Best Renee Swanson Podcasts (2024)

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With Covert Narcissism, I Am NOT Okay. 9:21

19h ago9:21

9:21

Listening to some music the other day, a song came on that really spoke to me. It was by Jelly Roll and titled “I Am Not Okay.” I can’t speak for Jelly Roll, but as a victim of covert narcissism, these lyrics could not have been more fitting. I am not okay I'm barely getting by I'm losing track of days I'm losing sleep at night I am not okay I'm ha…

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Apologies from a Covert Narcissist 17:12

5d ago17:12

17:12

If you ever want a covert narcissist to talk about you, point out something they have done that upset you. See how their language changes. They live a very me-focused life. Until you come to that moment in the conversation where an apology from them should be. Then their script changes, and they become very you-focused. "You made me mad. You hurt m…

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This Was Never About You (Special Throwback Episode) 23:12

8d ago23:12

23:12

THIS WAS NEVER ABOUT YOU!!•The way they talk to you•The way they treat you•The reactions they have•The looks•The silent treatment•The circular conversations from•The abuse•All of it It was never about you. You need to know that. You need to hear what I am saying.If you want to find healing inside of you, this is so vitally important. This experienc…

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Aviad Harell's Insights on Tech, AI, and Venture Capital 51:33

8d ago51:33

51:33

In this exciting episode, Frank La Vigne and Andy Leonard sit down with Aviad Harell, managing partner at Team 8, to explore the transformative power of technology in today's business landscape. Aviad shares his mission to eliminate day-to-day bureaucracy and leverages technology to automate processes, drawing from his vast experience in the tech i…

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Healing from Covert Narcissistic Abuse 16:57

12d ago16:57

16:57

Time doesn't heal all wounds, effort does. You can't lay around and wait for a broken leg to heal. It takes doctor visits and physical therapy visits. If you just wait for time to heal it, you will face residual pain and issues for the rest of your life. Negative feelings are normal along the way, such as regret, frustration, self-judgment, despair…

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Self-Care After Dealing with Covert Narcissism 21:31

16d ago21:31

21:31

When you’ve been living with a covert narcissist for many years, your self-care is almost non-existent. You don’t have the time, energy, mental capacity, or freedom to take care of yourself. Any efforts at self-care may have been labeled as selfish. Over the years, you've paid a high price for trying to even do the bare minimum of caring for yourse…

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What Covert Narcissists Say and What They Actually Mean 18:40

20d ago18:40

18:40

"I love you" does not mean the same thing coming out of a covert narcissist as it does when you say it. For non-narcissistic people, "I love you" means I care about your thoughts and feelings. I love when you are happy, peaceful and relaxed. I want what is best for you. I care about you. For a covert narcissist, "I love you" is not quite the same. …

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What is Cognitive Dissonance and What to do About it (Special Throwback Episode) 25:04

23d ago25:04

25:04

Survivors of covert narcissistic abuse feel like they are going crazy. They often tell me that they are losing their mind. They don’t know which end is up, what reality is or what to do next. They are often frozen in self-doubt and confusion. This is because of cognitive dissonance. In this episode, I am going to help you understand what cognitive …

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Covert Narcissism: His Trauma Became Our Trauma 19:37

27d ago19:37

19:37

Trauma causes people to make changes in the way they interact with their world. Emotional abuse is traumatic. It takes away one's perception of safety. When we experience trauma, our system will work hard to re-establish a perceived sense of safety. Thus we pick up survival skills that can become walls between us and others. What behaviors do we pi…

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Financial Abuse Disguised as Compassion 20:33

30d ago20:33

20:33

Financial abuse and manipulation can come with the appearance of being loving and caring. Covert narcissists will say that they are doing this “for your own good.” In the guise of helping you, they use and abuse you. At the same time though, there is just enough truth in what they are saying to convince you that they are right. This tiny speck of t…

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Chris Cooney on Exploring Data Evangelism 52:29

1M ago52:29

52:29

In this episode, Frank La Vigne and Andy Leonard dive deep into the world of developer advocacy and data observability with special guest Chris Cooney from CoreLogix. From discussing the evolution of Microsoft Evangelism to the intricacies of data retention and real-time decision-making, this conversation covers a wide range of topics, including th…

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Exploring a Different Perspective of Codependency with Ross Rosenberg 29:40

1M ago29:40

29:40

Today, we have the author of The Human Magnet Syndrome, Ross Rosenberg. I talk with him about his new book, The Codependency Revolution: Fixing What Was Always Broken. What is this monster called codependency that no one seems to understand? It is so hard to understand narcissism, and it is equally hard to understand codependency. In Ross’s words, …

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Scapegoating and Financial Abuse from a Covert Narcissist 31:07

1M ago31:07

31:07

In this episode, our guest talks about the financial abuse she endured in a lengthy marriage with children. No matter how many failures or the depth of the failures, covert narcissists will always find someone or something to blame. Scapegoating accompanies the financial abuse, as they blame you for their financial struggles. They simply cannot car…

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The Emotional Dysregulation of a Covert Narcissist 22:07

1M ago22:07

22:07

I’m mad! So I yell at you, punch the wall, storm off, stomp my feet, shove the chair, and slam the bedroom door! I don’t care that you don’t like it! I don’t care that you now feel bad. In fact, I’m going to wait in my room until you come and apologize to me! Who am I? I'm a 2 year old toddler throwing a fit, or a teenager dealing with hormones, so…

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Removing Trauma From the Body (Special Throwback Episode) 22:23

1M ago22:23

22:23

Dr. Melissa Kalt, M.D. specializes in removing the trauma of narcissistic abuse from the body. She brings so much insight to the topic, and I thoroughly enjoyed interviewing her for our audience. This interview is extremely informative and helpful. Dr. Melissa is a graduate of the Medical College of Wisconsin – triple-board-certified in Internal Me…

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The Isolating Dynamics of a Covert Narcissistic Relationship 25:10

2M ago25:10

25:10

In this chat time with Renee Swanson and Eleanor Marks, these two discuss two questions brought by Covert Narcissism Podcast listeners. They each share their answer to this question, “Looking back, when do you wish you would have left? Is there a time that you “wish” you would have filed for divorce sooner?” The second question they dive into is “P…

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Grasping Covert Narcissism (Special Throwback episode) 21:54

2M ago21:54

21:54

Covert narcissism is messed up! It is so twisted you feel like you are going insane just trying to get a grasp on what’s going on. It is so hard to pinpoint and impossible to describe. You can’t possibly explain it to someone who hasn’t experienced it themselves. Trying to makes you sound crazy, even to yourself. So now you question your own sanity…

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Our Kids Suffer When We Suffer 21:22

2M ago21:22

21:22

Kids desire and NEED to feel safe and cared for. When their parent who is their safety and caregiver suffers, they suffer as well. If you think that you are hiding this abuse from your kids, you are wrong. Our kids see it, and they feel it. Children put their own defense mechanisms in place. These include living in denial, shutting it all out, disa…

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The World Enables Covert Narcissists Guest episode with Sarene Leeds 35:11

2M ago35:11

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"I felt that I was the only one who was uncomfortable with his behavior." In this episode, Sarene speaks of her experience in the work environment of Rolling Stone magazine from over 10 years ago. This individual no longer works at Rolling Stone, and in Sarene's words, "I can't speak for Rolling Stone and its work culture for the past ten years. Bu…

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How do I move forward? Q&A with Eleanor Marks 24:18

2M ago24:18

24:18

“I’m in my second marriage and married almost 2 years. I’m realizing he’s a covert narcissist. I am mad at myself because I didn’t think I’d find myself here again, and now learning so much on codependency. I’m on a roller coaster. I have caught him in so many lies. I don’t know why I try to get him to admit it when I know it’s constant lies. I am …

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It’s a Yo-Yo Relationship 31:39

2M ago31:39

31:39

In this episode, Caryn Dixon tells her story publicly for the first time. Like so many others, she was in that yo-yo relationship. On again and off again. Thinking “this is over” only to give him one more chance. Trapped by hope and the belief that he will change, Caryn dug in to save her marriage many times. There is nothing wrong with you for cho…

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Dr. Julia DiGangi on the Neuropsychology of Stress and Success 56:36

2M ago56:36

56:36

In today’s episode of the Data Driven podcast, we delve into the intricate dance of the human brain with uncertainty, guided by the insightful and optimistic Dr. Julia DiGangi. Dr. DiGangi’s work transcends traditional academic boundaries, focusing on the neuropsychological underpinnings that shape our responses to the ever-shifting sands of our ti…

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7 Ways that a Covert Narcissist Reacts 19:54

2M ago19:54

19:54

Have you ever called a covert narcissist out for something they have done? How did it go? While every situation is different, so many stories from victims of covert narcissistic abuse are the same. It is as though we are all talking about the same person. The similarities are shocking! In this episode, I explore 7 ways that covert narcissists often…

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Tackling Tough Questions with Eleanor Marks 23:27

2M ago23:27

23:27

In this chat with Eleanor Marks and Renee Swanson, they address somes questions brought to them in the Facebook group, Covert Narcissism Group.One member said that she is wondering about helpful things to know when dealing with an attorney who only understands the general ‘narcissist’ definition but not all the underlying behavior issues that compo…

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Are compassion and empathy the same? 21:25

3M ago21:25

21:25

Understanding the difference between compassion and empathy is important for anyone who is dealing with a non-empathetic person, such as a covert narcissist. Compassion and empathy are both in response to the emotions and needs of another person. Both involve some level of awareness of the other person’s needs. By definition, compassion is the feel…

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Guest episode with Brandon Chadwick from Narcissist Apocalypse 53:40

3M ago53:40

53:40

Today, we welcome Brandon Chadwick as a guest on the Covert Narcissism Podcast. Brandon has his own podcast called, The Narcissist Apocalypse Podcast. In his podcast, Brandon shares a variety of stories from survivors of narcissistic abuse. These stories are raw and unfiltered examples of dealing with this type of abuse and the effects of it. In to…

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A Data Driven Retrospective: A Look Back Through Seven Seasons and 360 Episodes 1:10:49

3M ago1:10:49

1:10:49

In this landmark 360th episode of Data Driven, we take a full-circle journey back through the past seven seasons, exploring the highs, lows, and everything in-between. Frank and Andy, in their signature style, veer off the beaten path, offering listeners not just a trip down memory lane, but an off-road adventure filled with insights, laughter, and…

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3 Effects of Covert Narcissistic Parenting 21:49

3M ago21:49

21:49

Covert narcissists are bullies as parents, and their impact on the children is traumatic and long-lasting.For those listening who were raised by a covert narcissistic parent, identifying these effects within you is vital. This allows you to start that process of no longer blaming yourself and healing that internal shame. You do matter! You are good…

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Covert Narcissistic Parents are Bullies 7:02

3M ago7:02

7:02

When children have a narcissistic parent, they are being parented by a bully. They cannot possibly escape this situation. They cannot make sense out of it. They cannot reach out for help. Dealing with a bully is traumatic and harmful. Here are three effects that narcissistic parenting, bully parenting, has on their children.1. While the child knows…

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Stopping the Self-Doubt to Become Narcissist Resilient 17:01

3M ago17:01

17:01

Let’s say I’m a covert narcissist, and I’m looking for a partner. Who am I looking for? I believe that I am the best thing ever, that I am right all the time, that my opinion is all that matters. So who do I need? I need someone who doubts themselves. The best victim of gaslighting is someone who doubts themselves. One piece that makes someone quit…

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Victims Often Join the Abuse Themselves ( Special Throwback Episode) 19:16

3M ago19:16

19:16

Not only do victims of covert narcissistic abuse not see the abuse, they often join the abuser in abusing themselves. It’s the perfect storm built by this abuser in your life. Their circular conversations, projection, blame shifting, guilt manipulating, and many other tactics leave you, the victim, in complete confusion. You accept the projecting, …

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The Terrifying Narcissistic Traits in Our Children 26:45

3M ago26:45

26:45

In this Q&A session with Renee Swanson and Eleanor Marks, we answer two questions from the Covert Narcissism Facebook Group.How do you deal with the golden child and help them to unlearn concerning narcissistic traits without disparaging the other parent?How do you maintain a relationship with said child when also trying to protect yourself and hea…

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Blame Shifting - A Powerful Tool for the Covert Narcissist (Special throwback Episode) 19:16

3M ago19:16

19:16

f you don't tell me to do it, then it is your fault that it didn't get done. If you tell me to do it, then it is your fault if it doesn't go right. Have you ever heard these words or experienced these attitudes? Covert narcissists are SO good at dodging responsibility. I used to wonder why he wouldn’t even choose the restaurant for our dinner. Many…

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Strengthening Your Narcissist Immune System 20:34

3M ago20:34

20:34

We all have an immune system inside us. Its purpose is to fight harmful substances that enter the body. It builds a defense against invaders by keeping a record of every germ it has ever defeated so it can recognise and destroy the invading germ quickly if it ever enters the body again. This drastically limits the amount of harm an invader can do i…

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The Narcissism Spectrum (Special Throwback Episode) 18:18

4M ago18:18

18:18

Narcissism is not a clear cut issue. It isn’t a yes or no answer. It is an extremely complicated issue. One minute you can feel like you have a grasp on it, and the next minute that grasp simply disappears. You can think you finally understand it and then be at a loss for words in trying to explain it to someone else. “I got it. This makes sense,” …

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Covert Narcissism Q&A with Eleanor Marks 22:45

4M ago22:45

22:45

In this brand new series, I am doing a Q&A session with Eleanor Marks. We are answering questions that come directly from my Facebook group, Covert Narcissism Group. Today we begin with two questions. John asks for tips and help on recovery in the early part of this journey, for help on how to heal.Self-care is crucial when it comes to healing. Doi…

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Story of Hope: Taking Pride in the Little Things Once Again 25:15

4M ago25:15

25:15

Today’s guest Dave shares his enjoyment is trimming the bushes in front of his house because now it is HIS house. After going through over two years of the divorce process, he finds peace for himself and his kids. He admits that it is incredibly difficult to celebrate this as he is flooded with sadness at the trajectory of his marriage. At the same…

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Jennifer Swanson on Reinventing Business for the Era of Data and AI 56:15

4M ago56:15

56:15

In this episode Frank and Andy welcome Jennifer Swanson explains how businesses can reinvent themselves for the data driven age of AI. From recognizing the importance of defining clear strategies and outcomes to the struggles of change management, Jennifer reveals that the heart of digital transformation lies in aligning individuals to the company'…

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Our Kids Need Us 20:34

4M ago20:34

20:34

Welcome back. I am again talking about covert narcissism, and in specific, parenting with a partner who is showing the traits of covert narcissism. These kids go through a lot. Everyone has wounds from childhood. This is true. But the more educated we can become about the types of wounds and specific nature of the wounds, the better we are able to …

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Breaking the Internal Chains of Abuse (Special Throwback Episode) 22:20

4M ago22:20

22:20

Memories can absolutely haunt victims of covert narcissistic abuse for years!! They trigger us, causing massive internal reactions. Anxiety, tension, pain in the gut, shaking, twitching, upset stomach, increased blood pressure and heart rate, panic attacks, and so on. All of this from a simple memory that still haunts you today. This is PTSD and ca…

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Danny Maloney on AI’s Leap to Marketing Mastery 49:36

4M ago49:36

49:36

In this episode, Danny Maloney is going to lead you on a journey to explore how artificial intelligence is not just a fleeting novelty but a tool of immense utility that's changing the playing field for individuals and small businesses alike. Danny brings his passion for algorithmic innovation from his experiences as a data-loving youth to his lead…

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Luke Diaz on Leveraging Data for Customer Retention and Business Growth 51:40

4M ago51:40

51:40

Welcome to show 357 of the Data Driven podcast! This week, we welcome Luke Diaz to the show. Luke has an impressive track record of scaling startups to staggering annual recurring revenues, and today, he's here to shed light on the pivotal role of customer success in growing a business. We'll dive deep into the intricacies of customer success manag…

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5 Effects of Covert Narcissistic Parenting on Our Kids 18:26

4M ago18:26

18:26

Covert narcissistic parenting has a massive effect on our children! It leaves gaping holes in their development, which can haunt them for the rest of their lives. And they have NO clue in the early years. They don’t see the abuse in those really young ages, but they certainly feel it. Kids aren’t stupid, They know how they feel. They experience the…

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