Best Wifeofanalcoholic Podcasts (2024)

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What Happens After We Leave 8:12

25d ago8:12

8:12

We lay in bed at night and dream about what life would be like if we left the ones we desperately love who struggle with addiction. What would living without constant worry feel like? How would we deal with our finances, the kids, and no one to laugh with on holidays? Sometimes, imagining leaving feels so freeing (especially when they are not answe…

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Three Ways Addiction Makes Us Feel Like It's Our Fault 7:34

1M ago7:34

7:34

When we love someone suffering from addiction, we can often get into the bad habit of blaming ourselves for their poor behavior. Addiction is manipulative and cunning. Becoming educated women will ensure we don’t fall for one of the most common lies in the addiction playbook: if WE change, they will get sober. We have nothing to do with their sobri…

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A Well Designed Happy Life With or Without Them 5:06

1M ago5:06

5:06

How would it feel if I said we need to live a life that isn’t dependent on our loved one’s sobriety? And if we can create that kind of life, we can have a happy future if they get sober or not. We can learn to live with or without our partners. Here’s the loving truth: we hope and pray that our loved ones will not drink too much or stop using drugs…

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What To Do With The Kids If Our Partner Is Drinking or Using Drugs 7:23

2M ago7:23

7:23

Knowing what to do when our loved one starts drinking or using drugs around the children can be difficult. Here’s one helpful tip: We don’t need to stick around when they're making bad choices. We can ask them to leave the house. If they refuse or they’re too drunk, we can pick up our keys, grab the kids, and head right out the door. https://michel…

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Should We Leave? 5:52

2M ago5:52

5:52

"Should I leave my partner?" What a big question. And let's be honest, it's a question that many women in this community have. Let’s first start off by saying thinking about leaving is nothing to be ashamed of. We’re doing the right thing by looking for answers, even though it’s hard. The state of our relationships is not our fault. We fell in love…

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If We Struggle With Codependency 4:31

2M ago4:31

4:31

Change is necessary if we want to move forward. Some of us enjoy changing, and others will avoid making the changes we know we need to because we're scared (I am raising my own hand). Change is uncomfortable, and staying stuck in our misery sometimes feels easier - even though it's not always what's best. https://michelleanderson.substack.com/…

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What To Do When We Feel Overwhelmed 10:08

2M ago10:08

10:08

When I was married to a good man who suffered from addiction, I was terrified of leaving him. I thought about leaving all the time; I think part of me always knew, we would end up in divorce, but the idea of actually leaving paralyzed me with fear. There were times I was so upset I would try to will myself to leave, but for many reasons, I was alwa…

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The Truth About Trusting Them 7:06

2M ago7:06

7:06

When our loved ones who struggle with addiction choose to go to rehab or get help, it can bring up all sorts of feelings. We might feel hopeful that maybe THIS time, they will get sober for good. We might feel scared that maybe this won’t work and will be a huge disappointment. We might feel resentful that they are being cared for and looked after …

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How To Detach From Our Partner 3:47

3M ago3:47

3:47

If you’re familiar with the world of addiction or codependency, you’ve probably heard the word “detach”. But, like many “self-help” words, it can be very hard to understand exactly what detaching means, let alone how actually to detach. Does it mean you need to leave your partner who is suffering from addiction? Is there something cruel or manipula…

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What To Do When They Start Getting Mean 4:28

3M ago4:28

4:28

One of the core beliefs we have at Love Over Addiction is that addiction is a third party in our relationships. We view addiction as a separate entity from our loved ones. This helps us with forgiveness and to process why we love someone who can be so cruel and self-destructive. When they start being rude, nasty, or mean, that’s the addiction tryin…

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What's the Difference Between Good Boundaries & Poor Boundaries? 4:43

3M ago4:43

4:43

Having good, healthy boundaries in place versus poor, unrealistic boundaries can make all the difference in our personal, spiritual, and physical lives. Having boundaries is important (especially when loving someone suffering from addiction), but boundaries can be confusing. What is a good boundary, some of us might be wondering? https://michellean…

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How to Really Surrender Control 10:55

4M ago10:55

10:55

The word surrender is used a lot in the world of addiction. One of the things that always bothered me was that I was constantly being told that I needed to “let go and surrender,” but I never really understood how. The word surrender to me means letting go of my emotional investment in a certain outcome. Surrender doesn't mean we stop loving or car…

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Why We Keep Going Back to Them 8:05

4M ago8:05

8:05

Do you ever wonder: "Why do I keep going back to someone who hurts me so much?" There are many reasons we stay, but today, I’m going to be vulnerable and share with you why I deeply loved a man who clearly didn’t love me or himself enough to get sober. https://michelleanderson.substack.com/By Michelle Anderson

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3 Reasons We Don't Talk About Loving Someone Suffering with Addiction 10:26

4M ago10:26

10:26

Your loved one might seem put together on the outside. Most men and women who drink too much or suffer from substance abuse disorder hold good jobs and earn a good living. Most of the time, they can help take care of the kids and household duties. And because they are so high-functioning, it can leave you feeling nervous about sharing with friends …

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Valentines Day AND Super Bowl Sunday? Ugh. 4:00

4M ago4:00

4:00

It's almost time for Valentine's Day and Super Bowl Sunday (in America). One holiday can leave us feeling disappointed and unloved, wondering, "Why don't they love me enough?" We see the commercials for Valentine's Day with loving couples, chocolates, and flowers, but that's usually not our reality. We live in a different world. A world where love …

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Normal Relationship Advice Does Not Apply To Us 11:17

5M ago11:17

11:17

Let’s be honest, not many people know what to do with our feelings of deep loneliness or constant anxiety when it comes to our relationships. And very well-intentioned people can give some really hurtful advice. Find the full show notes and join in the conversation: https://michelleanderson.substack.com…

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3 Ways You Might Be Codependent 9:13

5M ago9:13

9:13

Being codependent can go hand in hand with loving someone suffering from addiction. Like two magnets attracted to one another, we connect with our partner by a force that feels greater than ourselves. Love has something to do with it, but also, there might be some relationship dynamics at play. Find the full show notes and join in the conversation:…

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Why It's So Hard To Love Someone Suffering With Addiction 9:04

6M ago9:04

9:04

And addiction happens to really good people. I truly, truly believe that. I always said my ex-husband is one of the most talented human beings I've ever met. He had it all. He was brilliant, kind, funny, charming and good looking. I mean, the guy had it all. And I hear a lot. I meet a lot of people struggling with addiction, and they are some of th…

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Should We Throw Away Their Substances 12:36

6M ago12:36

12:36

When we love somone suffering from addiction, it can be hard to know if we should throw away their drugs, alcohol, or get rid of their pornography. We hear this from people in our community all the time. They'll find stashes in the bathroom, bedroom, garage, car, or office. What should you do when you find it? We'll get into the details of how to h…

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3 Common Mistakes We Make During An Argument With Our Partner 10:37

6M ago10:37

10:37

When you love someone suffering from addiction, everything about your relationship is different. Arguemnts can be very challenging to navigate. Today we'll talk about 3 tips to navigate arguments with your partner. And three common mistakes we make (becuase we're human). Remember that you're not alone. There's a whole community of people that are i…

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How to Get Back to Being Yourself 12:02

6M ago12:02

12:02

Today, let's dive into something deep—finding our way back to ourselves. You ever look in the mirror and wonder where that old you went? Yeah, it hits hard. Love, especially when it's entangled with addiction, can make us feel lost, lonely, and like we've lost our spark. But here's the thing—I believe we can reclaim ourselves, even in the midst of …

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I Was Losing Myself 11:27

7M ago11:27

11:27

When I was married to a good man who suffered from addiction, I made a list of things I could control vs. things that I needed to let go of because, after a decade of loving him, I was losing myself. My wake-up call came when my friend from college was visiting for a weekend and tenderly said, “Michelle, I don’t even recognize you anymore.” I was a…

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Why Do We Feel Depressed Around the Holidays? 16:17

7M ago16:17

16:17

Michelle talks about how difficult the winter holidays can feel when loving someone struggling with addiction, the top five things people like us worry about (and it's not the turkey stuffing) and how we have two choices - quit or double down on the "holiday magic" - both are perfectly acceptable. Plus, some loving advice she would tell her younger…

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Narcissism, Abuse, and the Progression of Addiction 53:51

2y ago53:51

53:51

By Michelle Anderson

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Is It Possible To Build Back Trust? 30:43

2y ago30:43

30:43

Whether your loved one suffers from addiction or not, having trust in your relationship is essential. Right? Because without it, you'll most likely start to feel frustrated or even stuck. But if you entered this relationship with any trust issues from your past, it's important to make your healing a priority. And you're not going to be able to do t…

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He Went To 5 Rehabs In 22 Years 1:16:35

2+ y ago1:16:35

1:16:35

When your loved one who struggles with addiction has been in and out of rehab for 22 years, at what point do you say, 'enough is enough?' Because honestly, are they really EVER going to get healthy (especially when they can't be honest about their addiction)? That's something a strong woman in our community shared recently and what her 'line in the…

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Her Trauma Bond Kept Her From Leaving 49:04

2+ y ago49:04

49:04

When you think about the relationship with your partner who struggles with addiction, have there been times you've questioned yourself about why you've stayed so long? And if so, what keeps pulling you back in even though it's not a healthy situation? This is something a brave woman in our community shared with me recently that many people will mos…

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Does An Alcoholic Have To Drink Every Day? 46:52

2+ y ago46:52

46:52

When you think of someone struggling with alcoholism (or any addiction), you probably feel that they must drink every day, right? But as you'll hear in this new podcast interview, that's not necessarily always the case. Tune in for this brave woman's story of how her Aboriginal roots and learned childhood behaviors impacted her life later on (parti…

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Spiraling And Spinning Out Of Control? You’re Not Alone. 38:36

2+ y ago38:36

38:36

Loving someone with addiction can sometimes make you feel like you're spinning out of control, can't it? One moment you're feeling joy and hope, only to have it turn to fear and anger pretty quickly. And listen, you’re not alone. We've been there and completely understand. But the good news is that you can make it feel less and less like a roller c…

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He Won’t Stop Drinking 1:07:24

2+ y ago1:07:24

1:07:24

Has your loved one flat out refused to stop drinking (or whatever their substance of choice is) no matter how many times you've begged and pleaded? And what if their addiction is affecting your young children? That's something a strong woman in our community spoke about recently (and how she tried to compromise with her husband multiple times). Tun…

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Interview: Dating After Leaving Someone With Addiction 1:00:30

2+ y ago1:00:30

1:00:30

If you've moved on from your relationship with someone who struggles with addiction (or have been thinking about it), have you wondered what 'life after leaving' looks like? Or what would dating again be like? That might seem a little scary, right? I recently spoke with a woman in our community who was very brave and open about what this has been l…

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Does Your Relationship Show Signs Of Abuse? You Might Be Surprised. 17:45

2+ y ago17:45

17:45

If you've been tuning in for the last several episodes, you've heard me covering some clues that you may be ready to consider leaving your relationship with your loved one who struggles with addiction. And this week, I'm finishing up with the final two reasons. As always, there's never any judgment on whether you decide to stay or leave. That's com…

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What If They Get Better After You Leave? 15:11

2+ y ago15:11

15:11

If you've gone back and forth on possibly leaving your loved one who struggles with addiction, what's holding you back from doing so? If one of the reasons is that you're afraid they might get better after you leave, just know you're not alone. But I want to share some loving truths with you, okay? Tune in to this week's new episode to hear several…

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3 Clues It May Be Time To Consider Leaving 30:36

2+ y ago30:36

30:36

Has the thought ever crossed your mind about whether you should stay or leave your relationship? And maybe just the thought of leaving your loved one who struggles with addiction makes you anxious or scared (which is understandable). But just hear me out, okay? Tune in to this week's new episode, where I dive into three clues that it may be time to…

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Interview: He Used His Child To Manipulate Me 55:52

2+ y ago55:52

55:52

Have you ever felt like you're on a rollercoaster ride because of your loved one's addiction? Lots of ups and downs and uncertainty of what's ahead. So why do we stay on that ride (or keep coming back)? Tune in to this new podcast episode to hear a woman explain how her ex-husband used their child to manipulate her and how she found herself in a fi…

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Interview: He Was A High-Functioning Alcoholic 47:35

2+ y ago47:35

47:35

Have you ever wondered whether your loved one's drinking is really 'that bad?' When you love someone who is a high-functioning alcoholic, it can be easy to start doubting yourself and your feelings. I spoke with a brave woman in our community recently who opened up about going through this. Tune in to this new podcast episode where she shares about…

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Interview: Breaking The Cycle of Codependency For Her Daughters 47:41

2+ y ago47:41

47:41

For many of us, codependency is something we've dealt with for a long time. But have you ever wondered how you came to be that way? Or how to break the cycle of codependency, particularly with your loved one who struggles with addiction? This is something I discussed recently with a strong woman in our community. Tune in for this new podcast interv…

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When “Let Go and Let God” Doesn’t Work 34:37

2+ y ago34:37

34:37

You've probably heard the expression, “Let go and let God.” That it's somehow OK to lose control of what you want or believe. But I disagree with this saying when you love someone suffering from addiction (or even with unhealthy relationships with friends or family). In our community, we believe that it's 100% OK to take control of your own life an…

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Two Codependent Boundary Systems You Need To Know 31:17

2+ y ago31:17

31:17

As a codependent, setting (and sticking to) boundaries can sometimes be challenging. And look, no judgment at all. Boundaries are tricky and take lots of practice. But they're also so important to have when you love someone suffering from addiction. Because here's the thing: without boundaries, the morals and values you entered the relationship wit…

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Interview: She Almost Called Off The Wedding 38:55

2+ y ago38:55

38:55

Have you experienced red flags in your relationship with your loved one that almost caused you to make a huge decision to either stay or leave? That's exactly what happened to a woman I spoke with recently in our community. Not only did she almost call off her wedding, but she shares what her 'rock bottom' was in her relationship, as well as some v…

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Interview: I Hate The Holidays 40:01

2+ y ago40:01

40:01

Maybe you love the holidays. Or perhaps you're like a woman in our community I spoke to recently who has said, "I hate the holidays." If that's something you've said before, you're not alone (and it definitely doesn't make you a 'Scrooge'). Tune in for this new episode to hear this courageous woman discuss several fears she has about the possibilit…

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Interview: Her Plan For A Happy Holiday 43:21

2+ y ago43:21

43:21

When you love someone struggling with addiction, the holidays may not always be something you're looking forward to, right? Because most likely, this is the time where their alcohol (or chosen substance) consumption might increase, especially with all of the holiday get-togethers going on. But what if you CAN still experience joy regardless of thei…

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Interview: How I’m Deciding To Stay Or Go 45:39

2+ y ago45:39

45:39

How do you know if you should stay or leave your relationship when you love someone struggling with addiction? I had the pleasure of speaking with a brave woman in our community recently who shared the lessons she's learned while working on her own healing and her reasoning for staying or leaving her marriage. Tune in to this week's new podcast epi…

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Interview: I’m Here To Stay 1:00:44

2+ y ago1:00:44

1:00:44

If you're with someone struggling with addiction, have you ever wondered what it could look like to stay in your relationship with them? I recently spoke to a very wise woman in our community who has done so much work on her own healing and has decided to stay in her marriage. Tune in to hear this new podcast interview and how she arrived at the po…

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Interview: I Had No Idea I Was Married To An Alcoholic 1:04:56

2+ y ago1:04:56

1:04:56

What happens when a loved one has been hiding their addiction from you (even for many years!)? Because let's be honest: it can be devastating when you find the 'evidence' such as empty bottles stashed in a 'hiding place,' right? This is exactly what happened to one of the women in our community who Michelle spoke with recently. Tune in to this new …

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Mindful Detaching and Finding Your Center 8:55

2+ y ago8:55

8:55

When you have someone in your life who is struggling with addiction, you've probably felt a wide range of emotions: hurt, anger, sadness, and sometimes even hope. It can be a lot, right? So when you start to feel your emotions rise (which is normal!), it's important to find your 'center' again. But how do you do that? Tune in to this week's new epi…

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My Story Of Struggling With Depression 16:23

2+ y ago16:23

16:23

When you love someone struggling with addiction, you may feel depressed sometimes or have feelings of anxiety. You've been through a lot because of their addiction, right? Just know that you're not alone in feeling this way. Many people in our community can relate to what you're going through (including myself). And that's what I'm going to discuss…

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Ways To Spend Your Energy When You’re Feeling Overwhelmed 17:27

2+ y ago17:27

17:27

When you love someone struggling with addiction, you've maybe felt overwhelmed sometimes. Or you start believing some negative thoughts about yourself that their addiction tries to convince are true. Can you relate? So how can you start to change this? Tune in to this new episode where I share some tips to help you feel less overwhelmed and more em…

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Staying With Your Loved One Who Struggles With Addiction 35:43

2+ y ago35:43

35:43

When you love someone struggling with addiction, the decision to stay or leave your relationship is ultimately up to you. It's one that you need to have full ownership of. But if you've decided to stay, what does that look like? And what are some things that you'll need to consider? Tune in to this new episode where I dive into this (as well as wha…

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What You Are Feeling Is A Big Deal 29:50

2+ y ago29:50

29:50

Loving someone with addiction usually means you feel many things: love, anxiety, and frustration (just to name a few). Or even that you're coming unglued. Can you relate? Just know that what you are feeling and what you're going through is a big deal. It's okay for you to feel all of the feels. And that's what I share with you in this week's new ep…

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