Do you have to step out of your comfort zone to be interesting? Yes, but shattering your comfort zone isn’t the answer, do this instead. Let's dig in. Good things happen outside your comfort zone. If we all stayed within our comfort zones, we'd be on the couch watching Reels all day. While that's safe and low-risk, it means missing out on opportuni…

Do you ever feel nervous meeting new people? Here's a game-changing concept: You don't have to like everyone, and not everyone has to like you. This realization can make your interactions smoother and less nerve-wracking. ✅ Embrace that not every interaction will be magical. ✅ Increase your "surface area of luck" by meeting more people. ✅ Focus on …

A belief that you need to unlearn is “You need to be perfect to succeed” “Perfect” can take many forms socially... “I need to say something really profound in this meeting.” “I could say that thing, but it’s not interesting enough.” “I could ask this question, but it might sound silly.” "Perfect" is that imaginary bar that you need to jump over to …

Do you want to make more friends, build your network, and throw parties that make people say “I can’t WAIT for the next one!”? My guest Nick Gray is here to show you how! He’s sharing secrets straight from his book The 2-Hour Cocktail Party. In this episode, you’ll learn: How throwing a cocktail party will expand your network. How to get 90% attend…

Note: Video version of this episode is on YouTube here: https://youtu.be/331eiJKvKIc Look, we’ve ALL been in social situations where we feel a little nervous. Maybe we want to make a good first impression, be more charismatic and charming, or just have a good interaction. In this episode, we’ll look at 5 ways to be charming even when you’re nervous…

Note: This episode is on YouTube here. Wonder Woman has... Super strength. Super speed. A Super lasso. Gal Gadot has a superpower too: super charisma. In this video, I'll breakdown 5 ways Gal Gadot displays charisma and how you can adapt them for your own personal charisma. Hop in your invisible jet, grab your lasso of truth and enjoy this episode …

I used to think time travel would be awesome...until I read an 1883 etiquette book. Life in the 1880s: 17 drinks before breakfast. Waiting for the automobile to be invented. Some light assault of service people. More drinking. Grab your powdered wig, dust off your top hat, get in your horse and buggy and let’s learn some Victorian-era etiquette! NE…

Have you ever wondered how to not be boring in a conversation? Maybe you really want to be more interesting, but you don't know how, maybe you KNOW deep down that you’re not boring, but you just need some pointers. In part 2 of this series, we're going to cover 4 ways you can be less boring and more interesting in a conversation. NEXT STEP: QUIZ - …

Building the skill of being witty in conversation is super important. When you meet a new person at work, for example, and you're able to crack a joke, it demonstrates that you don't take yourself too seriously, have a good sense of humor, and are socially skilled. All good things! If you've ever wondered how to be witty in conversation, this episo…

It's been two YEARS since I've done a Q&A show. That's far too long! Today, we're going to cover three questions: 1. How can you make conversation with the company CEO in the elevator? 2. Should you skip small talk and jump right to big talk? 3. How can you feel comfortable around new people? Let's dive in! NEXT STEP: QUIZ - Do you know what your c…

Building the SKILL of talking to anyone with confidence is SO important. If you're not able to communicate with confidence, it'll be more difficult to advance in your career, lead/inspire your team at work, or be confident in a social situation. In this episode (video here on YouTube), I'll show you 5 ways to talk to anyone with confidence. You'll …

If you've ever wondered how to network with people, you're not alone. When someone says "Networking" it makes me think of American Psycho where a bunch of yuppies sit around comparing business cards. "MY GOD...IT EVEN HAS A WATERMARK." Networking doesn't have to feel that way! And in 2020, most networking is sending a DM or email. But how can you g…

Have you ever wondered how to not be boring in a conversation? Maybe you really want to be more interesting, but you don't know how, maybe you KNOW deep down that you’re not boring, but you just need some pointers. This episode is for you. I'll cover 6 ways you can be less boring and more interesting in conversation. NEXT STEP: QUIZ - Do you know w…

How To Be A Great Storyteller. Having the skill of telling a few good stories is a really important people skill. Pulling out a great story can be a fantastic way of entertaining people, providing information or even persuading others. In this episode, I'm going to break down a story by Bill Hader and walk you through 4 tips on how to tell a great …

In this episode, I'll share 5 tips to help you stop being shy. I spent YEARS being shy, and it was really hard, because I knew that I had so much that I wanted to contribute in social situations. These tips will help you break the shyness cycle and be less quiet in your next social interaction. NEXT STEP: QUIZ - Do you know what your communication …

Look, if you have a habit of people-pleasing, you probably get requests like ... "Can you hop on this Zoom Meeting?" "Hey, can you drive me to the Airport on Friday?" "Hey, can you petsit my Egyptian Pharaoh Hound? He requires constant fanning with a palm leaf." People pleasers tend to say "Yes!" too much. And it comes with a cost! The more you say…

"Just fake it until you make it!" This is popular advice-especially if you're trying to improve your people skills. Should you fake it until you make it? The more we take action and do something, the more our identity moves to align with the version of us that does that new thing. Our thoughts FOLLOW our actions. In this episode, I'll walk you thro…

Should you care what other people think? There’s a lot of advice floating around telling us to not care what other people think. (Sometimes in more...colorful language than that.) I’ve never liked the concept of NGAF. But the reality is, caring less about the outcome of any given social interaction can massively help your people skills. In this epi…

If you've ever looked around the room and thought... "I'm an imposter! What am I DOING here?!" Then you've experienced imposter syndrome. In this episode, we'll drop-kick imposter syndrome and also teach you how to use your ego as a tool. --- People mentioned: Scott Adams Platon --- Be sure to go to Become More Compelling and get your free 56-minut…

Most people hesitate socially. "Should I say this or that?" "I don't want to rock the boat!" It's time to get BOLD. In this episode, we'll talk about how to be socially bold. --- Be sure to go to Become More Compelling and get your free 56-minute audio guide on joining & enjoying group conversations. (You'll also get articles, podcasts, videos and …

The intent you carry into any social situation matters! If you're not thinking about the right things, it can make having great social outcomes MUCH harder. In this episode, we'll talk about social intent and what you can do before your next Zoom meeting, first date, or dinner party. (After COVID-19 quarantines clear) --- Be sure to go to Become Mo…

Look-real talk: Socially awkward moments happen. For most of us, an awkward moment can ruin a conversation, first date, or am important meeting. Not anymore. In this episode: How to bounce back from awkward moments. --- Be sure to go to Become More Compelling and get your free 56-minute audio guide on joining & enjoying group conversations. (You'll…

Have you ever been talking to someone and it seems like they already know what they’re going to say, and they’re just waiting for you to stop talking so they can say what they want? I call this the “spring-loaded response trap” and it signals to the other person that you’ve checked out of the conversation. (Not a good look if you want to have bette…

No one likes to be interrupted. But look, it's bound to happen from time to time. Maybe your new friend brings up something that you know a lot about, and you interject. In this episode, we'll cover what you can say to get back on track and show the other person that you were listening, not just waiting for your turn to speak. (We'll also cover wha…

There's this jerk of a cognitive bias called the Spotlight Effect. We tend to place more importance on ourselves in any given social situation. And we tend to overestimate the amount that other people notice us. When it comes to improving our people skills, this isn't helpful. Here's how to use it to your advantage! --- Be sure to go to Become More…

If you've ever caught yourself thinking "They think I'm awkward/quiet/shy" then you've fallen into the mind-reading trap. (It's okay, we all do at some point) Mind reading isn't doing you any favors in social situations. In this episode, we'll cover the mind-reading trap and how to avoid it! --- Be sure to go to Become More Compelling and get your …

Do you ever fall into the "Why Questions Trap?" If so, that's totally normal. Why questions tend to focus you on the problem, not a solution. In this episode, we'll cover how to transform those why questions to help you take action! --- Be sure to go to Become More Compelling and get your free 56-minute audio guide on joining & enjoying group conve…

There are different phases to learning any new skill or starting any new project. 1. "This is going to be easy!" 2. "Okay, there's more work here than I thought..." 3. "WHAT'S THE %#@K!^G POINT?!" 4. "Okay, I'm feeling good again..." In this episode we'll cover the entrepreneurial roller coaster, and what it means for learning people skills. --- Be…

How you introduce others matters! In this episode, we'll talk about how you can take your introductions to the next level. (This is an easy way to stand out and be likable.) --- Be sure to go to Become More Compelling and get your free 56-minute audio guide on joining & enjoying group conversations. (You'll also get articles, podcasts, videos and m…

In this episode of the podcast, I talk about the difference between goals and systems. Goals are great, but they keep you in a constant state of failure. If you've always been a "goal person" then you need to check out this episode like yesterday. --- Be sure to go to Become More Compelling and get your free 56-minute audio guide on joining & enjoy…

Does being really really ridiculously good looking = better people skills? The answer might surprise you. (Hint: Focus on what you can control, and you can control a lot) --- Be sure to go to Become More Compelling and get your free 56-minute audio guide on joining & enjoying group conversations. (You'll also get articles, podcasts, videos and much…

"Be yourself!" "Be confident!" These are things that you'll hear a lot as you improve your people skills. Should you follow this advice? What does "Be yourself!" even mean?! I explain more in this episode. --- Be sure to go to Become More Compelling and get your free 56-minute audio guide on joining & enjoying group conversations. (You'll also get …

A LOT can happen in 10 years. In this episode, I'll walk you through an exercise by Debbie Millman that will help you get clear on what your life could look like in 10 years. --- Be sure to go to Become More Compelling and get your free 56-minute audio guide on joining & enjoying group conversations. (You'll also get articles, podcasts, videos and …

We all have a lot of things we WANT to do, but wanting doesn’t mean much without deciding to take action. Learn the difference between wanting and deciding and take action to improve. --- Be sure to go to Become More Compelling and get your free 56-minute audio guide on joining & enjoying group conversations. (You'll also get articles, podcasts, vi…

It can be tough trying to stay social during quarantine. Here are a couple of tips to help you stay social and improve your people skills! --- Be sure to go to Become More Compelling and get your free 56-minute audio guide on joining & enjoying group conversations. (You'll also get articles, podcasts, videos and much more to help you supercharge yo…

I'm trying a new format with this episode. (First in a series) You'll learn a people skills tip in about 10 minutes or less. Let me know what you think! This is a borderline superpower that will help you be your best socially. It took me years to learn this, and you'll learn it in about 8 minutes. --- Be sure to go to Become More Compelling and get…

Want more awesome stuff (podcasts, Q&A videos, articles and more) to supercharge your people skills? Click here. --------- How can we craft a powerful message? A message that says everything we need to say in a neat package? A message that can inspire everyone from your small team at work, to tens of thousands when you're behind the camera or mic? …

Want more awesome stuff (podcasts, Q&A videos, articles and more) to supercharge your people skills? Click here! --------- On this episode of BMC Radio, the podcast where I help you supercharge your charisma and people skills I have my friend Paul Sanders (@PaulSandersSCP) from Get The Friends You Want. Paul Sanders is a friendship & social skills …

Want more awesome stuff (podcasts, Q&A videos, articles and more) to supercharge your people skills? Click here! --------- On this episode of Become More Compelling Radio, I'd like to introduce you to my friend Rob Riker (@robertgriker) from The Social Winner. Over the last few months, I've seen a lot of questions about making friends... This podca…

Want more awesome stuff (podcasts, Q&A videos, articles and more) to supercharge your people skills? Click here! --------- On this episode of Become More Compelling Radio, I'd like to introduce you to my friend Kyle Ingham (@DistilledMan), founder of The Distilled Man. Kyle is awesome, he has the poise and style Don Draper and the wit and charm of …

Want more awesome stuff (podcasts, Q&A videos, articles and more) to supercharge your people skills? Click here! --------- On this episode of Become More Compelling Radio, I have an awesome conversation with my friend Myke Macapinlac of Social Confidence Mastery. (@mykemacapinlac on Twitter and Instagram) Myke is a really interesting guy, he was bo…

Want more awesome stuff (podcasts, Q&A videos, articles and more) to supercharge your people skills? Click here! --------- Any time you're learning a new skill, it can be tempting to dive in head first and consume ALL the information. Often this leads to analysis paralysis. This is the opposite of action. Lately, I’ve been thinking about the concep…

Want more awesome stuff (podcasts, Q&A videos, articles and more) to supercharge your people skills? Click here! --------- On this episode of Become More Compelling Radio, I'd like to introduce you to my friend Dave Bowden (@IrreverentGent) founder of Irreverent Gent. In this episode, we tackle a crucial topic: Confidence. What is it? How do you ge…

Want more awesome stuff (podcasts, Q&A videos, articles and more) to supercharge your people skills? Click here! --------- Between the hours of 8-5, are you typically sitting? If you are, then you need to (stand up) and listen to this episode of Become More Compelling Radio. Most of us intuitively know sitting is bad for us. But just how bad it rea…

Want more awesome stuff (podcasts, Q&A videos, articles and more) to supercharge your people skills? Click here! --------- Let's face it. We've ALL sent a 16 paragraph email and that moment after we've hit the send button on this potentially life-changing email, we've wondered silently to ourselves: "Should I have sent that? Was that a little too m…

Want more awesome stuff (podcasts, Q&A videos, articles and more) to supercharge your people skills? Click here! --------- On this episode of Become More Compelling Radio I'd like to introduce you to my friend Dan Chang (@friendformula) founder of The Friend Formula. A former self-descibed shy guy, nine years ago Dan decided to start learning about…

Want more awesome stuff (podcasts, Q&A videos, articles and more) to supercharge your people skills? Click here! --------- On this episode of Become More Compelling Radio, I am super excited to have the delightful Marsha Shandur (@YesYesMarsha) founder of yesyesmarsha.com. Marsha is a phenomenal storytelling and networking coach, and the official s…

Want more awesome stuff (podcasts, Q&A videos, articles and more) to supercharge your people skills? Click here! --------- On this episode of Become More Compelling Radio, I am joined by my friend Felicia Spahr of Instantly Irresistible. Felicia has been featured in: INC, Business Insider, The Huffington Post, I Will Teach You To Be Rich, Entrepren…

Want more awesome stuff (podcasts, Q&A videos, articles and more) to supercharge your people skills? Click here! --------- On this episode of Become More Compelling Radio I have my friend Shawn McKibben, the founder of Simple Fellow where he helps ambitious introverts communicate (and kick ass) in an extroverted world. Shawn has been featured in Mi…

Want more awesome stuff (podcasts, Q&A videos, articles and more) to supercharge your people skills? Click here! --------- Michaela Chung is the founder of Introvert Spring where she helps introverts thrive, and basically be more awesome. Three years ago, she quit her job, sold everything that wouldn’t fit in a suitcase, and set out on a hero’s jou…