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Do you love someone suffering from addiction? You're not powerless over this disease. You don’t need to wait for them to get sober. Join us for encouragement, hope, and some fun (because recovery doesn’t need to be depressing). If you feel exhausted from trying to help, depressed when they've been drinking or using drugs, and worried this roller coaster ride will never end – we can help.
 
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Have you gone back and forth (maybe many times) on whether you should stay or leave your relationship with your loved one who struggles with addiction? And let's be honest: that mental mind game can get pretty exhausting sometimes, right? Just know that it's okay if you don't know right now what you want to do. But it's also so important to remembe…
 
Have you ever thought that if you just keep a smile on your face and look pretty and perfectly together (even though you're barely hanging on), that it will be easier than expressing what you're REALLY going through while loving someone struggling with addiction? But how is that healthy? (Hint: it's not). Tune in to this new episode where I dive in…
 
You've more than likely tried expressing your feelings to them, right? Like how their drinking or using is affecting you and your relationship. Or that you're at your breaking point in dealing with their behavior. But has that actually helped to change anything? Tune in to this week's new episode, where we do some 'real talk,' and I give some lovin…
 
When you love someone struggling with addiction, have you ever thought about the possibility of leaving them? Because let's be honest, it can be exhausting wondering how much longer you can put up with the hurt and ups and downs. Right? And that's what I'm going to discuss with you today. Tune in to this week's new episode, where I share my persona…
 
Have you ever felt crazy because of your loved one's addiction? Like, maybe their addiction is all in your mind and not real? Or that you're somehow at fault for their addiction? So how do you move past feeling this way? Tune in to this episode, where I share several new stories that I haven't told before about my personal experience of feeling cra…
 
Have you ever worried that something bad might happen to your loved one that struggles with addiction? Maybe it's a fear of them getting in trouble legally or overdosing...or even dying. Just thinking about this might give you some anxiety, right? But how do you start to overcome this fear so that it's not consuming you? Tune in to this week's new …
 
When you love someone struggling with addiction, you're more than likely taking on too much responsibility. I mean, let's be honest; you're probably the one who always makes sure that everything gets done, whether that's the household, children, finances, or many other things. It can be downright exhausting. So, how can you tell if you're taking on…
 
When you love someone struggling with addiction, it can be frustrating because you see them self-destruct. And in turn, it can also sometimes affect you (and your children), right? I've been there before, too. So how can you start to feel better? Tune in to this week's new episode, where we'll brainstorm some consequences for your loved one's behav…
 
When you love someone struggling with addiction, have you ever felt like you're losing yourself? Or maybe feel like you're crazy because of things your partner says to you? Here's the thing: that's not healthy. So, how do you find your way back to your true (and healthy) self again? Tune in to this week's new episode to hear some tips on how to do …
 
When you love someone struggling with addiction, you just want to try to make sense of why this is happening to them, right? And you probably also want some validation that they really do have a problem (because let's be honest, addiction can make you feel crazy sometimes). So is there a way to be able to do that (and does it really help)? Tune in …
 
As you know, there are many things that a person can be addicted to, such as alcohol, drugs, or pornography. But there's one type of addiction that I haven't really discussed much, which is gambling. I have been learning more and more about it, so I want to share what I've learned so far, including what causes someone to become addicted to gambling…
 
When you have children with your partner who struggles with addiction, it's important to know and understand that they have an increased risk of developing an addiction themselves. Regardless of how nurturing of an environment you provide to your children, there's still a possibility of this happening. So how do you break this cycle? Tune in to thi…
 
When thinking about your loved one who struggles with addiction, have you ever wondered why it affects them? What is it that makes some more prone to addiction than others? As I've said before, most of my episodes are all about you and your healing. I usually don't concentrate on those struggling with addiction. But I really think some of this rese…
 
As you may have heard several episodes ago, I'm taking a certification course at Stanford that's all about the history and theories of addiction in a very scientific way. And I'm not going to lie; it's a lot. But I want to share with you (in a more 'cliff notes' sort of way) some of what I'm learning because I think it will help you understand why …
 
This week, I'm switching gears a little bit to talk about a subject that may be a little sensitive to some of you (myself included): abuse. While the thought of possibly being in an abusive relationship may be a bit unsettling, knowing if certain behaviors are abusive is so important. Knowledge is power. Tune in to this week's new episode, where I …
 
A loved one's addiction can sometimes have a way of making you feel that what you're asking for in your relationship is unrealistic. Can you relate? But just know that you're not crazy for wanting those things. That's why it's important to understand the steps in their recovery (and yours!) that will help you manage your expectations in a healthy w…
 
When you love someone struggling with addiction, have you ever wondered what it could look like if they ever got sober? Or what their behaviors would be and if they're someone who you can have hope in? Over the last couple of episodes, we've been working through some of the '12 Steps' of recovery because it's important to have reasonable expectatio…
 
If you tuned in last week, you heard me covering some of the first steps in helping you figure out where your loved one may be in their recovery. And this week, we're going to dive in even more. These steps will not only help you understand what recovery looks like for them but how some of it may even apply to your own healing, as well. Tune in to …
 
If you have a loved one struggling with addiction, you might have heard about the '12 Steps' of recovery. These are a set of guidelines (steps) to work toward recovery. As you know, I usually don't go into depth about their alcoholism or addiction. However, understanding these steps can help indicate where they're at in their own recovery. Tune in …
 
When you love someone struggling with addiction, they've most likely played mind games with you at some point. As a result, it can lead to anger or frustration on your part (which is completely understandable). So what do you do if they're making you feel like you are the crazy one for getting upset? Tune in to this new episode to hear an important…
 
Have you ever felt guilty for a tough decision (or many) you've had to make when loving someone struggling with addiction? If so, you're not alone. But why do these feelings come up after all you've been through? And how can you stop feeling guilty? Tune in for this week's new episode, where I address these questions and why feeling guilty is actua…
 
When you love someone struggling with addiction, there may be periods when they are sober. And then you see a tiny glimmer of hope. But when that happens, do you also worry about the possibility of a relapse? Tune in to this week's new episode, where I share some information about why (and how commonly) relapses occur so that you know what to expec…
 
If you have kids, having a real conversation with them about your partner's addiction is important. Because here's the thing: not only is addiction common in many families, but kids are very observant. They notice when something isn't 'right' with their parent that struggles with addiction, and as a result, they may be feeling some shame or uncerta…
 
When a loved one struggles with addiction, their actions and behaviors can lead you to feel hurt or angry sometimes, right? And it's easy to stay stuck in those feelings. This is why it's so important to learn how to love from a distance. But what does that look like (especially if you're staying with them)? In this week's new episode, you'll hear …
 
Boundaries. You've probably heard that term before, and to be honest, it's one of my favorite subjects to talk about. But it can be a little confusing sometimes figuring out what your boundaries should be, right? And not only that, how do you determine what a good boundary vs. a bad one is when you love someone struggling with addiction? Tune in to…
 
Today, I want to talk about something that's important for your healing: having more fun in your life. Yep, you heard me correctly. You may be asking, 'How in the world can I have more fun when I'm constantly dealing with my loved one's addiction?' Take a listen to this week's new episode, where I'll explain how having fun is a key element to movin…
 
When you love someone struggling with addiction, trust (or rather, a lack of trust) can be a common issue. Your loved one may have broken that trust. Or maybe you went into your relationship with prior trust issues. And just know, I can completely relate. Tune in to this week's episode where I share an 'a-ha' moment I had recently regarding trust w…
 
As you've heard me say before, my ex-husband is a good man who struggles with addiction, but unfortunately, addiction turned him into a different person. There were also many red flags that I missed (or didn't want to believe) during our relationship. Have you ever wondered if your partner really is (or isn't) a good person? Tune in to this week's …
 
If you've decided that leaving your partner who struggles with addiction is best for your situation, you might then be asking, "What's next in moving forward with my healing?" Or another big question: "What steps should I take so that I don't end up in another unhealthy relationship in the future?" Tune in to this week's episode where I answer thes…
 
Loving someone struggling with addiction can sometimes make things feel out of control in your relationship and your life. And when you start feeling that way, it's normal to want to control everything because it's hard to let go, right? Letting go can feel a little scary, or like everything may fall apart if you do. So I reached out to the women i…
 
Thinking about whether you should stay in or leave your relationship with your loved one struggling with addiction can be hard, right? It might give you little pangs of anxiety (which is completely normal). But just know that you're not alone in this journey (and there's never any judgment on what you decide to do). Tune in to this week's episode w…
 
When you love someone suffering from addiction, you've maybe wondered: why am I not good enough for them to get sober? Or thinking that if your partner would just get sober, you'd finally be able to feel happy again. This can then start a downward spiral with how you're feeling. But the loving truth is that basing your mood on how others are feelin…
 
When you think about the relationship you have with your loved one that suffers from addiction, you're more than likely the one who does all of the giving and gets nothing - or very little - in return. Does this sound familiar? But here's the thing: that's not a normal relationship because addiction is not normal. Tune into this week's episode to h…
 
When you love someone struggling with addiction, you want so badly to help them get healthy and be the person they were before addiction took over. Can you relate? But the loving truth is that their addiction is not your battle to fight. It's time to release that back to them because you deserve to have comfort in your mind, body, and spirit. You'r…
 
Feeling anger, fear, or sadness when you love someone struggling with addiction is normal (even if you're no longer with them). And it's also understandable if you've felt all three at the same time. You've gone through a lot because of their actions and behaviors. That's why it's so important to let yourself mourn: for what used to be good in your…
 
Feeling distrust in your relationship when you love someone struggling with addiction can be quite common. But there is some real danger in that. Because addiction doesn't like to tell the truth (and it wants to stay in control), it decides to tell lies. Maybe they've denied drinking or taking pills or texting other people that they shouldn't. When…
 
Whether your loved one suffers from addiction or not, having trust in your relationship is essential. Right? Because without it, you'll most likely start to feel frustrated or even stuck. But if you entered this relationship with any trust issues from your past, it's important to make your healing a priority. And you're not going to be able to do t…
 
Have you ever gone back and forth on a decision you needed to make while loving someone suffering from addiction? Maybe there have been days you're ready to pack your bags and leave, only to decide you're not quite ready yet. And guess what? That's okay. Because here's the deal: you reserve the right to change your mind at any time (and as often as…
 
When you love someone suffering from addiction, have you ever felt angry at some point? Maybe your loved one lied to you (again). Or spent every dime in your bank account that you needed for bills. After getting angry, did you feel ashamed or even embarrassed? If so, please give yourself lots of grace. Anger is actually your body's way of saying th…
 
At some point, you've probably felt embarrassed about your situation or something your loved one has done who suffers from addiction. Or maybe you're worried about being judged by others. Does this sound familiar? But here's the thing: you're not alone with what you're going through (even if it feels that way sometimes). By feeling humiliation or s…
 
Have you ever thought that your loved one who suffers from addiction might be cheating on you? It's not something you want to think about, right? So it's normal if you're in denial. But the loving truth is that cheating happens more often than you may think. And look, no judgment at all - it happened to me when I was married to my ex-husband. Tune …
 
Have you ever wanted to throw your hands up and scream from the chaos and dysfunction that sometimes happens when you love someone suffering from addiction? Maybe you've felt helpless and angry or wondering how to make things better when so much feels out of control. Can you relate? Tune in to this week's episode where I'll walk you through ways to…
 
When you love someone with addiction, it can be easy to forget what you want to accomplish in your life because the focus is usually on them. Does that sound familiar? You're not alone. But with the new year quickly approaching, it's a great time to do some self-reflection and take back your power against this disease. To step away from the chaos a…
 
If your loved one's addiction is marijuana, do they try to justify using it by saying it's safe because it's 'all-natural'? Or that it's not as harmful compared to other drugs? If you are struggling with boundaries around marijuana, trust me; you're not alone. But remember: you're not powerless. Educating yourself and understanding the effects of m…
 
When you love a good person suffering from addiction, it can sometimes feel like the light or sparkliness that's inside you has dimmed. Can you relate? This can happen when the cloak of addiction covers things up around you and your loved one struggling with addiction. And with the holiday season right around the corner, it can be incredibly stress…
 
Has the thought ever crossed your mind that you should change who you are just because things aren't going as planned with your loved one who suffers from addiction? Something similar happened recently with my daughter (whose story you'll hear in this episode), and I'm so incredibly proud of her for staying true to herself. Instead, she's changing …
 
You've probably heard the expression, “Let go and let God.” And at times it can be a helpful mantra. But I disagree with this saying when you love someone suffering from addiction (or even with unhealthy relationships with friends or family). In our community, we believe that it's 100% OK to take control of your own life and feelings. You're a grow…
 
Earlier today, I was walking into the grocery store and then turned right back around to get in my car and record this podcast for you. This spur-of-the-moment episode has nothing to do with drugs or alcohol or addiction. And it's not about politics. But it's something I wanted to get to you right away. I hope you'll take a listen: https://loveover…
 
I was watching my husband play hockey recently, and it got me thinking about the offense and defense we play in our lives when we love someone suffering from addiction. (As you know, I can relate just about anything to addiction). Are you in control of your life and moving forward with your goals (playing offense)? Or are you trying to prevent your…
 
As a codependent, setting (and sticking to) boundaries can sometimes be challenging. And look, no judgment at all. Boundaries are tricky and take lots of practice. But they're also so important to have when you love someone suffering from addiction. Because here's the thing: without boundaries, the morals and values you entered the relationship wit…
 
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