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Hello, I am a marital therapist, communications trainer and author. I have thirty-five years helping couples and individuals make better relationships. I have written twenty-plus self-help books which include the international best-sellers ‘I love you but I’m not in love with you’ and ‘How can I ever trust you again?’ My books have been translated into twenty languages. I trained with RELATE the UK’s largest counselling charity. Perhaps it has been turning sixty but I have become interested ...
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In this classic episode, Andrew speaks with coach and teacher Dena Justice about the work she does with women experiencing burnout in their careers and relationships. Despite loving her career, Dena hit a point where she felt empty - she was a classic case of a high performer and leader hitting burnout. That led her to choose a powerful pivot out o…
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The VTScoop crew is at it again, this time breaking down a rollercoaster of a game in Norfolk, that at the end of the day didn't end up particularly close. They then turn to the question of what does it mean as Virginia Tech begins the latter 75% of their season, taking on what should be a significant bump in the talent of their competition, starti…
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Can the ancient teachings of Zen Buddhism help us engage with the challenges work, family and relationships throw our way? Teacher, author and Zen Buddhist priest Peter Coyote believes that they can: his new book, Zen in the Vernacular: Things As It Is, argues that Zen can be both a creative problem-solving mechanism and a moral guide; ideal for th…
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It wasn't always pretty, but the 2024 Hokies picked up their first win of the season. The Inside the Tunnel gang comes together to discuss what went right, and just as impurely, what went wrong offensively in the first half -- before analyzing what the game means for the season as a whole as we look to asses where our expectations for this team sho…
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It isn’t hard as a parent to find advice on breastfeeding, your child’s education or managing their behaviour. What’s rarer is insight into how the parenting journey changes us as a person. Yet, becoming a mother is a unique opportunity to realise the self more fully. In this reissue of a classic episode, Andrew and Lisa take a deep dive into mothe…
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Andrew, Doug and Kolby get together to discuss the overarching question surrounding the Hokies trip to Nashville: "What Happened", before providing an overall preview and discuss what needs to happen for Virginia Tech to get back on track against the Marshall Thundering Herd. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https:…
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Many couples come to me complaining of a dissatisfying love life: some are in a low-sex or no-sex relationship, while others experience sex as boring and mechanical. In this episode, Diana Richardson shares her “Slow Sex” program, and suggests how you can create a more loving sexual partnership, well into old age. We discuss: Tantric sex, love and …
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Send us a text Andy and JC explore the murky world of cyberthreats to biopharma and biomanufacturing with Charles Fracchia, CEO of a Boston startup Black Mesa, currently in stealth mode and co-founder of BIO-ISAC, a BIO-Information Sharing and Analysis Center to educate about threat intelligence, vulnerability identification and mitigation strategi…
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Andrew Alix, Matej Sis, Doug Bowman and Kolby Crawford come at you, as Kolby and Matej are halfway out the door and headed to Music City, USA to see the Virginia Tech Hokies take on the Vanderbilt Commodores in their 2024 debut. Starting with reactions to the initial depth chart, they then move along to discuss the actual Vanderbilt roster and wher…
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Guardian columnist Tim Dowling has spent decades chronicling his marriage and family life for the Weekend magazine. His self-deprecating humour and determinedly cynical approach have made him hugely popular with readers. In this classic episode, Tim and Andrew discuss the layers that go into a joke. What exactly is it that we’re doing when we laugh…
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The whole VTSCOOP 247 Sports crew is in the house for their definitive season preview of the highly anticipated 2024 Virginia Tech football campaign. Taking it game by game, they give you not only their prediction, but the logic behind their analysis on each game. The season is right around the corner, folks. Don't miss this all-hands-on-deck episo…
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As children we were probably taught that being selfish was a great evil, to be avoided at all costs. Jungian analyst and author Bud Harris, however, feels that “sacred selfishness” can be a path to genuine self-love, forgiveness and the wholeness we crave. In this episode, Andrew and Bud discuss How to value ourselves and live meaningful lives we l…
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Matej Sis, Kolby Crawford & Andrew Alix are back, this time starting with the unfinished business of discussing the (backup) quarterback battle and (rotational) running back situation, before diving in deep at each defensive position group. If you want to hear the word out of Blacksburg during fall camp, this might just be the episode for you. To l…
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Some of us try our best never to think about death, while some of us “live in death’s basement”. Composer, academic and psychoanalyst Paul Attinello lived through the suffering and loss of the AIDS epidemic of the 1980s. After testing positive for HIV/AIDS, he built a creative and achievement-filled life, over which death nevertheless always loomed…
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Modern life - careers, technology, the pressures of parenting - can get in the way of our need to form strong attachments to other humans. According to therapist and author Charisse Cooke, when it comes to our intimate relationships, we are increasingly acting from a place of fear. We're scared we will choose the wrong person, or the person we are …
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Andrew, Matej, Doug and Kolby react to the ACC Media Preseason Poll, literally moments after it's release and then proceed to give their take on the offensive line, tight ends, and wide reciever rooms heading into fall camp. Hot takes, predictions and some confusion about which Gosnell we're referring to on this weeks edition of Inside the Tunnel. …
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Send us a text https://bit.ly/3YxRltJ. Andrew Lo, Charles E. & Susan T. Harris Professor of Finance and director of the Laboratory for Financial Engineering at the MIT Sloan School of Management, gives JC and Andy the skinny on his progress in finding new commercialization models for rare diseases. He also reveals plans on implementing his debt sec…
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Too many men struggle to be happy in their intimate relationships, and fail to find a healthy version of masculinity that works for them. Disconnected males, without a strong sense of inner guidance, can behave destructively and even abusively towards those around them. In this classic episode of The Meaningful Life, Andrew talks to Jed Diamond PhD…
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Kolby Crawford joins Andrew, Matej and Doug to discuss his experience and reaction to ACC media day. They touch on recruiting, thoughts on the roster, and insights behind the scenes of Kolby's meteoric rise as a Virginia Tech media personality. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-poli…
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Would you like your life to be less focused on others’ reactions and more informed by your own principles? Would you like to stop feeling responsible for the experiences of others? This week I talk to therapist and author Dr Kathleen Smith about how to stop pleasing other people, find your authentic self, and, in the process, become less anxious an…
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VTSCOOP's Evan G Watkins sits down with Andrew Alix to provide an update on everything happening to the recruiting trail for the Hokies. Fans notice a flood of commitments in recent weeks, and Evan gets into the meat and bones of how the class has shaped out overall, as well as taking a deep dive into the higher profile commitments that have come t…
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We all think of infidelity as something that happens to someone else. When betrayal enters our own safe universe, it comes as a terrible shock. Many couples confronting infidelity end up re-examining just about everything in their lives: not just their marriage, but their work, their relationships with family and friends, and how they find meaning …
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People who have near-death experiences or who survive medically-induced comas report back disturbing and beautiful experiences. Some encounter ultra-vivid nightmares, while others undergo a deep, spiritual oneness with the universe or say they have glimpsed the afterlife. Journalist and author Alan Pearce and his wife, Beverly Pearce, are the autho…
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Send us a text Anne Wyllie, principal investigator at the Yale School of Public Health and pioneer of the Saliva Direct initiative, talks to JC and Andy about the potential of open and collaborative models to transform infectious disease diagnostics and pandemic preparedness. 1) The Gin & Tonic 1 cup ice cubes 2 Oz gin ~4 Oz Schweppes Tonic Water 1…
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The Meaningful Life Classic Episode: Richard Paterson on “No More Overthinking”. Do you struggle to sleep, your mind buzzing with worries about the future? Do you compare yourself to others and find yourself always coming up short? This week’s episode is all about ditching overthinking and seeking happiness that ISN’T determined by external circums…
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If you’re feeling “stuck” in your relationships, asking new kinds of questions can be a powerful way forward. This week Andrew talks with filmmaker and author Topaz Adizes about starting conversations that lead to a deeper, more authentic connection. Andrew and Topaz discuss Topaz’s new book, 12 Questions for Love, and highlight the importance of: …
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The Meaningful Life Classic Episode: TRACEY COX on Great Sex After 50 No-one would deny sex is important to a meaningful life, but what that looks like changes as we age. In this first episode of The Meaningful Life, international sex therapist and Daily Mail columnist Tracey Cox discusses her book Great Sex Starts at 50: How to Age-Proof Your Libi…
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Grief is a painful and confusing journey. Often, the culture encourages us to “move on”, squashing our grief down so that those around us are comfortable. This week Andrew talks to author and grief coach Shelby Forsythia. They discuss: Whether grief can turn “toxic” Coping with other people’s responses Living with grief as your companion Creating g…
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Are you successful in the eyes of family and friends, but still feel empty and a little lost? Is there a nagging voice telling you that your life could have been bigger? Dr Esther Zeledon had scaled the heights of career success as a scientist and international diplomat, but suffered from a strong sense that things weren’t right. She left behind a …
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Send us a text Veronique Kiermer, Chief Scientific Officer and Executive Editor at the Public Library of Science, talks about the myriad ways in which open science is changing the face of research and some of the challenges it poses for AI and the translational arena. 01:55 What is open science? 03:55 What are barriers to openness? 07:28 Early adop…
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Grandparents love to spoil their grandchildren and make them happy, whereas as a parent, you take your responsibility for your children’s health and wellbeing seriously. This, together with different experiences of what childhood means, can be a recipe for anxiety and conflict. In this episode, parenting expert Sue Atkins talks with Andrew about ho…
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Parents like to feel they are independent individuals making their own decisions, but in reality parenting is hugely influenced by our own experiences of childhood. In this classic early episode, Andrew and therapist and author Philippa Perry talk about how we are “links in a chain", and why it is important for parents to recognise that and ensure …
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Virginia Tech takes advantage of the spring transfer period, filled the backup Quarterback role and adding "luxury depth" with a former top 100 overall recruit on the defensive front. The guys break down what it all means, plus add their overall thoughts on the spring on another enthralling episode of Inside The Tunnel. To learn more about listener…
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Each month, 20% of us embark on a new diet. Sadly, 95% of all diets prove unsuccessful. According to psychologist and author Dr Pam Spurr, emotional eating to soothe difficult feelings is to blame. This week Andrew and Pam discuss the ways emotional eating is culturally ingrained, other strategies to self-soothe and how you can develop a more holis…
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As a child, were you made to feel like your feelings didn’t matter, while your parents’ feelings loomed large? Were your boundaries repeatedly crossed? Were you emotionally neglected? If so, you may have been raised by emotionally immature parents. In this episode Andrew talks to TikTok's popular healing transformation coach Dr. Kai Tai Kevin Qiu, …
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Send us a text Nathan Price, currently on leave from the Institute for Systems Biology in Seattle and Chief Scientific Officer at Thorne HealthTech, talks to JC and Andy about his data-driven approach to understanding health and predicting personal trajectories into disease as we age. 03:24 What is scientific wellness? 06:53 Correlates of scientifi…
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Gaslighting is an insidious form of emotional abuse in which a gaslighter undermines and controls another person by deflecting, twisting, and denying their reality. Gaslighting leaves victims second-guessing themselves, unable to make decisions and destabilised by constant shifts in reality. In this week’s episode, Andrew talks to author and psycho…
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Sex and pornography addiction is on the rise. It can affect young and old, rich and poor, male and female. Those who are in the grip of this type of addiction struggle to create and maintain "real-life" relationships, and their partners may experience feelings of grief and betrayal. In this episode Andrew talks with psychotherapist Dr Paula Hall ab…
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An anxious attachment style is very common, and can lead to chaotic and unsuccessful relationships. Research suggests that anxious types are more prone to insecurity, jealousy, codependency, and other behaviours that get in the way of finding and sustaining love. In this episode psychotherapist Jessica Baum talks with Andrew about identifying and u…
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Matej, Doug and Andrew are back to get you geared up and prepared to catch the Spring Game, with a keen eye on what to watch for on Saturday. They also touch on the Kyron Drones rumors, Kenny Brooks departure and the transfer portal exodus within the Men's basketball program. All this & more on another enthralling episode of Inside the Tunnel. To l…
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People-pleasing is an ultimately futile and self-defeating approach to life. If we focus on making everyone else happy, we can end up frustrated, confused and resentful. Ironically, in trying to be “Mr Nice Guy”, people-pleasers often end up driven into behaviour that is anything but nice. This week Andrew talks to therapist and author Dr Robert Gl…
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If our partner really loved us, wouldn’t everything be a lot easier? If they were “the one”, surely we wouldn’t be losing our minds over towels dropped on the bathroom floor? In this episode marital therapist Dr Cheryl Fraser joins Andrew to discuss the destructive myth of the soulmate. According to Cheryl, there is no such thing as a soulmate. Whe…
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Send us a text UCSD's Dan Kaufman, an innovator in the field of induced pluripotent cell (iPSC)-derived natural killer cell therapies, talks to Andy and JC about the latest in allogeneic and autologous immune and regenerative cell therapies at the 2024 Keystone symposium on Emerging Cell Therapies. 02:55 Sourcing and expanding NK cells 05:59 Off-th…
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Good therapy changes lives: people stop worrying as much, they make better decisions, they are kinder to themselves and their loved ones, they achieve more at work, they can control their anger, they are able to stop destructive habits, they form loving relationships. This week therapists Graham Johnston and Matt Wotton talk to Andrew about their n…
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Bonus Pod: Evan G Watkins and Kolby Crawford sit down with new Virginia Tech Director of High School Relations Gunter Brewer. A well traveled veteran, Brewer speaks on his past experience, what he looks forward most having joined the Virginia Tech staff, and much more. All this and more on another excellent edition of Inside the Tunnel. To learn mo…
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Want more college hoops insight and bracket advice? Download and follow the Eye on College Basketball podcast on Apple Podcasts, Spotify or anywhere else you listen to podcasts. The ONLY episode on the NCAA Tournament that you'll ever need is HERE! Gary Parrish and Matt Norlander will break down every game to give you the sleepers, cinderellas, bra…
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How can we live with loss? What can we do when death shakes to the core our comfortable belief that life is predictable, the world is just, and people are reliable? This week Dr Robert A. Neimeyer of the Portland Institute for Loss and Transition joins Andrew to discuss the work of grief. Andrew and Robert discuss the task of rebuilding meaning in …
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Matej, Doug and Andrew are back at it again, this time speculating what the Hokies defense will look like this spring and how it impacts their chances in 2024. If you want want a podcast that breaks it down to the deepest level of depth, well this is the one for you. All this and more on another exhilarating episode of Inside the Tunnel. To learn m…
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Have you allowed yourself to explore your sexual fantasies, or do they feel like dark territory that is off-limits? Have you explored them with your partner? This week I talk to Jungian psychotherapist Dr Douglas Thomas about his new book, The Deep Psychology of BDSM and Kink. We cover: Why it’s so hard to talk about your fantasies with your partne…
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Matej Sis and Doug Bowman are back, joining Andrew Alix to talk about what to watch for on the offensive side of the ball as the Hokies head into Spring Practice. In-depth analysis of position battles across the field, before the boys recap the seasons of both the men's and women's hoops programs. All this and much more on another enthralling episo…
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