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The Lasting Love Podcast ... Real Life, Real People, Real Love! ... Lasting Love isn't a given. It's a CHOICE and a SKILL that you can master! No matter what your dating or relationship situation, "It's NOT YOU--It's your technique!". Anyone can get a different result if they know what to do. Tune in each week as Alisa Goodwin Snell, M.A. (with over 30-years of experience as a Marriage & Family Therapist and a Dating & Relationship Strategist) transforms the love life of singles and couples ...
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Dating a widower, long distance, or the never married?
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When Karen, a 38-year-old divorced mother of three, came back from her singles' vacation, she was excited about a widow, a divorced man with three kids, and a handsome, never-married man who lived locally. But who should she choose? The divorced man wouldn't be easy to date due to his crazy ex and living a few states away; however, their connection…
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I'm not feeling it! Should I stay or should I go?
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"I don't know if I'm feeling it. I'm not sure if I'm attracted. I still notice attractive people. I worry that we're not having enough fun. I've felt stronger feelings in the past. I don't know if this will go anywhere, and I don't want to waste his time or mine. Should I stay, or should I go?" Such doubts were common for Jana. Theo was an attracti…
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Make the most of social, church, vacation, and group events.
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Is it worth the time, inconvenience, and money to go to singles' cruises, vacations, or conferences when you rarely end up dating anyone you meet there? Also, what about your church, social events, and other hangout opportunities? Is it realistic to pursue dates at these activities? This is Alisa Goodwin Snell with the LastingLoveAcademy.com. I hav…
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Dating apps don't work! Going Dutch? Get 3 dates/wk
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Singles frequently complain that dating apps don't work, there aren't attractive singles, all the good ones are married, and dating isn't fun. Additionally, they want to know what to do when someone wants to go Dutch. These were the questions and comments that Karen, a 38-year old divorced mother of three, had when she came in for her session this …
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(podcast includes a downloadable workbook) We've all had painful experiences that feed our fears or make us doubt ourselves and our future. We fear that we'll fail, we can't have what others have, and we'll experience the same problems over and over again. We're scared of abuse, loss, abandonment, rejection, and betrayal. These anxieties keep us fr…
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Reveal My Partner's Hidden Needs PART 1: You can be right or effective
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Tim and Tara's struggle with creating and maintaining a secure attachment pattern was so tragic and sad because it was unfortunately too common. Neither of them was involved in toxic behavior (addictions, infidelity, dishonesty, or abuse), and they both loved each other passionately. Nevertheless, they didn't trust each other, and their conflicts m…
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Reveal My Partner's Hidden Needs PART 2: Grieving leads to acceptance & success
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Tim and Tara's struggle with creating and maintaining a secure attachment pattern was so tragic and sad because it was unfortunately too common. Neither of them was involved in toxic behavior (addictions, infidelity, dishonesty, or abuse), and they both loved each other passionately. Nevertheless, they didn't trust each other, and their conflicts m…
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Reveal My Partner's Hidden Needs PART 3: From feeling fearful to being resilient
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Tim and Tara's struggle with creating and maintaining a secure attachment pattern was so tragic and sad because it was unfortunately too common. Neither of them was involved in toxic behavior (addictions, infidelity, dishonesty, or abuse), and they both loved each other passionately. Nevertheless, they didn't trust each other, and their conflicts m…
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Reveal My Partner's Hidden Needs PART 4: Their hidden needs
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Tim and Tara's struggle with creating and maintaining a secure attachment pattern was so tragic and sad because it was unfortunately too common. Neither of them was involved in toxic behavior (addictions, infidelity, dishonesty, or abuse), and they both loved each other passionately. Nevertheless, they didn't trust each other, and their conflicts m…
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Reveal My Partner's Hidden Needs PART 5: From punishment and reward to attachment
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Tim and Tara's struggle with creating and maintaining a secure attachment pattern was so tragic and sad because it was unfortunately too common. Neither of them was involved in toxic behavior (addictions, infidelity, dishonesty, or abuse), and they both loved each other passionately. Nevertheless, they didn't trust each other, and their conflicts m…
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Want to be socially accepted? Don't miss this!
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We've all been that person who's been in a social group or setting and noticed someone on the outskirts, the wallflower, the one who tries to start a conversation very awkwardly, or they only come with one person and they stay with that person the whole time. We've all seen these socially awkward situations and been afraid of being that person. We'…
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Is it time to break up, or is there hope?
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Have you been in a conflict with someone you really care about? You want to be patient and understanding of where they're coming from. You also need to be heard and tell them what you're thinking. You’re upset. You're trying to control your emotions and not say things that will hurt. And then you get to this point where it feels like you've hit a w…
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Her ex is a narcissist, but what about her?
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Have you ever noticed that as a single person, it seems so many people are experts at identifying their exes as Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder? It's common to hear these terms thrown around. It either makes you sympathetic for the person and what they've gone through (especially if they're attractive) or concerned that they're thro…
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Over 20 years ago, I was set up on a blind date, and when he called, I felt such an immediate connection. He was funny, charming, confident. It just was intoxicating. We stayed on the phone for hours. My cheeks hurt. After that conversation, he wanted to see me the next morning for breakfast, I could barely sleep, I was giddy. The next day, the con…
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Is he not getting dates because he's on the spectrum?
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When Jeremy walked into my office as a 22-year-old college student who had never been in a significant relationship and rarely went on dates, there were a couple of things that stood out about him. He was a little overweight. His posture really needed to be improved. He had that total nice guy look about him, which unfortunately can make him be und…
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Tim and Tara were in their 40s. They both had two children from previous marriages. And they were having a tremendous amount of conflict in their relationship. When I first started working with Tim, he was very anxious, losing weight, couldn't really concentrate, and was desperate to figure out what was either wrong in the relationship or whether o…
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If you're like a lot of singles, one of the hardest questions to answer or statements to respond to is, "You're amazing! I can't understand why you're still single," or "How are you not married yet?" There are so many different things that singles struggle with in the process of meeting, becoming exclusive, creating a secure attachment, and getting…
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When my son was a teenager, he came to me and shared his fear that there must be something wrong with him because he was not in a relationship, like he felt so many of his friends were. As I talked with him about it, it was obvious that he had a view where he was focusing just on those people who did have relationships. He didn't see how many other…
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If you ask someone if they want to get married, you'll receive a variety of different answers. But if you ask them if they want lasting love, across the board, you're going to hear, "Yes. They do want to love and be loved". You're also going to hear some skepticism about whether or not lasting love really even exists anymore or whether or not they …
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