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The Happiest Lives was designed for Christian women who want to stop being disappointed in their relationships and feel more loved and loving. Here you will learn to think better, feel better, and love better. This podcast is hosted by Jill M. Lillard, MA LPC, a licensed counselor, and Gottman Certified Couples Therapist. Jill has been helping people manage their minds, process their feelings, and have better relationships for over 25 years. For application exercises and support in applying ...
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Send us a Text Message. This is part 2 of the series Cultivating A Fiery & Fresh Relationship With God. In this episode, I will show you how to transform your prayer life from routine and one-dimensional to a powerful way to connect with God. If you are ready to become the woman God says you already are, you have to join me in Clarity+Courage, my c…
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Send us a Text Message. This begins the series Cultivating a Fiery & Fresh Relationship with Jesus, where we explore what it truly means to passionately desire, turn toward, and experience God. Join me as we examine three distinct types of relationships: legalistic, complacent, and passionate. We will also delve into the depths of passion, uncoveri…
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Send us a Text Message. This is part 4 of the series Making Everyday Life Productive & Fun. Join Jill and Coach Stephanie as they discuss how to balance work and play, the role of play in their lives, what they consider fun, and obstacles and antidotes to having a good time. At The Happiest Lives, we believe if you aren't enjoying the journey, you …
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Send us a Text Message. This is part 3 of the series How To Make Everyday Life Productive & Fun. In this episode, I share some of my favorite ways to get things done. Though "Plan A" is always to be flexible and open to how the Spirit leads you, "Plans B-Z "may include systematic processes and techniques that help you stay engaged with your life an…
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Send us a Text Message. This is part 2 of the series Making Everyday Life Productive & Fun. We all have routines, whether we are conscious of them or not. Your routines are the rhythms of your life and create the results you are experiencing. In this episode, we talk about the value of routines in honoring our values and what is important to us, as…
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Send us a Text Message. In this podcast episode, I introduce a new series focused on making everyday life productive and fun. When you can find meaning and joy in your routines, you become more engaged and excited about life. Seeing your life as a partnership rather than a series of busyness shifts our energy. Practical tips are provided for incorp…
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Send us a Text Message. Today, we wrap up the series Path To Aliveness as we explore courage in everyday life. We discuss how courageous individuals acknowledge and confront their fears, take risks in relationships even though they could be rejected, and remain authentic to their values despite adversity. When the Holy Spirit lives inside us we are…
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Send us a Text Message. This is part 4 in the series Path To Aliveness. If God promises to give us the desires of our hearts, why don't we get everything we want? Is it okay to want things, or should I relinquish my desire to be a selfless person? How can I make all my longings and wants work for the greatest good? We consider all these questions a…
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Send us a Text Message. This is part 3 in the series Path To Alive-ness. If you are thirsty, come! If you have exhausted all your resources, COME. Isaiah 55 shows us a new way contrary to our logic and ways of doing things. Here, we are promised peace and joy that does not depend on our circumstances. If you are ready to become the woman God says y…
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Send us a Text Message. This is part 2 in the series Path To Alive-ness. If you have been trying to change outwardly by adhering to or imposing a rule list/script on others, you will be constantly in despair. Beating yourself up, blaming others, or defending your tender heart through self-protective strategies won't improve things. There is only on…
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Send us a Text Message. Welcome to part one of the series Path To Alive-ness. In response to life's hardships, we either move toward contempt, numbness, and detachment or fight to keep our hearts tender and alive. In every situation, we choose a path of life or death. In this episode, I lay out the two options and show you what it looks like to cho…
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Send us a Text Message. This is part four of the series Thinking About What You Are Thinking About. In this episode, we will reverse-engineer a new result to discover a new way to think about our circumstances. If you are ready to become the woman God says you already are, you have to join me in Clarity+Courage, my cost-effective coaching group for…
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Send us a Text Message. This is part 3 of the series Thinking About What You Are Thinking About. Your mind creates feelings that direct your behavior, which creates results. Therefore, you have to look at your mind to get new results. When we focus on creating change by changing our actions without looking at our minds- the cause of our actions- we…
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Send us a Text Message. This is part 2 of the series Thinking About What You Are Thinking About. Every feeling you have can be traced back to a thought. When we get curious about our feelings and thoughts, we can't start picking them on purpose. In this episode, I show you four common misconceptions about emotions. I then walk you through four step…
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Send us a Text Message. This begins a brand new series, Thinking About What You Are Thinking About. You can let your mind run on default or you can take your brain out of the box and consider what thoughts are running your life. When you take your thoughts captive, beginning with awareness, you change your life. In this episode, I walk you through …
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Send us a Text Message. This is part nine of the series How To Get Your Relationship Back On Track. In this finale, we talk about creating shared meaning in your relationship, which Gottman refers to as the roof of our relationship house. I show you how to find a 'want match" and highlight the importance of small, consistent changes in positively i…
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Send us a Text Message. This is part 8 of the series How To Get Your Relationship Back On Track. Today's episode discusses creating regular connection points in your relationship. As you are intentional with a few things, this helps foster shared meaning in your marriage and increases the likelihood of spontaneous connections. If you are ready to b…
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Send us a Text Message. Welcome to part 7 of the series How To Get Your Relationship Back On Track. In this episode, we explore making requests in your relationship in a way that increases your influence and leaves you feeling better about yourself. Generating feelings of calm and openness before asking for help will serve you better than asking fr…
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Send us a Text Message. This is part six of the series How To Get Your Relationship Back On Track. In this episode, I explore what it means to show up as yourself. You want to be in a relationship with someone because they value YOU, not you being who you think they want you to be. Awareness of your thoughts, feelings, and desires is crucial to exp…
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Send us a Text Message. This is part 5 of the series How To Get Your Relationship Back On Track. Recall the last time you felt truly curious and understanding as someone shared their thoughts and feelings. This week, we unfold the layers of becoming an adept listener, from fostering a nurturing space for heartfelt dialogues to recognizing the unspo…
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Send us a Text Message. This is part four of the series How To Get Your Relationship Back On Track. Have you ever felt like your relationship is stuck in a cycle of the same old arguments? In today's episode, we dive into the heart of recurring conflicts, revealing how behind every gridlock issue is a hidden dream. This isn't just about finding com…
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Send us a Text Message. This is part three of the series How To Get Your Relationship Back On Track. When you nurture positive sentiments and good feelings in your marriage, you are making deposits in your love bank. These emotional investments become valuable resources that you will withdraw from when you face conflict in your relationship. Join m…
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Send us a Text Message. This is part two of the series How To Get Your Relationship Back On Track. Learn the importance of being emotionally aware and regulating your emotions in your relationship. You can validate and make your emotions work for you as you deepen intimacy in your relationship. Let me show you how in today's episode. If you are rea…
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Send us a Text Message. This is part 1 of the series, How To Get Your Relationship Back On Track. A foundational step to building a healthy relationship is creating a healing separation. The goal of a healing separation is always healthier connections. Creating a healing separation does not mean you are living separate lives and dealing with things…
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Send us a Text Message. In the Western World, we tend to indulge the view of self as we focus on personal development, self-actualization, and becoming the best version of ourselves. Eastern religions lean toward renouncing self and suppressing wants and desires to move to a place of spiritual enlightenment. Neither of these perspectives seems to f…
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Send us a Text Message. Can you trust in God's goodness and sovereignty, even when the road seems rough? What does it look like to let go of how you think things should be without giving up hope? The pathway to surrender often involves suffering. We must be willing to feel our pain and gently move to a place of trust. The alternative is powering ou…
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Send us a Text Message. Ever wondered how to go about accomplishing the impossible? This episode illuminates the four stages of achieving just that, from the despair of being unable to achieve your goals to the joy of leaning on God's strength. We delve into Apostle Paul's passionate journey of faith, where he learned to rely on Christ's atonement,…
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Send us a Text Message. Join me for this podcast series, The Surrendered Self. To understand the concepts of surrender and self, we must plug them into the story of mankind's relationship with God, which is a story of redemption. In this episode, I remind you of the ongoing battle between the flesh and the spirit. I encourage you as a believer to f…
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Send us a Text Message. Have you set an intention for the year? Is Jesus in the center of your pursuits? Why is a surrendered life the best life to pursue? In this episode, I remind you how obstacles and problems can become opportunities to deepen our faith. Sharing tangible ways to let go and trust God, from having daily quiet moments with Jesus t…
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Send us a Text Message. You'll be moved by the powerful testimony of our guest, Holly Snell, who turned to faith in her darkest hour. As Holly shares how seeking God's presence saw her through the loss of her husband in a tragic accident, you'll discover how harnessing the strength found in faith can transform your hardships. If you are ready to be…
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Send us a Text Message. One thing is for sure: life can be uncertain. This can lead to anxiety, overwhelm, and worry, even for believers. Holly Snell, the author of Dancing On My Ashes, joins us on today's podcast, reminding us of the one thing we can count on when life throws a curve ball. If you are ready to become the woman God says you already …
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Send us a Text Message. It’s time to wake up and start living. You can break strongholds, have better relationships, achieve greater clarity, improve decision-making, feel better, and face what has been holding you back. The Happiest Lives Academy will unlock the extraordinary tools and coaching you need. If you have been wondering what it is like …
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Send us a Text Message. Today, we finish the series 5 Worthy Transformations as we talk about Breaking Strongholds. If you have begged, pleaded, and prayed for deliverance from a stronghold in your life, this is for you. Discover a path to shattering the limiting strongholds of ingrained thoughts, behaviors, and emotional patterns in your life. If …
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Send us a Text Message. Ever wondered how to enhance your emotional intelligence to improve your relationships and conversations? That's exactly what we're diving into today. We start by investigating the 'Talk Table,' a tool that helps us create room for more authentic emotional connections. We also uncover the significance of being comfortable wi…
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Send us a Text Message. This is part 3 of the series 5 Worthy Transformations. Are you tired of the constant self-doubt and confusion that arises from indecisiveness? In today's episode, I help you squash your insecurities through understanding powerful decision-making. Imagine making a decision and having your own back.- no more second-guessing. W…
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Send us a Text Message. This is part 2 of the series 5 Worthy Transformations. Imagine a life where you could feel anything and use it as fuel to grow personally and spiritually. We delve into this intriguing concept, exploring how our beliefs and attitudes toward emotions can shape our experiences. We discuss the mechanism of 'buffering' - the beh…
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Send us a Text Message. This month begins the series Five Worthy Transformations. Have you ever wished you could declutter not just your physical spaces, but also your emotional and mental space? Here's your chance. In this episode, I guide you on how to tidy up your life from within. We use the simple act of cleaning out a closet as a metaphor for…
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Send us a Text Message. Join me for the last week in The Heart Scan Series as we learn how to PRESS ON despite unwanted emotions. You can come up with a beautiful plan for change, but when it comes time to implement it, you may not always feel like doing the things. Even if you have identified the new thoughts and feelings to fuel the actions, if y…
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Send us a Text Message. Today we discuss step 3 of The Heart Scan Process: ENGAGE. Are your emotions ruling your life or shaping your relationship with God? Take a step back as we explore the profound connection between our feelings and our faith. We unravel how our emotions act as an invitation to foster a deeper understanding of ourselves and for…
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Send us a Text Message. Ever wished you could hit the pause button on life's overwhelming problems and breathe? Welcome to the place where that dream becomes a reality. We're continuing our Heart Scan Series with step two of the process: RENEW. Together, we'll explore how to quiet the storm of fear and confusion and channel our problems into someth…
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Send us a Text Message. Today, we begin The Heart Scan Series, where I introduce you to The Heart Scan Process, my ultimate tool for creating a better life and relationships. I spotlight the first step of Heart Scanning, EXPOSE, where we bring what is hidden into the light. I show you how to constrain, focus, organize, and look at a problem so you …
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Send us a Text Message. This is our last episode in The Relationship Foundation Series. Ever struggled with the exhausting cycle of people-pleasing? Felt the burnout and resentment from constantly sacrificing your own needs for others? It's time to unveil the truth behind this draining behavior and discover healthier, more fulfilling alternatives. …
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Send us a Text Message. Welcome to part 3 of The Relationship Foundations Series. Are you certain about your loveability? What if we told you it's not about becoming more loveable but about realizing that your loveability is already absolute and unchanging? Join us today on Happiest Lives podcast as we take a deep dive into the profound connection …
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Send us a Text Message. In this episode, we continue the series Relationship Foundations as we dive into the subject of Boundaries. Because relationship boundaries start in your mind, having a clear picture of where you end and another begins is crucial as you decide how you want to respond in your relationships. Sometimes we may need to declare a …
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Send us a Text Message. Join me for part two of the series, Relationship Foundations, where we look at the core concepts that will change the way you approach the people you love. This week we talk about Desires and Wants. What do you truly want in your relationship? What if your partner doesn't want the same thing? How should you feel about your w…
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Send us a Text Message. Are you ready to challenge your perceptions and fuel your relationships? This episode promises to take your understanding of relationships - with yourself, others, and God - to a whole new level. Imagine an engine where each part is connected, all contributing to the overall function. The same goes for our relationships; our…
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Send us a Text Message. What if the key to success lies in our failures? Buckle up for a riveting conversation where we dissect failure and how it shapes our identity. This episode is the last in our series on Being & Doing, and it's a game-changer! When we stop perceiving failure as a setback, we experience it as a stepping stone to resilience, co…
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Send us a Text Message. Your aspirations reflect your core values and dreams, while goals are the building blocks to realizing your aspirations. Join Jill Lillard, MA LPC as she explores these concepts in a spiritual context, discussing the role of faith in shaping our lives with intentional and disciplined goal setting. This episode is part of the…
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Send us a Text Message. What if you could unlock the secret to living a life fueled by emotions on purpose? As we explore the relationship between Being & Doing, we delve into why we want what we want and what it is that we think will make us happy. You will learn how to feel on purpose, owning your emotional experiences. In this episode Jill share…
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Send us a Text Message. This episode is part of the four-part series on Being & Doing. You will learn why we do certain things and why we may not do what we want to do. I introduce The Heart Scan Process as a way of gaining a deeper understanding of your life and creating change. You will discover: Relatable examples of clients who are unhappy with…
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