wilson
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Our very first Australian-based guest joins us on the show! Meg Wilson is the founder and lead therapist of Unison Counselling, a practice that focuses on issues relating to polyamory, non-monogamy, open relationships, and the LGBTQIA+ communities. We chat to her about how being non-monogamous might impact your nervous system and if maintaining mul…
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How To (Safely) Come Out At Work Feat. Dr. Lily Lamboy
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We are joined by the talented and inspiring Dr. Lily Lamboy. She's the co-founder and managing director of the Modern Family Institute and a director at the Organisation for Polyamory and Ethical Non-Monogamy (OPEN). We chat about things poly people should consider when coming out at work and how employers can support their workers' family and rela…
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Growing Up With A Poly Parent feat. Jon Simons
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In this episode, we're joined by Jon Simons, a certified life coach who works with people within the gender, sexual, and romantic minority communities. Their dad also came out as poly when they were 11-years-old. Jon shares their personal experiences of growing up with a poly parent, what it was like knowing non-monogamy was an option at such a you…
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Unlock Your Authentic Sexual Self feat. Gigi Engle
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Today we are joined by award-winning author and certified sex & relationships psychotherapist Gigi Engle. We talk about how shame can manifest around sex and sexuality, why it can be so hard to overcome and some strategies to beat it. We also discuss stigmas, stereotypes and hypersexualistion that are often applied to non-monog folk, plus we delve …
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Uncoupling, Jealousy And Radical Honesty feat. Nicole Pacent
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It's a longy, but a goody. Today we are joined by actor, producer and writer Nicole Pacent to talk about everything from jealousy, to commitment, to starting new relationships and transitioning in others. For the first time, Nicole talks about uncoupling from a long-term partner who is a parent to her son and the difficulty navigating this when the…
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To ring in the new year, we dive into the topic of relationship hierarchy. We discuss the arguments for and against hierarchical non-monogamy, ethical considerations when structuring your relationships and if there is a difference between structural hierarchy and emotional hierarchy. We also chat about if it's possible to practice non-heirarchical …
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It's our final episode of the year! Rich and Siobhan recap some of the major non-monogamous news of 2023. They also discuss some key pop culture moments and Siobhan shares some of the titles on her inaugural The Poly (Pod)Cast Reading List. Finally, Rich and Siobhan share their reflections on the year that was and round out with some highlights tha…
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Talking About Being Non-Monog Over The Holidays feat. Susan Wenzel
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The holidays are upon us and that often means spending more time with friends and family members. It can also mean being asked about more personal aspects of your life. In today's episode, certified sex therapist, speaker, writer and relationship expert Susan Wenzel shares some advice about how to navigate these conversations. We discuss how to tal…
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Marginalisation, Mental Health And Making A Difference feat. Dr. Heath Schechinger
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We chat to Dr. Heath Schechinger about the need for research into non-monogamy and how the current lack of insight into the non-monogamous experience impacts our families, workplaces and health care. Luckily, Heath is working alongside individuals and groups that are dedicated to researching alternative family structures and relationships and he sh…
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Abuse in Non-Monogamy feat. Claire Travers from Poly Pages
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Trigger Warning: This episode contains extensive discussion of abuse, coercion, control, alcoholism and drug abuse that might be distressing for some listeners. If these topics could be difficult for you to listen to, maybe consider skipping is week's show. Today we are joined by the founder of the non-monogamy resource Poly Pages Claire Travers. W…
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ENM Activism feat. Brett Chamberlin from OPEN
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It's all about the importance of activism in the non-monogamy space for this episode, and who better to chat to about this than the Co-Founder of the Organisation for Polyamory and Ethical Non-Monogamy, Brett Chamberlin. We talk all about the work OPEN does, why it's vital non-monogamy becomes a protected characteristic in law across the globe and …
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Gimme MORE (Mixed Orientation Relationships)
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WARNING: We briefly discuss coercion, manipulation and abuse in this episode. Today we're talking all about mixed orientation relationships which can be shorted to our favourite acronym to date, MORE. We chat mainly about mono/poly dynamics, how they work and times when they might not. We incorporate some research from Dr. Elisabeth Sheff and chat …
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Swinging 101 feat. Kiley aka 'Sexyswingerchic'
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Want to get into swinging, but don't know how? Curious what 'The Lifestyle' is all about, but not sure where to start? Well, look no further! We're joined by Kiley aka 'Sexyswingerchic' from The Pineapple Express Podcast where we chat about the swinging community, progressive swinging and the outdated stigma attached to it. But first, Rich and Siob…
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How To Win The Fight, Together feat. The Multiamory Podcast
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Today we're joined by Emily, Dedeker and Jase from the Multiamory Podcast. We discuss conflict, how to be better at it and tools to help everyone in a relationship feel understood after an argument. We also put some non-monogamous conflict scenarios to Multiamory and get their take on how to navigate them. First, Rich and Siobhan unpack some questi…
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In this episode we're joined by relationship coach Ro Moëd of 'Unapolygetically' fame. We talk about toxic monogamy, not because we think all monogamy is toxic, but because some ideas in monogamy can easily become toxic when not evaluated or practiced properly. We delve into when monogamy isn't consensual and how toxic relationships have become nor…
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Are Our Partners Just Need-Filling Machines? feat. Sara Youngblood Gregory
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For today's episode, we're joined by author of The Polyamory Workbook Sara Youngblood Gregory. We discuss how freedom-based relationships are different from free-for-alls and why we should avoid focussing on quantity over quality in non-monogamy. Plus, we look at how concepts like capitalism and 'The Bootstrap Mentality' are connected to our relati…
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When someone says they are 'just looking for something casual', what do they mean? How do you work it out? Is 'casual' a red flag? In today's episode, we dive into the world of casual dating. We discuss some research about casual dating and the sex divide in casual relationships between people raised as women and those raised as men. Plus, we explo…
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Microaggressions feat. Jessica Fern
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We're joined by psychotherapist, coach & author Jessica Fern to discuss the impact of microaggressions when you're in a non-monogamous relationship. We dive into the benefits of understanding your reactions to microaggressions, plus we get Jessica to respond to some questions we've been asked as a non-monogamous couple and her responses are game ch…
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Embracing Sex and Self feat. Ellecia Paine
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How can you have the best sex of your life? With today's guest, sex, love and relationship coach Ellecia Paine, we discuss the difference between romance and sex, the problem with 'body counts' and how to use sex to connect with yourself and others. Plus, Ellecia lifts the lid how she went from a monogamous marriage to being non-monogamous and thri…
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Anxiety in Non-Monogamy feat. Lola Phoenix
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Warning: We speak extensively about anxiety and depression in this episode. Today, we are joined by the author of The Anxious Person's Guide to Non-Monogamy, podcaster and advice columnist Lola Phoenix. We chat about how feeling anxiety when exploring non-monogamy can be a normal reaction and how to show yourself and others compassion when difficul…
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Today we welcome our very first guest to the show, Roy Graff! We talk about the importance of vocabulary and how non-monogamous people are often defined what they aren't. We chat about Roy's answer to this problem with his concept 'Multigamy' and query why we add the qualifiers 'ethical' and/or 'consensual' to the term non-monogamy. Plus, Question …
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SURPRISE! Yep, we're just like David Bowie and are out here dropping content without any warning. In this bonus episode we discuss the second season of Channel 4's reality TV show Open House: The Great Sex Experiment. We unpack how non-monogamy is portrayed in the show and chat about language, consent and boundaries. We also introduce our very own …
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DATING! That wasn't the D you were thinking of, was it? Today, we are talking all about dating while in a committed relationship. We discuss everything from the first time your partner(s) go on a date with someone else, what we did to manage jealousy and anxiety around this and how great it is to genuinely experience compersion. Before that, we cha…
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TW: We briefly discuss abuse in relationships in this episode. In this episode, we delve into how we agreed on 'the rules' of our open relationship which we now call our 'Relationship Agreement.' We also talk about cheating and how to redefine it to suit being non-monogamous. Plus, we chat about the importance of communication when setting up bound…
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Our 'origin story.' All superheroes have them, and so does this poly couple! We share how the topic of polyamory first came up, the pain and confusion of letting go of our monogamous relationship so we could have an open one and we discuss polyamory as an orientation versus a lifestyle choice. We finish the episode with the first round of our segme…
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Almost everyone has questions about jealousy when they are exploring the concept of ethical non-monogamy. We talk about what we do when we experience jealousy and how we acknowledge the emotion rather than nurturing it. We also talk about how we managed to free ourselves of crippling and controlling jealousy and how this has bought us closer togeth…
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Hello world! We are Rich and Siobhan and we are thrilled to share with you the official trailer for The Poly (Pod)Cast! We're so excited to have you with us as we lift-the-lid on our experiences of ethical non-monogamy. There are many ways you can keep in touch with us. You can follow us on Instagram and Twitter: @poly_podcast. You can email us: po…
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