When you join a group or community that has a set of rules, is it okay to then ask for an exception to the rules? In today's episode, Erin talks about an interaction where someone wanted to have an exception made for them and her thoughts on it. Listen in to see if you agree with her or feel like exceptions should be the rule. Learn more about Erin…

It's quite common to mask our authentic selves at times to accommodate different situations. In today's episode, Erin delves into some of the most common reasons we mask ourselves and ways to combat it so we can live as our true selves. Learn more about Erin on the MSOM website: https://midlifestateofmindpodcast.com/ Follow MSOM on social media: FB…

Why do we have a tendency to view surrender as defeat? The road to surrendering is often harder than the actual act of surrendering. In today's episode, Erin discusses this and why it's a lot more complicated than just "letting it go." You can follow Erin and her health retreat business parter, Mary, at: https://www.instagram.com/heartledretreatsat…

Doing things you don't like to do is never fun. But, like paying taxes and completing household chores - some things can't be avoided. In today's episode, Erin shares how a recent conversation prompted this episode and some techniques she uses when tackling unpleasant tasks. Learn more about Erin on the MSOM website: https://midlifestateofmindpodca…

Even in the best of relationships, long-term ones can present challenges. Listen in to Erin's tips that she has gleaned from being married for almost 34 years (to the same person :) )and then join in the conversation on MSOM's FB or IG. Learn more about Erin on the MSOM website: https://midlifestateofmindpodcast.com/ Follow MSOM on social media: FB…

All or nothing thinking impedes our self-development, stifles creativity and leaves us feeling unfulfilled in any endeavor we undertake. Not seeing things as either black or white allows us to gain perspective and acknowledge the middle ground in most situations. Listen in as Erin discusses this form of cognitive dissonance and why living in the gr…

In a lot of earth-based traditions there is the idea of the 3 main female archetypes - the Maiden, the Mother and the Crone. In today's episode, Erin explores the general behaviors, attributes and drawbacks for each one. For the women in midlife, the Crone can be an especially interesting time with the transition from the more outwardly focused Mot…

Being your own health advocate is imperative at any stage of life but especially as you begin navigating any potential health concerns of midlife. In this episode, Erin shares why she feels it's important to be your own advocate and ways to accomplish it best. Learn more about Erin on the MSOM website: https://midlifestateofmindpodcast.com/ Follow …

Passing judgement is a natural part of being human. Our brains are making snap judgements continually but it's a fine line between doing it for safety or just being condemnatory. Listen in to today's episode where Erin shares her recent experience with judging and how she works to counter the instinctual habit of doing it. Learn more about Erin on …

Do you ever feel like you're behind the eight ball and not doing enough? It could be in your professional, personal or any aspect of your life. In this episode, Erin dives into her aha moment after recent meetings with experts in social media and marketing. Her takeaway is that instead of relying on what others are telling her that it's important t…

There comes a time where you may begin to question the stories you've been told or had written for you by others. This requires grace, strength and a willingness to look inward and trust your own wisdom. It's important to ask yourself, what are you willing to let go of, abolish or rewrite? Listen in to today's episode to hear Erin discuss this deep…

How do you handle unsolicited input/advice? Do you find yourself giving unsolicited input/advice to others? In today's episode, Erin dives into the whys behind both of these phenomena and how to handle them. Learn more about Erin on the MSOM website: https://midlifestateofmindpodcast.com/ Follow MSOM on social media: FB: https://www.facebook.com/mi…

Fear is our strongest emotion and for good reason...it's kept us alive as a species for millennia. But it also keeps us from living to our fullest potential. Listen in as Erin shares how to tell fear to take a hike! Learn more about Erin on the MSOM website: https://midlifestateofmindpodcast.com/ Follow MSOM on social media: FB: https://www.faceboo…

In this episode, Erin discusses the benefits of being a "late bloomer" in midlife. Listen in to hear why she doesn't like the term late bloomer but rather believes everything happens at just the right time. Learn more about Erin on the MSOM website: https://midlifestateofmindpodcast.com/ Follow MSOM on social media: FB: https://www.facebook.com/mid…

Do you always have to get the last word in? If so, this episode is for you! Getting the last word can be for many different reasons but ultimately it always has the same outcome - it shuts down communication and doesn't lend itself to any sort of resolution. Listen in as Erin shares her thoughts on getting the last word. Learn more about Erin on th…

Is there a magical age where one feels like an adult? Or, is it when you acquire a job, mortgage, or have kids? In today's episode, Erin explores the dilemma of being an adult but not feeling like an adult. She talks about several factors that contribute to this phenomena of not truly feeling like an adult. Weigh in with your thoughts and experienc…

Are you a trend follower? Or do you buck them? In this episode, Erin explores the bandwagon effect and why we jump on it as well of some of the benefits and drawbacks of following the latest and greatest trends. Tune in to listen to some surprising truths about going why we go with the crowd. Learn more about Erin on the MSOM website: https://midli…

In today's episode, Erin shares 3 things that she feels every midlife women should know - health stats, financial status and life's purpose. Listen in and decide if you think these are important and if there are any other things you would add to the list. Health checklist: https://www.mdsave.com/media/womens-health-checkup-checklist Fitness checkli…

There is no denying that hormones have a powerful effect on our bodies. Having balanced hormones, especially in midlife, is key to physical, emotional and mental health. In this episode, Erin shares some helpful lifestyle choices to help keep your hormones happy. Please note that the information shared is not intended to be medical advice and you s…

Grief is a unique experience for each person and holding space for someone else experiencing grief is one of the most selfless things we can do. In this episode, Erin shares ways to hold space for others to process the deep and complicated feelings that can accompany grief. Learn more about Erin on the MSOM website: https://midlifestateofmindpodcas…

Non-attachment frees us from being taken hostage by our preferences, thoughts and expectations allowing us to be fully present with what is occurring. In this episode, Erin explores the types of attachment and strategies for overcoming attachments that lead to suffering. Listen in and then share your thoughts via email or on MSOM socials. Learn mor…

For the last episode of 2023, Erin shares her thoughts on focusing on the start of something rather than just the end goal. Stayed tuned for new episodes in 2024! Learn more about Erin on the MSOM website: https://midlifestateofmindpodcast.com/ Follow MSOM on social media: FB: https://www.facebook.com/midlifestateofmindpodcast IG: https://www.insta…

Society places great value on monetizing anything we create. What happens when we flip the script and create just to create? In this episode, Erin welcomes back Ellisia to talk about how we are created to create and how releasing ourselves from that burden allows us authentic expression. Check out Ellisia's son's IG here: https://www.instagram.com/…

Being mediocre gets a bad rap in our culture of exceptionalism. In today's episode, Erin shares her take on how doing your best - even if it is mediocre - is where the excellence lies. Have thoughts on the topic of being mediocre? Share them on our social media pages or email midlifestateofmindpodcast@gmail.com. Learn more about Erin on the MSOM we…

Erin and Belinda are hosting the first Midlife State of Mind Podcast wellness retreat in the Tuscan region of Italy this week. We encourage you to use this week to catch up on any episodes and we will return with a new episode next week. Learn more about Erin and Belinda on their website: https://midlifestateofmindpodcast.com/ Follow them on social…

In this thought-provoking episode, Erin and Belinda explore the intricacies of closure in relationships. They dive into our innate storytelling nature, always in pursuit of the classic story arc: a beginning, a middle, and an end. However, life often leaves us without the tidy endings we desire from others. Listen in as they share strategies for fi…

Erin and Belinda, charismatic and insightful hosts of the show, draw upon their experiences in the realm of relationships to shed light on the Four Horsemen: Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness and Stonewalling. Together they provide listeners with a fresh perspective on identifying and addressing these destructive patterns that can plague any relat…

Have you ever accomplished a big goal or achievement and felt a rush of happiness only to have it quickly fade? If so, you're not alone. In today's episode, Belinda and Erin explore the concept of arrival fallacy - a term coined by Dr. Tal Ben-Sharar, a Harvard trained positive psychologist. Listen in as they give helpful ways to counter this destr…

Join Erin and Belinda for a discussion on resilience in midlife. Discover how embracing change, learning from mistakes and trying new things can lead to personal growth. Hear how prioritizing self-care and finding your purpose during this transformative phase of life can be so powerful. Tune in for practical insights from your favorite midlife ladi…

In this episode, Erin and Belinda take you on a journey to confront some of the fears that may hold us back in midlife. Discover how and why we develop patterns that keep us stuck in our comfort zones. Learn ways to step out of fear and embrace a more fulfilling life! Read more about Erin and Belinda and their upcoming retreat in Italy on their web…

Books have the ability to explore the world without leaving our homes, to learn more about ourselves and others, and to entertain and amuse us. In this episode, Belinda and Erin share some of their current and favorite fiction and nonfiction books and the impact they have had on them. Erin's books: The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk Th…

Are you affected by violent or intense movies, feeling unsettled after watching? Do loud noises and bright lights overwhelm you? Have you considered the possibility that you might be a highly sensitive person? Join Belinda and Erin as they discuss the traits of being a highly sensitive individual. They share some of the challenges HSPs face and str…

In this episode Erin and Belinda delve into the world of forgetfulness, a common experience that can be both amusing and concerning. Join us as we explore the reasons behind forgetfulness, particularly in middle-age. From the impacts of aging to the role of technology, nutrition, and lifestyle, we uncover practical strategies to boost memory and co…

In this episode, join Belinda and Erin as they empower you to take control of your cravings. Don't let cravings highjack you - learn valuable insights into distinguishing between physiological and psychological cravings. Discover effective strategies for managing cravings, plus, get an exclusive preview of Erin's upcoming Post-Summer Reset, set to …

Each stage of a child's life presents unique challenges for parents. Join hosts Erin and Belinda as share valuable insights from personal experiences, providing valuable advice on cultivating and maintaining healthy relationships with adult children. Tune in to this episode for thoughtful discussions on navigating the changing dynamics with your gr…

Discussing the importance of honesty in relationships , whether friendships or intimate ones, Belinda and Erin explore the reasons people lie, how to handle when someone lies to you, and how to reflect on your personal relationship with honesty, even with yourself. Some questions to consider: 1.Have you recently caught yourself telling a lie? What …

In this episode, Erin and Belinda discuss the intricacies of apologizing, exploring vulnerability, ego and the essential skill of rebuilding trust. Discover practical steps to decode sincerity and enhance the process of nurturing meaningful connections. Read more about Erin and Belinda and their upcoming retreat in Italy on their website: https://m…

Erin and Belinda explore the reasons we avoid stillness, confront discomfort in silence and share insights on the benefits of carving out moments of calm for a more mindful, balanced life. Tune in and discover the power of being still. Poem quoted "The Guest House" by Rumi.By Erin Beadle and Belinda Fleming

Join Belinda and Erin on this episode as they explore peeling back the layers of assumptions. Delve deep into the underlying reasons behind our tendency to make assumptions and discover why it's crucial to cultivate self-awareness and inquiry in order to break free from this cognitive trap. The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom…

In this episode, join Belinda for a transformative guided meditation that takes you to the heart of enchanting Tuscany, igniting self-discovery. Experience the remarkable essence of travel as it awakens you spirit and inspires you to embark on our October retreat at Ebbio. We invite you to join Erin & Belinda on a soulful journey reclaiming your wh…

It's challenging when we have others in our life and we don't agree with their choices. But our acceptance of them and their choices is a must and it does not mean we are giving our approval. Belinda and Erin talk about how accepting others begins with accepting ourselves and when we do both we can experience more peace. Read more about Erin and Be…

Everyone complains but the type of complaining makes a difference. There are three types - two are constructive - venting and problem-solving and the less constructive of dwelling. Belinda and Erin talk about how to counter the habit of complaining by becoming self-aware, mindful and using gratitude as tool. Book referenced: Little Book of Inner Pe…

Self-discipline is the ability to push yourself forward, stay motivated and take action regardless of how you're feeling physically or emotionally. Erin and Belinda talk about the benefits of self-discipline and ways to build more of it in your life. Read more about Erin and Belinda and their retreat on their website: https://midlifestateofmindpodc…

We've all heard the saying - it's better to give than receive, but when does giving too much become a problem?!? Listen in as Belinda and Erin talk about the reasons people give and how giving too much can lead to resentment, frustration and fatigue. They share ways to set boundaries so that you don't fall into the trap of always being the giver an…

Catastrophizing or thinking worst-case scenario is all too common in our stressed out society. It has major physical and mental health implications. Belinda and Erin talk about some ways to stop the knee-jerk reaction to imagining the worst and instead reframing your thoughts to stay in the present moment. Read more about Erin and Belinda and their…

We are bombarded with how society tells us we should be living our lives so it can be hard to go against the norm. Belinda and Erin talk about ways you can begin to live a life authentic to you. The book Erin referenced is The Four Desires: Creating a Life of Purpose, Happiness, Prosperity and Freedom by Rod Stryker. Read more about Erin and Belind…

You may have heard the saying that realistic expectations are premeditated resentments. In today's episode, Belinda and Erin discuss how it's imperative to manage expectations while not lowering them. As "expected" communication is the key! Read more about Erin and Belinda and their retreat on their website: https://midlifestateofmindpodcast.com/ F…

Rituals and routines are often used interchangeably, but there is a difference. While both are a series of actions regularly and invariably followed, rituals have a symbolic meaning attached to them where routines do not. Belinda and Erin talk about the history and types of rituals and the important role they can play in your life. The book Belinda…

Erin is solo this week diving into the catalyst for the podcast as well as the upcoming retreat she and Belinda are hosting in Italy in October of 2023. Get a sneak peek into the program "Reclaiming Your Wholeness" and how it will be such a transformative and powerful experience for our retreat goers. Read more about Erin and Belinda and their retr…

Society has a love affair with comfort which could ultimately end up killing us. We've engineered our lives to a moderate temperature, access to food 24/7 and when things don't meet our desires we complain. Erin and Belinda talk about how comfort kills and how good things come from getting out of your comfort zone. Check out Michael Easter's and hi…