Best John & Jackie Melfi Podcasts (2024)

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Ask John and Jackie: Exploring Dynamics in the Swinging Lifestyle 17:02

19h ago17:02

17:02

In this episode, John and Jackie tackle various aspects of navigating the swinging lifestyle based on questions from their audience. "How do I deal with the emotional challenges in witnessing my partner's satisfaction with someone else outside group scenarios?" Listen in for practical advice on handling attraction dilemmas, emphasizing communicatio…

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Open Relationship Workshop - True Sex and Wild Love (2019) 11:43

8d ago11:43

11:43

We went to an incredible open relationship workshop in Austin, Texas called "True Sex and Wild Love" and here is recap in case you missed it! (And yes we talk about the pink thing.) The event was hosted by Aubrey Marcus, CEO of Onnit, a company that makes and markets nutritional supplements, fitness equipment, and more in the spirit of optimizing h…

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Empowering Women in the Lifestyle 11:57

15d ago11:57

11:57

In this episode, John and Jackie dive into a conversation about the positive impact of the lifestyle on women. Jackie reflects on the acceptance and camaraderie among women in the lifestyle, where competition is replaced by celebration. They explore how consensual non-monogamy can empower women, providing a platform for sexual growth, independence,…

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Poly Relationships and How to Get Your Partner Into It 12:34

22d ago12:34

12:34

Want to have your cake and eat it too? Well, it takes two to tango. But, you can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink. And, that's enough old proverbs (for now) :) Being in a swinging or poly relationship DOES take consent and understanding from all parties involved, but how do you do that? Well, we've got the video for you bec…

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Handling Rejection and Canceled Dates 13:27

29d ago13:27

13:27

In today's episode, John and Jackie discuss the common experience of handling rejection and dealing with canceled dates. They explore the emotional impact of these situations, sharing personal anecdotes and insights on how to navigate the complexities of dating in both single and married life. The discussion emphasizes the importance of not jumping…

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Open Relationship Partner Permission and Consent 16:02

1M ago16:02

16:02

When it comes to consent, what's usually discussed is getting consent from the person with whom you would like to have a physical interaction. What's not talked about as much is giving consent to your partner on what you're comfortable with them doing with others so that they don't cross any boundaries you may have. The tricky part to this whole th…

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Open Relationships and Playing With Couples 12:00

2M ago12:00

12:00

You know what they say, "The only thing constant is change." And that includes playing with couples in our open marriage. How it started is not how it is today. How we go about it. What we do while we're playing. The things we think about. The things we do with our partner. What's ok and what's not. Check it out!…

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The Ups and Downs of the Lifestyle: Cultivating Good Experiences 13:59

2M ago13:59

13:59

In this episode, John and Jackie explore the concept of transforming negative experiences in the lifestyle into valuable learning opportunities. The conversation revolves around handling discomfort, setting boundaries, and fostering positive communication within the swinging community. Reflecting on past experiences, Jackie shares personal insights…

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Open Relationship Advice: How To Handle Fear & Jealousy 17:10

2M ago17:10

17:10

Open Relationship Advice: How To Handle Fear & Jealousy John and Jackie answer a follower submitted question in this week's episode! Do you have any advice or techniques to help alleviate self-doubt and stress and is it common for the wife to take the leadership role in the lifestyle adventure? Listen hear John and Jackie's answer!…

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Navigating Friendships in Open Relationships 18:59

2M ago18:59

18:59

In this episode, John and Jackie delve into the intricacies of friendships when one person is in an open relationship. Courtney shares her experiences as the friend in an open relationship, facing both positive and negative reactions from friends in monogamous relationships. The conversation explores the dynamics, challenges, and societal perceptio…

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Threesomes are Amazing 14:53

3M ago14:53

14:53

Today we talk about threesomes because they are amazing! What guy (and even lots of gals) doesn't fantasize about a threesome experience?! In fact, it's one of the most popular ways to break into the lifestyle and we'll tell you why in our video!By John and Jackie

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Navigating Religious Perspectives in Open Relationships 15:30

3M ago15:30

15:30

In this episode, John and Jackie respond to a viewer's question about reconciling religious beliefs with an open relationship. John and Jackie share their personal journeys of questioning and deconstructing religious beliefs as they explored open relationships John and Jackie encourage you to embrace your authentic self, challenge societal norms, a…

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How to Talk to Your Dating Partner About Your Open Relationship 12:02

3M ago12:02

12:02

In this episode, we answer one of your questions posted in the YouTube comments in one of our videos: What about the folks you're dating? Do they know about your relationship and how do they fit in? And if there are issues, why did you continue and why not just stop? A very good series of questions, I might add!…

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Navigating Uncomfortable Boundaries in Open Relationships 16:52

3M ago16:52

16:52

In this episode, John and Jackie discuss the complexities of dealing with uncomfortable boundaries in open relationships. The episode explores various approaches to handling discomfort when partners want to explore activities that may challenge established boundaries. They touch on options such as refraining from the activity, finding ways to ease …

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Importance of Honesty in Open Relationships 12:13

4M ago12:13

12:13

#116 So what happens when your partner is honest (which of course you want them to be) and they share something with you... And that honest something makes you sad, makes you angry, makes you scared, or worse. What do you do now with that? That's what we talk about today!By John & Jackie Melfi

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Does Fantasizing About Someone Else Mean Cheating? 10:33

4M ago10:33

10:33

#112 A couple asked us the other day if it's bad to fantasize about someone else while being intimate with your partner. Is that wrong? Is it cheating? Is it bad? Let's dive into this rabbit hole of fantasy talk and where it could go!By John & Jackie Melfi

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Becoming Role Models in the Lifestyle 12:21

4M ago12:21

12:21

In today's episode, John and Jackie explore the topic of being role models in the lifestyle. Jackie shares her personal journey into non-monogamy, emphasizing the importance ofexploring sexuality with love and breaking free from societal stigmas. They discuss how beingopen about their experiences has allowed them to become advocates for the lifesty…

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How do you NOT approach couples in swinging lifestyle? 🚩 11:46

4M ago11:46

11:46

Today, John and Jackie discuss red flags to keep in mind when you are looking to meet people in the lifestyle! From being too direct out the gate to ignoring their boundaries, there are many red flags to look out for when talking to someone.

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Dealing with Fear in Open Relationships 11:31

4M ago11:31

11:31

#113 The other day we did some coaching for a couple who wanted some help with their open relationship. They had finally found a third person who was interesting and attractive to both of them and they wanted this person to be part of their throuple. The couple was both excited about it, but as time went on, the woman in the relationship became mor…

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Why Non-Monogamy Fails! 23:35

5M ago23:35

23:35

In today’s episode, John and Jackie explore the reasons why non-monogamous relationships may fail. Listen in as they discus the crucial aspects of communication, consideration of partner’s feelings, managing expectations, and the significance of respecting boundaries. They also share personal insights and experiences, emphasizing the importance of …

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Introducing Consensual Non-monogamy to Your Partner 15:18

5M ago15:18

15:18

#111 Ok so you're interested in this consensual non-monogamy thing, but how do you tell your partner about it? How do you approach the topic and introduce them to CNM without freaking them out?! Watch this video (perhaps together) and discover how!By John and Jackie Melfi

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How to Find Play Partners 9:03

5M ago9:03

9:03

#110 We had a comment/question from a couple in an open relationship where the wife is having a much easier time finding play partners than the husband, which led him to ask the question: How do I find more play partners? Let's jump in and discuss that!By John and Jackie

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Is CNM all about sex? 8:33

5M ago8:33

8:33

#109 When people think Consensual Non-Monogamy (CNM), many of them think about the exciting and juicy non-monogamy part where you get to have sex with multiple partners. Lots of it. A lot of the time. But is that true? Is that what CNM is all about? Let's explore and discuss that today!

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Is sex all about penetration? 9:56

6M ago9:56

9:56

#108 We talk about what to do if someone in a couple is having trouble staying hard during a swinger encounter and address common misconceptions about swingers always having perfect sex. Since staying hard can be challenging for some men, we discuss ways we can take pressure off our male partners and how sex isn't just all about penetration. …

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Sharing Your Partner is OK 10:36

6M ago10:36

10:36

#107 How the heck can I watch my partner with someone else and be ok with it? This is a very common question for those who are getting into the lifestyle and haven't tried it before. And for some people who do try it, they have negative feelings and wonder how that can dissipate and transform into compersion for their partner. We talk about all th…

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Swinging is Fun 9:42

6M ago9:42

9:42

#106 We talk a lot about the deep emotional side of swinging - jealousy, fear, etc., so today we'd go the opposite direction and talk about the fun and lighter side of swinging and being in an open relationship.

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Establishing Defined Boundaries in your open relationship (part 2) 8:45

7M ago8:45

8:45

#104 In part 1 of our discussion on boundaries, we talked about the importance and nuances of creating them. In this part 2, we're going to talk about the transition into re-establishing boundaries. This is where a month or two and some playdates have gone by and now it's time to look back at what worked and what didn't work, how do we make our box…

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John and Jackie Exploring the Swinging Lifestyle: Questions and Insights 15:06

7M ago15:06

15:06

#103 In this episode of "Ask John and Jackie" they will engage with questions from their audience, providing valuable insights and advice on topics related to the swinger lifestyle. They cover a range of questions, from entering the lifestyle as a single individual to the importance of discussing and revisiting boundaries within a relationship. " T…

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Establishing Defined Boundaries in your open relationship (part 1) 10:04

7M ago10:04

10:04

#102 What's the big deal about boundaries one might say? Well, it could lead to a disaster in the start of your open relationship before it even begins.

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Our Sexual Journey in the Swinging Lifestyle: The Good and the Bad 18:58

7M ago18:58

18:58

#101 In this episode, John and Jackie share their personal experiences in the swinger lifestyle, discussing both the positive and challenging aspects. They talk about how they got started in the lifestyle, navigating open relationships, and the growth of their own relationship over the years. "Being invested in a long-term relationship doesn't prec…

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Your Open Relationship will FAIL Without This 10:08

8M ago10:08

10:08

#100 Whatever spectrum of the lifestyle you're playing at, let's say everything is sailing smoothly...until... You hit those rough waters. Maybe it's a playdate that went wrong. Maybe it's taking a step too far past a boundary. Maybe it's a nasty emotion that rears its ugly head that you weren't prepared for. So what do you do now? Watch this video…

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Swinger Lifestyle Secrets: How to Maximize Your Hotel Takeovers 12:49

8M ago12:49

12:49

#99 In this episode John and Jackie explore the exciting world of hotel takeovers within the swinger lifestyle. They discuss the preparation, expectations, and experiences that come with attending these unique events. From themed parties to meeting new people, they share their insights to ensure listeners make the most of their hotel takeover exper…

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Emotional Attachments 7:25

8M ago7:25

7:25

#98 Is it true that men don't get emotionally attached after sex? Which means they're better at open relationships than women? Interesting questions/claims posed by one of our Podcast listeners that we will be discussing!

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Navigating Boundaries & Threesomes in Open Relationships 20:14

8M ago20:14

20:14

#97 In todays episode John and Jackie discuss the complexities of navigating boundaries in open relationships,particularly when it comes to overnight stays with other partners. They share their personal experiences and offer valuable insights into building trust, open communication, and respecting individual comfort levels within the swinging lifes…

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Excitement and Anxiety of Being in Open Relationships 11:34

8M ago11:34

11:34

The lifestyle can be quite the rollercoaster ride. One day on your elated on cloud nine and really excited about getting into the lifestyle. The next day you have anxiety about whether this was the right/proper thing to do. (I'm sure my religious upbringing had something to do with it.) So how do I explore my sexuality now? Today we talk abou…

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WATCH THIS before you start an open relationship (jealousy, boundaries & emotions) 11:07

9M ago11:07

11:07

#95 Today we answer a doozy of a question in our video. It's a great question actually that we've certainly gone through and you may too. Here's the situation: My wife and I have been married for some time and we recently opened our relationship. I was the one who brought her into this and of course I'm the one who is overcome with jealousy. And it…

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Misconceptions About Consensual Non-Monogamous Relationships 20:43

9M ago20:43

20:43

#94 In this episode, John and Jackie address common misconceptions about consensually non-monogamous relationships. They explore the misunderstanding that such relationships are solely about sex, debunking this notion and emphasizing that they encompass much more than physical intimacy. John and Jackie also discuss the stereotype that people in the…

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We own 4 swingers lifestyle clubs.. Here is what to expect when you visit one! 8:57

10M ago8:57

8:57

#93 Question from a viewer for today: We're thinking about going to a lifestyle club. What am I going to expect? My nervousness and fear is that people are going to push me to do things we're not ready yet.By John and Jackie

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Threesomes: Everything You Need To Know! 20:48

10M ago20:48

20:48

#92 In this episode, John and Jackie dive into the exciting world of threesomes, offering guidance on how to introduce the idea to your partner and ensure that everyone has an amazing experience. They share their own experiences and offer insights on building trust, communication, and making the transition from fantasy to reality.…

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How to talk about playing at swinger clubs & parties 12:12

10M ago12:12

12:12

#91 So you've proudly mustered up the courage to go to a club or party for the first, started a conversation with a random stranger/couple, and you and your partner are interested in playing. Now what? We've had a couple of guest speakers at our webinars talk about this subject and now it's our turn! :)…

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15 Secret Signs You Are a Swinger 21:08

11M ago21:08

21:08

90 The pineapple is a commonly recognized symbolism for swingers, but are there more "signs" out there we're not aware of? What about garden gnomes or flamingos? Red ball caps or loofahs? We share our insight on which signs are legitimate, and which signs may just be misconceptions. You won't want to miss today's episode!…

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Swingers Lifestyle & Different Levels of Experience 11:22

11M ago11:22

11:22

#89 How do you best navigate your relationship if one partner has more experience than the other? How do you go about in your relationship if your partner is on a (much) different experience level as you? To learn more about open relationships and the swinger lifestyle, visit httyp://www.openlove101.com…

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Open Relationship Communication: Dos and Dont's 11:38

11M ago11:38

11:38

#88 Have you ever started a conversation about your relationship in a civil and cordial manner... And then things quickly took a turn for the worst and escalated to the point of anger and maybe bad words? Well, you're not alone because we've had those types of "conversations" before. So how do you navigate through that? Let's discuss!…

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Diversity of labels in open lifestyle 8:42

11M ago8:42

8:42

#87 - At our colette lifestyle clubs, we're starting to see more and more people with diverse desires (and hence labels) in their open relationship. Many years ago, it was just the term "swinger" and that encompassed practically all of us. However, these days it's a whole lot different with many new terms as this beautiful relationship model is con…

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Exploring ENM and relationship models 29:44

12M ago29:44

29:44

#86 - John & Jackie discuss various aspects of ethical non-monogamy, including different forms and labels. We also dive into the importance of creating a relationship model that works for you, and the undercurrent of consensual non-monogamy growing among younger people. Don’t miss as they share experiences from promoting swinger clubs to open-minde…

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ENM and dealing with shame 10:25

12M ago10:25

10:25

#85 - Shame and how it can hold us back from fully experiencing and enjoying the lifestyle...We do coaching with couples and a lot of the women openly share how shame hits them hard and becomes quite debilitating in the lifestyle journey. We want to express ourselves and feel authentic to who we are, but we can easily encounter that old tape replay…

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Breaking the Stigma of Non-Monogamy With Roderick Stevens 44:31

12M ago44:31

44:31

#84 - In this episode, we explore the fascinating world of ethical non-monogamy and its impact on relationships. Our guest, a filmmaker working on the documentary "Open: A Journey Through Love," shares their personal journey and the importance of authenticity in relationships. They reveal their autism diagnosis and how it influences their filters a…

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Difficulties in Swinging Relationships 11:52

1y ago11:52

11:52

#83 - Being in an open relationship can be difficult. You've got time management, societal repercussions if others find out, dealing with stereotypes, finding other open-minded couples, trying new things out of your comfort zone, and more. The list just goes on... But that's not to say don't check out swinging because we believe it's well worth. Ju…

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Exploring Progressive Love: A Liberating Journey of Open Relationships 50:26

1y ago50:26

50:26

#82 - We continue on from the previous episode to explore the world of polyamory with a focus on the significance of authentic communication and personal growth within polyamorous relationships. Our guests, Kenya and Carl from Progressive Love Academy, share their experiences and insights, highlighting the foundational aspects of polyamory and the …

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Save Your Relationship with Polyamory 44:12

1y ago44:12

44:12

#81 - Our special guests, Kenya and Carl of Progressive Love Academy, are here to discuss their experiences in open relationships and polyamory - the importance of effective communication, personal growth, and taking accountability within relationships with a firsthand account of their journey, from their decision to open their relationship to the …

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