I was out earlier today planting corn and sunflowers. Yeah, it’s late, but we had frost mid-June, so you know. We get most of our seeds from MIgardener. They put on the front of the package the approximate seed count. Being a bit OCD, I counted seeds as I planted. The ten envelopes I planted had 25% to 75% more seeds than they claimed. I’d have bee…

Do you ever get frustrated because your wife won’t tell you what she wants in bed? You’d do pretty much anything to make sex great for her, but she won’t give you a clue. There are a few common reasons for this: She doesn’t know what she wants. I realise this sounds crazy to most men, but it’s all too common for women. It stems from being told sex …

Ever heard someone say, “more divorces are caused by ______ than anything else” or “the top causes of divorce are _____, _____ and _____”? I did a quick Google search on the “top causes of divorce” from the first five “experts” I could find. The #1 cause according to those five was communication, lack of commitment, or financial issues. Money is fi…

Does your husband want you to wear what he sees as sexy lingerie? Does he want you to shave off your pubic hair? Has he continued to ask for or hint about these things long after you think he should have figured out you don’t want to do them? Obviously, he wants you to do these things for his viewing pleasure. But there’s another motivation you may…

There is one simple cause of virtually all divorces: selfishness. We are selfish creatures, every last one of us. Our selfishness causes us to focus too much on our wife’s selfishness, and not enough on our selfishness. And she does the same in reverse. You can and should let your wife know when you think she is being selfish. Be gentle, and assume…

A few years ago, we had a link to a Christian web source for getting marriage help. Sadly, they didn’t make a go of it. Today I want to introduce you to Aldrich Ministries, which is building an online Christian coaching system. They started in 2019 and are now actively growing. Lori and I have known and walked with Brad and Kate since just after th…

A few years ago, we had a link to a Christian web source for getting marriage help. Sadly, they didn’t make a go of it. Today I want to introduce you to Aldrich Ministries, which is building an online Christian coaching system. They started in 2019 and are now actively growing. Lori and I have known and walked with Brad and Kate since just after th…

I was asked over on Quora what causes divorces. My one word answer was “Selfishness”. It really is that simple. It could be his selfishness, or her selfishness. In truth, it’s always a combination of his and her selfishness. Sometimes one spouse is far more selfish than the other. Sometimes they are both bad. Selfishness can manifest as what we do,…

So this is my wife’s birthday month. She’s not a party person, and not into major gifts. But I’ve still done things to celebrate her birthday, both at home and with others. My wife is very important to me, and celebrating her birth is a good way to show her that. How do you celebrate your wife? Image Credit: © Paul H Byerly created with stockdreams…

A few days ago, I told you to not punish behaviour you want to see. Today I want to talk about how we do that with sex. One common way we do this is by asking for sex and then turning down what she offers because it’s not what we want. This causes her to think if you needed it half as badly as you claimed, you would gladly take whatever she was wil…

Please be aware that “sexperts”, including many with credentials, have an agenda. And all too often that agenda is not about helping people have the best sex possible. Let me give you an example. I read these two things in my feed a couple of minutes apart: Experts say that reducing sexual relations to penetration is on the decline, now that younge…

I’ve written about a man’s need for adventure. I’ve also discussed the fact sex is very important to him. When you add those two things together, you get a desire for sexual adventure! I realise those two words together may seem intimidating, but fear not. Adventure comes in various forms, and it need not be risky, illegal, or immoral. The adventur…