Something Private is a podcast about everything related to the vagina. From sex, to health, and the society. Hosted by Nicole, we’re gonna have three am sleepover conversations about love, life, and why you have that wart on your vagina. Featuring stories from gynaecologists, experts, and your everyday girl, it’s about time we had these conversations out loud. Produced by WII.FM, reach us at nicole@somethingprivate.fm.
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Reviewing Essential Feminist Book Titles with Amanda Chong
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It’s been a while since our last episode, but that’s because WE’VE BEEN READING! That’s right, if you’ve come across bookstagram, booktube and now booktok, you’d know that reading is IN now. On this episode, we chat with Amanda Chong, lawyer, poet, and co-founder of ReadAble, to discuss some essential feminist reads - except they aren’t the usual p…
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Social Media Burnout is Real, We Know You Feel It
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WE KNOW YOU... endlessly scrolling TikTok before bed every night! Social media is a form of entertainment, escapism, and relaxation for many of us, but we all know consuming too much of it is bad. Depression, anxiety, self-absorption, not to mention feeling overwhelmed from the sheer amount of content, are effects that many of us are learning to gr…
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Is it a Toxic Relationship, or Have You Been Groomed Online?
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It usually starts off with a simple "Hello, you're cute", but can quickly escalate to a sexually explicit message. In a generation of tech-savvy individuals, it's hard to imagine that any of us will fall victim to online grooming, and yet two out of three secondary school students in Singapore received unwanted sexual content online, according to M…
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Harassed and Bullied Online, These Influencers Struck Back
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CONTENT WARNING: Death threats "You're FAT!" and "You should kill yourself" are just some of the many nasty comments that Christabel Chua and Mathilda Huang receive on the daily. Cyberbullying and online harassment are real; chances are, you've probably been a target of a nasty comment, an unsolicited picture, or maybe had your information shared w…
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Voyage to the Vulva-Verse V: How to Love and Respect Your Body
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Body positivity started out as a global movement against the oppressive societal standard that small and skinny equals beautiful. These days, brands and influencers alike claim it as a means to market their clothes to women of all sizes, but Beckie Liu from Haikini wants to challenge that. To her, changing your mindset from thinking about what your…
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Voyage to the Vulva-Verse IV: How to Empower Women to Take Charge of their Sexual Health
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A trip to the doctor's to get birth control can be an embarrassing and time-consuming activity for some of us, so the team at Ease Healthcare came up with a solution. Discreet, affordable, and convenient access to birth control, from the comfort of your home and delivered under 4 hours? GOOD THINGS CAN HAPPEN TO GOOD PEOPLE! We chat with Guada from…
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Voyage to the Vulva-Verse III: How Unrealistic Beauty Standards Harm Us
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It’s 2021… I don’t know about you, but we’re rejecting outdated notions of beauty society has imposed on us! We take what makes us feel good on the inside, and leave behind what doesn’t! Take it from Kate Low, who grew up in the era of Victoria’s Secret Fashion Shows (push up bras, flat tummies, long slender legs). She’s since built a lingerie bran…
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Voyage to the Vulva-verse II: How Social Media and Pornography Causes Genital Shame
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We live in the age of social media, which means, it’s hard not to compare every aspect of our lives, our bodies, with others, including how our genitals look. Although many of us feel shame in talking about our genitals, when we’re asked to think about what a “normal” vulva looks like, we have an image in our minds: small, pink, hairless, tucked in…
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Ep 063: A Conversation About Race with Singapore's youngest minority MP, Raeesah Khan
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IT’S THE FINAL EPISODE OF OUR SEASON! And we have a special one, featuring Singapore’s youngest female minority MP, Raeesah Khan. It’s been a year since one of Singapore’s most iconic general elections, and incidentally also a year since Raeesah was investigated for alleged online comments about race. We speak with her about her journey in politics…
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Ep 062: On Adulting, Love and Health with Narelle Kheng
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Narelle Kheng needs no introduction. She’s one of the most iconic millennials of Southeast Asia, having made it to the Forbes 30 Under 30 Asia List in 2019. But beyond her luxurious music career and glamorous persona, Narelle is just like any one of us. The outspoken advocate for mental health struggles with everyday adulting problems, like managin…
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Voyage to the Vulva-verse I: How Your Vulva Grows With You
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It’s curious to note the amount of resources we spend on skin care, but only for the skin on our face. Much like our face, our vulvas go through A LOT of change in our lifetime, but are often neglected; some of us even go through our lives never knowing what things look like down there! But why is it important to care about these changes, if well, …
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Ep 061: Falling in Love When You Have Autism
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DATING IS HARD… For people like Michelle who was diagnosed with Aspergers at age two, dating is EVEN harder. At first glance, you'll never guess that someone like her has an autism spectrum disorder (ASD), because of preconceived notions our society has towards people living on the spectrum. One of which is that they are incapable of having romanti…
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Ep 060: Nic Kim Column - Do We Have Unfair Expectations of Men?
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“Eh don’t pussy la bro, don’t be a SIMP.” When the director of AWARE, Corinna Lim, called for a “review of national service to weed out toxic masculinity”, the internet retaliated. From comments like “NOT ALL MEN”, to “Women should do NS too” and even “What about toxic femininity?”, the conversation around toxic masculinity was thrown back into the…
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What does it take to start a family? For same-sex couples in Singapore, the reality is expensive and illegal. But for Brenda and Pearlyn, who have been together for 17 years, they knew from the moment they met each other, that having a child was a priority. Despite naysayers who accuse them of being “selfish” for subjecting a child to a same-sex pa…
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Ep 058: The Fight To End Sexual Violence on Every Street in Indonesia
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Two years ago, an Indonesian woman was handed a six-month jail term after reporting evidence against her harasser, highlighting how women in the world’s most populous Muslim-majority nation struggles with legal recourse when sexually harassed. Harassment is rife all around the world, Indonesia, a country ranked the most dangerous for women to live …
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Ep 057: Nic Kim Column - The Subtle Forms of Harassment We Ignore
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Have you ever been stared at by a stranger in public for too long? Or been told a sexual joke by a friend which made you uncomfortable? A study by the UN revealed that 97 percent of women in the U.K. aged 18 to 24 have experienced some form of harassment in public, but over 70 percent endure it. In this episode, Nicole and Kim discuss the difficult…
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Ep 056: Ladies, Let’s have a Heart-to-Heart about your Heart
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Did you know, broken heart syndrome is a thing? AND, women are more prone to it. No, this doesn’t make us weaker, just that men and women are biologically different. But the differences in heart health between the genders don’t just stop there. Enter Dr Low and Dr Laureen, two cardiologists running one of Singapore’s first gender-tailored healthcar…
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Ep 055: Sis, You Might Have Cysts ft. Food Entrepreneur Ili Sulaiman
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Malaysian celebrity chef Ili Sulaiman is not shy to share about living with three types of hormonal disorders - polycystic ovarian syndrome (PCOS), endometriosis and thyroid deficiency - conditions that affect at least 1 in 10 women globally. Since opening up about her endometriosis surgery to 127K followers on Instagram last October, she’s become …
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Ep 054: How’d You Like Your Eggs? Fertilised or Frozen?
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Egg freezing is the future of women’s reproductive freedom and rights. Around the world, companies like Facebook and Apple pay for their employees to freeze their eggs, but in Asia, some governments have made social egg freezing illegal in fear of promoting late motherhood, while others have chosen to leave it unregulated. Enter Juhee An, founder o…
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Ep 053: The Miraculous Story of Takalah Tan
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❗️WARNING: This episode includes recounts of suicide attempts.❗️ It’s the last week of what has been a really difficult year, so we want to share a story of hope. In 1994, 24-year-old Tan Kok Liang had everything set out for him - a prestigious job, a loving girlfriend, and had a series of accomplishments to his name. But a tragic accident one day,…
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Ep 052: What Our Interviewees Taught us About Mental Health in 2020, with Our Grandfather Story
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2020 has been a difficult year, but through adversity comes some of the greatest stories. On this episode, Nicole and Wenqi from popular storytelling platform, Our Grandfather Story, take a hike and reflect on some of their best interviews. From speaking with COVID-19 patients and front line workers, volunteers with lower income groups across Singa…
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Ep 051: My Mum and I Consult a Doctor about HPV
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We’re sure you’ve heard of the human papillomavirus (HPV); or at least, you might’ve heard that you should get protected against it, because it can help prevent cancer and other diseases in both men and women. Uh-oh, the mums are quaking in the corner now… because to her, why do you need to think about HPV prevention, if you’re not sexually active …
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Boys... we love them... and that's why we're dedicating an episode to them, for them and about them! We can't really call ourselves feminists, if we don't address the inequalities our boys face, because feminism is about equality of the sexes. On our 50th episode (yay!) we speak with Sean and Darren from Noah, a discreet men’s telehealth clinic, ab…
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Ep 049: The Nic Kim Column - The Most Important Relationship is the One with Yourself
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We’ve spoken to experts and strong women across 40 episodes now, but what about ordinary everyday women like you and I? After three seasons, Nicole is finally inviting a co-host on board. Meet Kimberly, and welcome to the Nic Kim column! On this episode, we discuss what being a 20-something Southeast Asian woman navigating society is like. From mod…
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Ep 048: Erotic Stories About Punjabi Widows and More, with Balli Kaur Jaswal
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There are few things as intimate as listening to a podcast, reading is one of them. On this episode, we speak with Singaporean novelist, Balli Kaur Jaswal, about the role stories play in helping us explore and intimate side of ourselves, in a culture and society that’s modern and yet conservative all the same. Balli’s international debut novel, Ero…
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Ep 047: The White Paper on Gender Equality
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In early September, Singapore announced plans for a White Paper on gender equality to be published by 2021. To us at Something Private we say: It’s about time! But what does this white paper entail, how can we get involved, and most importantly, how does it address the mindset problem our country faces? We speak with Minister of State, Sun Xueling,…
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Ep 046: In Her Words - My Mum Hid her Breast Cancer from us
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Noorindah enjoyed a candid and open relationship with her mother; they often joked about sex. So when her mother was diagnosed with stage four breast cancer, Noorindah felt angry, hurt, and disappointed that she was kept in the dark. It’s been a year since Noorindah’s mother passed, four days after her diagnosis. On this episode, Noorindah shares h…
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Ep 045: In Her Words - I Checked Myself into a Psychiatric Ward
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This World Mental Health Day, we want to know, how are you doing, really? Belle, a healthcare professional, felt anxious and depressed having just moved back to Singapore for work, but ignored the signs. After all, health professionals shouldn’t struggle with mental health issues, right? But when she couldn’t get out of bed one day, it struck her t…
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Ep 044: In Her Words - I Rose Above Being Publicly Humiliated and Made History
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Marylyn Tan made history as the first woman to win the Singapore Literature book prize earlier this month, with her debut collection, GAZE BACK. But her achievement stemmed from a violence done to her almost a decade ago, when she was videotaped against her will doing a homosexual sexual act in school. Young Marylyn was prosecuted harshly, while he…
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Ep 043: In Her Words - My Ex was Emotionally Abusive, now I’m a Single Mom
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A common trait of an emotionally abusive relationship is when the abuser is compassionate in public but cruel in private. Jenny* lived through years of verbal insults and suicide threats from her ex-husband, but the final straw came when her three year old son had to “protect” her from a fight that nearly broke out. Today, Jenny* is safer, but refl…
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Ep 042: In Her Words - My Life as a Feminist Cosplayer
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Meet 23-year-old Rea kami. She’s one of Singapore’s most popular cosplayers, with a combined following of 50K on Instagram and Facebook, over 7K followers on TikTok, and thousands of views Twitter and Twitch. She’s also, a feminist LGBTQ+ activist, who speaks up about issues like racism and inequality to her global audience. How does a feminist thr…
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Ep 041: In Her Words - My Father Hit Me, so I Left Home
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❗️WARNING: This episode contains content that might be disturbing to some❗️ When home is not a safe place, where do individuals living in an expensive, population dense city seek refuge? Deborah shares her story as a survivor of domestic violence, and how her new found independence has allowed her space to reflect on how to make amends with her fam…
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Ep 040: Finding Love in Your Twenties, on a Wheelchair
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There’s a misconception that disabled persons can’t have sex, or have no sexual desires. Truth is, they’re just like any of us, with the same intimacy wants and needs. Zohra and Liang Le spent most of their lives able-bodied, until a car accident and spine condition led them to becoming wheelchair users. While most 20-something year olds grapple wi…
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WE INTERRUPT YOUR DAY WITH AN IMPORTANT EPISODE ON CONSTITUTIONAL RIGHTS. Singaporeans are really exceptional planners, except when it comes to the topic of harassment, rape or abuse. When a loved one, a friend, or perhaps even you, face abuse, do you know what next steps you can take to protect yourself? Many were outraged at the outcomes of sever…
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Ah! The elusive female orgasm… shrouded in MYSTERY. For the longest time, no one knew if it really was a thing, simply because it had no effect on reproduction. But our conservative Asian society is slowly growing more open to talking about sex and exploring pleasure! According to vibrator company Smile Makers, the sale of vibrators DOUBLED this qu…
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Alternative menstrual products are HOT these days... everyone be talking about how the menstrual cup "changed their life"! Really? Stuffing a silicon cup up a bloody gateway sounds more terrifying than life changing! But every girl is different, so how do you figure out what suits you the best? Olivia Cotes-James, founder of LUÜNA Naturals, a susta…
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Ep 036: Surviving a Mental Health Pandemic
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COVID-19 isn’t just a health crisis, mental health professionals warn of a looming mental health crisis following prolonged periods of isolation and bad news. But this might actually be... GOOD? Putting mental health in the spotlight, may destigmatize getting help for it. We're joined by psychiatrist Dr Kamini Rajaratnam, who dishes out the science…
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Ep 035: Preetipls on Standing by Your Beliefs and Having Tough Conversations
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Preeti Nair, better known as Preetipls, makes the tongue-in-cheek claim to be “Singapore's top influencer”. Behind her satirical approach to her content, Preeti is wellknown to be outspoken on issues like racial justice. Who can forget the brownface saga of 2019 that left her in a messy situation with the law minister? 😳 On the second part of this …
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Ep 034: Preetipls Speaks Up About Race, Migrant Worker Rights and Influence
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Preeti Nair, better known as Preetipls, makes the tongue-in-cheek claim to be “Singapore's top influencer”. Behind her satirical approach to her content, Preeti is known to be outspoken on issues like racial justice. Who can forget the brownface saga of 2019 that left her in a messy situation with the law minister? 😳 When COVID-19 hit, a wave of an…
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We are BACK! WITH A BRAND NEW SEASON!! And just in time to celebrate pride month! 🌈💖💖 At Something Private, we’ve always been about filling silence with conversation, and it’s been a privilege to do that for 2 seasons and counting. This season, we want to share our space with our allies, because the fight for equality is done through solidarity. Bu…
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Ep 032: A Philanthropist’s Mission to Empower Survivors of Sex Trafficking
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60,000 women and minors are estimated by UNICEF to be victims of sex trafficking in the Philippines, with some as young as 7 years old. Rebecca Eu is on a mission to stop this. Rebecca, who has been volunteering in the Philippines since she was 20, has heard one too many stories of girls forced into this sex trade to help lift their families out of…
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Eu as in…. Eu Yan Sang? Like the TCM shop that sells bird's nest? 🥵🥵As the youngest daughter of one of the wealthiest Singaporean families, Rebecca grew up different from most of us. When you have 140 years of family history in the making, it’s almost impossible to ignore the familial pressure and generational trauma that will be passed down. Growi…
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Ep 030: Together, Apart - A COVID-19 Special
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Hello, how are you coping, this COVID-19? It’s been a confusing and unsettling couple of weeks for many of us (hang in there sweetie!!) but amidst global panic are some instances of society being inherently good. From having online dinner parties, to first dates over zoom, society is getting CREATIVE in a bid to stay connected. We're seeing the wor…
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Ep 029: Megan’s Community of Sisters Who Sweat
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Girls, ever been afraid to hit the gym alone? 🥵Maybe you’re afraid of getting judged, or being the only woman in the room… well, WE 💯 RELATE. But together, we are stronger! At least, that’s the philosophy of fitness influencer Megan Yit when she first created the Telegurrrs group chat. What started out as a platform to find workout buddies, very qu…
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Ep 028: Fitness Influencer Megan Yit On Her Three Year Long Fitness Spiral
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Megan Yit was in a three year long fitness spiral, and nobody knew. Better known as @_hiccuppieeyelashiejellie on Instagram, she was one of Singapore’s first and youngest Instagram fitness influencers, with 40,000 followers at her peak back in 2015. With a strict exercise routine and diet, she was a #fitspo for many with a body many would kill to h…
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Ep 027: Matchmaking - A Modern Love Solution
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Love in the 21st century might be synonymous with dating apps, and can be quite painful. When you judge a potential partner entirely based on their height and whether they have a chiseled jawline, it’s no wonder romance can quickly fizzle out. Enter a dating agency’s modern solution - relationship profiling and compatibility matching. GaiGai has a …
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Ep 026: In Her Words - My Life as a Circumcised Muslim Female
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'In Her Words' is a sub-series from Something Private — a space for women to share deeply personal stories of unspeakable pains and triumph, faith and strength. In this third episode, we hear from a Malay-Muslim female* who has undergone female circumcision, or sunat perempuan, in Singapore. She shares that growing up, sunat was very much a norm fo…
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Ep 025: The Young Women Fighting Campus Sexual Harassment Part II
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👏GIRLS🤝HELPING🤝GIRLS🤝HELPING🤝GIRLS👏 Heather, Yunrong, Danelia and Dawn are four young women at the frontlines of fighting campus sexual harassment in Singapore. Their campaign, Girl, Talk, could not come at a better time. What does #MeToo look like in a country that ranks high on the global index for gender equality? The answer lies in the hands of…
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Ep 024: The Young Women Fighting Campus Sexual Harassment
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👏GIRLS🤝HELPING🤝GIRLS🤝HELPING🤝GIRLS👏 Last May was a turning point for student activism against campus sexual harassment in Singapore, with Monica Baey at the forefront leading young women to stand up to their perpetrators. But not every girl is like Monica, many still don’t come to terms with signs of harassment, or don’t know how to respond. That i…
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It’s Valentine’s Day tomorrow! ❣️LOVE IS IN THE AIR❣️ We hear from Jojo, a 25-year-old lawyer who has been in a polyamorous relationship for almost five years now. Jojo shares about how polyamory might not be suitable for everyone, and how it’s important to recognise this. Her advice? Polyamory is definitely not a solution for couples that have exp…
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