Best Brad And Lisa Valencia Podcasts (2024)

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153. The Little Things That Hurt: How Micro-Rejections Show up in Marriage 1:00:31

1h ago1:00:31

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In this episode, we dive into the subtle, often unnoticed behaviors—micro-rejections—that can slowly create a chasm between you and your spouse. Join us as we explore what micro-rejections look like, why they’re easy to overlook, and how they can build up over time to erode trust and connection. Learn how to recognize and address these small hurts …

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152. Transforming Your Marriage: 3 Questions That Can Change Everything” 52:06

1h ago52:06

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In this episode, we explore three transformative questions from Gary Chapman that can change the course of your marriage: •What can I do to help you? •How can I make your life easier? •How can I be a better husband/wife? These questions, when asked with humility and selflessness, open the door to deeper communication and connection. When you choose…

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151. Love Languages: Unlocking Deeper Connection in Your Marriage 52:21

7d ago52:21

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In this episode, we dive into the connection between love languages, respect, and how you both give and receive love. Understanding your own love language, as well as your spouse’s, can radically impact the health of your marriage. We discuss how the way you express love ties into showing respect and how this directly influences your relationship w…

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150. Beyond Behavior: Living Out Genuine Transformation 48:58

25d ago48:58

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In this episode, we explore the crucial difference between behavior modification and true transformation. While behavior modification focuses on outward actions and temporary change, true transformation comes from Christ and leads to lasting growth. Repentance plays a key role in this process, allowing you to move beyond simply altering your behavi…

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149. Navigating the Aftermath: When, How, and IF to Talk to Your Kids About Your Marriage Struggles 48:42

1M ago48:42

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In this sensitive episode, we tackle the challenging topic of communicating and healing with your children after experiencing the fallout from an affair. We understand that this is a difficult conversation, filled with emotions and uncertainties. Join us as we explore: 1. Finding the Right Words– How to approach the conversation honestly and age-ap…

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148. Unlocking Her Heart: learning what really matters to your wife 51:14

1M ago51:14

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Men, respecting your wife means more than just making decisions—it’s about valuing her contributions, recognizing her wisdom, and praising her openly. Join us as we dive deeper into how these biblical principles can create a more balanced and fulfilling relationship. Go after strengthening your marriage by speaking your wife’s respect language. We …

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147. Unspoken Signals: Learning how to communicate what REALLY matters to your man 53:00

2M ago53:00

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In this episode, we explore 6 practical ways to build up and empower your husband through respect, trust, and unwavering support that is covered by "Through The Word: Marriage Talks". https://www.bible.com/en/reading-plans 1. Let Him Lead– Trusting and following his leadership helps him feel strong and confident. 2. Communicate Trust– Affirm your b…

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146. UNBREAKABLE : The Strength of Not Letting Go in Your Marriage 36:43

2M ago36:43

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Join us as we discuss the importance of never letting go! In this episode we dive deep into the power of perseverance in relationships. Every marriage faces challenges, but what sets lasting unions apart is the decision to hold on when times get tough. We’ll explore how commitment, faith, and intentional effort can help you overcome obstacles and b…

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145. Distract, Deceive, Destroy - Paying attention to how these three tactics impact your marriage. 49:57

6M ago49:57

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The truth is that you make time for what you prioritize, and that plays out in your spiritual, emotional, and physical health, along with your marriage. You have to create space for connection because the distractions will always be there! The enemy uses the same playbook with all of us, and if he can't deceive us or destroy us, he will settle for …

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144. What You Tolerate Dominates - How what you tolerate impacts you, your marriage, and your walk with God. 54:30

6M ago54:30

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In the book, "Extreme Ownership," by Jock Willink he quotes, "It's not what you preach, it's what you tolerate." This caused us both to take a good hard look at ourselves, and areas in our life where this has had an impact. The reality is that what you tolerate...dominates. Challenge for this week is to look inward at what you are tolerating indivi…

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143. Facing Your Fears - How to gain confidence and let go of control 50:00

6M ago50:00

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So often, fear can take us down a road that leaves us crippled, trying to be prepared for all scenarios and in control. But that control is an illusion, and instead fear ends up robbing us of our present, and of our future. Stand in God's truth for your life and have confidence in who He is and what He can do. https://open.spotify.com/episode/0BMxs…

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142. Part 2 - Practical Steps to Protect Your Marriage 1:09:31

7M ago1:09:31

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The reality is that every marriage faces stress, and the first responder world has some additional stressors to navigate. HOW you navigate those, who you turn to, your relationship with Christ, how you listen, how you die to self, and how you handle the adrenaline rush will determine the direction of your marriage. Don't be a statistic. You are eas…

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141. How Your Job impacts Your Marriage - A look into the first responder world 1:10:17

7M ago1:10:17

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The first responder world is riddled with a high divorce rate, and constant variables that contribute to an unhealthy marriage. We dive into our own experience in this realm as both a team member and spouse, and offer some insight to help protect and bring hope to your marriage. Links: https://thinblue1st.org/mission-%26-vision https://digitalcommo…

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140. Saying Yes to God - What does it look like to take the next right step? 1:04:01

7M ago1:04:01

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We were so honored to have our daughter on this episode as she shares what saying yes to God has done in your life. There were so many truths that emerged throughout this conversation for your faith, life, and marriage. When God asks you to say yes to something, don't practice delayed obedience, and when He asks you to let go, don't hold on. Life i…

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139. A Year of Firsts - How to navigate through the anniversaries of the hard things in life 54:24

7M ago54:24

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This is a discussion we had never had before this episode. We openly wrestle through what it looks like to hold both joy and pain together at the same time, and allow you to hear the perspective of both of us and what it looked like to navigate through the first year after our breach in trust. Ultimately, we encourage you to lean into a perspective…

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138. Obstacles to Better Sex in Your Marriage 1:01:40

8M ago1:01:40

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There are many things that can create obstacles to great sex in your marriage. These include your memories, communication, past trauma, libido, age, changes, stressors, insecurities, and addiction. There are many obstacles, but there is such hope! God can redeem, heal, and restore this area. Don't let anything stop you from reclaiming ground in thi…

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137. Does God Have a Plan For Me and My Marriage..and can I mess it up? 59:41

8M ago59:41

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We navigated a lot of topics on this episode that impact your faith and marriage, including what it looks like to live when someone isn't willing or wanting to pursue Christ, and whether you have the ability to mess up God's plan. Here are some practical things discussed that you CAN do to stay in God's will and show Jesus to your spouse. Pray Seek…

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136. Navigating Grief and Infant Loss - Interview with Foreknown Ministries 1:08:08

8M ago1:08:08

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We loved getting to know Kelsi and Ryan and to have an opportunity to hear their hearts for helping others navigate through loss and grief. There are principles throughout their story that can be applied to any season of life. The Cole family is a beautiful trio in their photo, but behind the scenes, they hold a story of tremendous loss, resilience…

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135. Sacrifice Without Loss - No greater love 52:57

8M ago52:57

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John 15:13 Greater love has no one than this, that someone lay down his life for his friends. This verse talks about the physical aspect of laying down your life for someone else, and that's part of it, but Christ laid down His life sacrificially long before He did it physically. What does this mean for you and for your marriage? How could this shi…

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134. Knowing What Not To Say - Do you need to say all the things all at once? 59:57

9M ago59:57

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Often we hear the struggles of a couple knowing how to navigate triggers, how to share their story, and when/how to share something with their spouse. We dive into this topic today and address areas that can be very difficult to navigate in communication, marriage, and healing. James 1:19 says "My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Every…

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133. Is it Okay to Curse - Does this really matter and how does it involve your marriage? 54:04

9M ago54:04

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This conversation brought up so much for us as we delved into how you represent Christ in this world and in your marriage. We invite you along for the conversation and hope it helps bring some clarity to an area that can truly set us apart. Here is the YouTube video referenced: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3axFcUUs1gc Here are some great verses …

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132. Assumptions Kill - How does curiosity, reactions, and definitions impact your marriage? 51:22

9M ago51:22

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The longer you know someone, the more you begin to assume things in your relationship. Often, you walk away from conversations with takeaways that were never said because of someone's tone, their body language, and previous experiences. These assumptions kill curiosity. We want to encourage you to stay curious in your marriage, to commit to growing…

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131. Is Compromise Really the Secret to a Successful Marriage? 1:00:54

9M ago1:00:54

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Does compromise really ensure happiness in marriage, or instead does it encourage you to lay down parts of yourself that you shouldn't? Does it encourage you to start keeping a tallying score of what has been lost and what you need to gain back? Or, in essence, is it sacrifice that really ensures that a marriage thrives? Isn't this how Christ calls…

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130. Pray, Pivot, Grow - Change is inevitable! 54:55

9M ago54:55

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This past week we had the opportunity to reflect on the power of an invitation, the changing of seasons, and the inevitability of change. How we handle these moments and how we choose to grow as an individual and in marriage determines so much. Don't let obstacles such as perfectionism, expectations, or fear stop you from leaving one season behind …

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129. This One Thing Can Change EVERYTHING - navigating parenting in all seasons 1:04:32

10M ago1:04:32

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Parenting has a big impact on your marriage, and can create conflict for a couple as they learn to navigate different parenting styles, backgrounds, and viewpoints. One of the greatest gifts you can give your kids is to live out a great marriage and model authentic faith. In fact, a recent study shows shocking statistics for when someone reads the …

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128. How Do You Always Trust, Hope, and Persevere? 52:45

10M ago52:45

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What does this look in life, and how do you do these things when facing some level of hurt or betrayal? Join us for this in depth conversation and real-life examples of how we navigated this in our own life and marriage. We want to encourage you that you ALWAYS have hope in your future because of who Jesus is and what He has done. No matter what yo…

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127. How does irritability, anger, and keeping score impact your marriage? 52:51

12M ago52:51

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Irritability, unmet expectations, and failures have a HUGE impact on marriage. Work hard to recognize what physical, spiritual, and emotional factors contribute to both your own, and your spouse's stress and irritability. Learn to ask questions and to meet them where they are at, such as are you looking for assurance, understanding, or a solution? …

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126. Pride Destroys - A unique look at how this creeps in and hurts you and your marriage. 50:00

12M ago50:00

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Love does not boast, it is not proud. 1st Corinthians 13:4-7 describes how we are called to love, not just in our marriage, but in our lives. Psychology today says, "We tend to think of people who boast as arrogant, self-preoccupied, or, perhaps, insecure, which may be why they need to boast in the first place. Pride, on the other hand, is generall…

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125. Envy-The Silent Killer in Marriage 51:24

1y ago51:24

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Do you envy your spouse? Is this leading to unsaid, unmet, or unrealistic expectations that can bring about dicontentment and bitterness? Envy in relationships is a killer! It kills joy and peace. It doesn’t call you or your spouse to what can be, but holds you both captive. We found in our own marriage that this has crept up more than we could hav…

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124. Sex Ed Reclaimed With Kristen Miele - How to take back this topic with your family 47:53

1y ago47:53

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We loved this conversation! Our culture has taken hold of this topic in our families for too long. WE HAVE TO TAKE IT BACK. It is time for every parent, and every spouse, to start having the uncomfortable conversations so that we can stand in truth and see sex as God designed it to be...which is beautiful! Kristen Miele has been educating youth on …

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123. Love is Kind...Does What You Think, What You Say, and How You Act Help Your Marriage? 52:51

1y ago52:51

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Kindness is an embodiment of selflessness, care, and compassion. It mirrors Jesus, who, out of overwhelming love, sacrificed His life for us, taking on our punishment. Does your life reflect this? Romans 2:4 "Or do you show contempt for the riches of his kindness, forbearance and patience, not realizing that God’s kindness is intended to lead you t…

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122. Love is Patient...What does this look like in your marriage, with your kids, and in your faith? 48:18

1y ago48:18

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"Patience in the Bible is the ability to endure difficult people and situations without giving into anger or giving up hope. Because God continues to show us patience when we are doing disappointing things, we can show others patience when they disappoint us." renew.org The reality is that we desire for others to be patient with us, we want God to …

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121. AHA MOMENT - Are you missing one of these key components: Awakening, Honesty, Action? 54:18

1y ago54:18

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After reading this devotional by Kyle Idleman, we began to contemplate these factors, and how they play into the transformation in our lives, and in the lives of those we have worked with over the years. We found the principles to be unequivocally true. So often we see couples missing one of these key pieces, and failing to see true transformation …

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120. Learning to Trust God with ALL OF IT - Interview with Rich & Suzanne Funk 1:04:42

1y ago1:04:42

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On today's episode, learn what it means to entrust your vision into God's hands, truly surrender the things you have held so tightly to, and place it into God's hands. This process of surrender is exactly what Rich & Suzanne navigated through with their marriage, family, and business. Hear how they almost lost it all and the lessons Jesus taught th…

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119. Husbands - Don't Do These Things 56:37

1y ago56:37

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There are so many things that stand as obstacles in the way of two people experiencing a marriage as God designed. On this episode, we discuss the drawbacks and consequences of what anger, pride, lust, selfishness, lack of accountability, and leading out of your own strength can do to a marriage. Read these scriptures and we challenge you to addres…

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118. Two Words That Have the Power to Make or Break Your Life 44:59

1y ago44:59

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What are you saying yes to? What are you saying no to? You might not be thinking about all the micro decisions you are making or how your actions reflect what is in your mind, but we would encourage you to start. THIS CAN CHANGE EVERYTHING, for both the good and the bad. Pay attention. Look at what your actions are saying about you and KNOW what it…

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117. Emotional Affairs- How they start, what they lead to, and the damage they do 51:49

1y ago51:49

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We dive into emotional affairs, their impact, what leads to them, and discuss guardrails to implement so this doesn't become your battle! If it is your story, we want you to know that there is HOPE! God is a redeemer, and if you have two people willing to do the work, genuine repentance, and lots of JESUS...ALL things are possible! As always, we wo…

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116. Learning to Fight for Your Marriage and Family 50:00

1y ago50:00

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We discuss both the truth and the myths that exist when it comes to generational impact on our lives. Don't excuse your behavior because of how you were raised, and don't ignore what you need to do to impact your legacy today. Choose to equip your kids for what they will face in the future and develop their character by living out genuine faith in …

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115. Find it, Fix It, Move Forward - Stop Overthinking! 57:28

1y ago57:28

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We are so happy to be back for Season 7! On today's episode we dive into where we see so many people get inadvertently stuck in their lives and in their marriage. Don't allow what once was stop you from stepping into what can be! Don't overanalyze aspects of your life so much that you stay circling the drain and stuck in an unending cycle. You can'…

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114. Steps to Better Sex - What does true intimacy look like and how can you have it in your marriage? 56:34

1+ y ago56:34

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Better Sex - who doesn't want to be able to say they have this in their marriage. Typically, however, this is an area that is ignored until there is a problem or a person becomes entirely self -focused, instead of spouse focused. Couples need to learn to meet in the middle, to grow with one another, communicate with one another, and not take each o…

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113. Passive Husband/Passive Wife - What does this look like and what can it lead to in your marriage? 57:13

1+ y ago57:13

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Oxford dictionary defines passive as "accepting or allowing what happens or what others do, without active response or resistance."Is this your life?Is this your marriage? Why do we have a culture where this is so prevalent in marriages, and why is it silently killing so many? On this episode we dive into all of it. John Eldredge says in his book W…

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112. Love Lets Go - Letting your spouse experience getting to the end of themselves 51:19

1+ y ago51:19

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Sometimes we think that letting someone experience the consequences of their actions is not demonstrating love. In reality, this is often the most loving thing we can do. Boundaries are healthy and necessary to operate within God's design. When one operates outside of this reality we see so many people not stand for truth, settle for half way heali…

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111. Increasing and Protecting Your Emotional Capacity 54:11

1+ y ago54:11

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Capacity Definition - "The maximum amount that something can contain." Capacity has a great level of influence over every area, and it's important to recognize what depletes capacity in us individually, and also how we can increase capacity in our lives. The reality is that there may be seasons where you need to learn to say no to friendships, exte…

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110. The Waiting Place - What does God have for you here? 48:59

1+ y ago48:59

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We often get questions about this season of life. This is a time when you are having to wait for something or someone, when things aren't going right, or you are just waiting for the fruition of something God has promised you. You may wonder how long you should wait, when you should stop waiting, and what is required of you while you are in this se…

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109. Why Wasn't I Enough - How to navigate the tough questions and move towards healing 52:47

1+ y ago52:47

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Often we hear the questions of "why" and "why wasn't I enough, or "why didn't you choose me," when someone is walking through reconciliation. The answers to these questions can leave a couple in a circular phase of healing where neither one feels like they can win or move forward. We walk through some of the common setbacks and give some actionable…

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108. What Does a Dangerous Marriage Look Like? 54:55

1+ y ago54:55

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Is your marriage dangerous? The truth is, loving someone always involves an element of risk because your spouse has the ability to hurt you more than anyone else, and when you allow yourself to be vulnerable, and have true intimacy, it involves danger. But that danger is worth it! And we want to challenge you to start thinking of a dangerous marria…

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107. Staying Relevant - What does that look like in your faith, marriage, and parenting 45:22

1+ y ago45:22

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If you want to stay relevant in your life, you need to constantly seek knowledge. Are you being a willing student in your life? Do you seek to know more about your spouse, your kids, and most of all...in your faith? Staying relevant doesn't mean shifting your foundation, but WHEN YOU STAY RELEVANT YOU STAY RELATABLE. You allow God to reveal what ne…

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106. Maintenance in Marriage - What does it look like to invest and thrive, not just survive? 52:21

1+ y ago52:21

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On today's episode we give some practical advice on what maintenance in your marriage looks like, not to be confused with maintain! Often we don't recognize that the daily intentional acts we do, or don't do, in marriage leads us somewhere. We challenge each person to ask themselves, "What is one thing I can do love my spouse better today?" We also…

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105. Betrayal to Redemption - How to walk the path of recovery with Travis & Adelle 51:19

1+ y ago51:19

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We love sharing resources that will help your marriage and your healing! On this episode we have Travis & Adelle, who are YouTubers, speakers, authors, content creators, and coaches, share their story. They are inspiring marriages globally who are walking through infidelity & betrayal, to learn a healthy way of healing, through foundational truths …

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104. Triggers, Troubles, & Thoughts - What do we do when everything is NOT alright 58:44

1+ y ago58:44

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We try and share as openly on possible with every topic, and today's episode is no different. Join us as we discuss disciplines we have developed to help us handle triggers, our thought life, and we even discuss some current struggles we are navigating through. We challenge you to memorize 2nd Corinthians 10:3-5 and learn to fight temptation as Jes…

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