Self improvement can be a challenging process. Subscribe to the Kain Ramsay: Life Balance Coaching Podcast now available on iTunes. In this exciting and innovative podcast, I share many of the most impacting insights and principles I’ve learned about some of today’s most relevant topics that influence your life on a daily basis. This weekly audio program will provide you with the most insightful and effective life principles I have learned, for transforming your thought life, and for allowin ...
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Life's Greatest Risk: Just Be Yourself Part 4
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“Waking up to who you actually are (Self Concept) requires you to begin letting go of whoever it is that you imagine yourself to be (Self Esteem).” I’ve heard the statement “just be yourself” so many times throughout my life. It sounds like such an amazingly simple thing to do, but in all honestly, it's taken me YEARS to be able to fully understand…
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Life's Greatest Risk: Just Be Yourself Part 3
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How often do you not say or do something because you're worried about how it'll be perceived? For most of us, myself included, this happens more often then we'd like to admit. We live in a culture that is starving for authenticity. We want our leaders, our co-workers, our family members, our friends, and everyone else we interact with to tell us th…
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Life's Greatest Risk: Just Be Yourself Part 2
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If you don’t believe it yourself, don’t ask anyone else to do so! It is virtually impossible not to transmit your doubts and insecurities to others through body language, tone of voice, inflection, word choice, and other subtle characteristics. When you show by your actions that you lack self-confidence, other people also begin to doubt your abilit…
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Life's Greatest Risk: Just Be Yourself Part 1
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Don’t look to the stars for the cause of your misfortunes: look to yourself to get better results. There are many things you cannot control, but you can control the only things that really matter: your mind and your attitude. External forces have very little to do with success. Those who program themselves for success find a way to succeed even in …
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How to become an Emotional Time traveller
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Human beings possess the unique ability to engage in emotional time travel, mentally fast forwarding through time to envision how they will feel in future situations. Emotional time travel is not without its pitfalls. At the most obvious level, people may make inaccurate predictions about how they will feel in a situation because the situation unfo…
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For many people, emotions can be an inconsistent daily NIGHTMARE that we often just don’t know what to do with or how to handle. So we turn to the only strategies we do know. If you’re a man, you might distract yourself by playing video games, building something new or even by going to the pub or the gym, and if you’re a woman, you might head to th…
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Self Esteem V's Self Concept (How to make true Progress in life)
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Your self concept (or self image) is the sum total of all the knowledge and information that you currently have about yourself - it's the person you know you can be, could be, ought to be and want to be. It includes things like your gender, name, personality, physical appearance, race, likes and dislikes, beliefs, values, social history, nationalit…
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Every day of our lives, we are being constantly programmed (taught, influenced, impacted and conditioned) by the world alongside everyone and everything that lives in it. Our beliefs are always being moulded and manipulated (for better or for worse) by other people in their attempts to have us ‘join their team’ without us even being aware of it. Mo…
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Would you like to experience a deeper clarity of who you are and peace and freedom for within, even in the midst of what may be highly challenging circumstances? The Inside Out Revolution offers an understanding of how life works in a way that turns more traditional forms of psychology on its head. This revolutionary approach explains where our fee…
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Is there anyone occupying a space in your head that they haven’t paid any rent for? If your peace of mind and your achievements in life are dependent upon someone else’s actions, that person is in complete control of you and you have freely given them your power. The same principle applies to our expectations of money, materialistic possessions and…
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One way to grasp an understanding of how we are made is to be able to recognise that there are three parts of us, which are all perfectly interconnected. Firstly, we have a material part, which prevents our blood, bones and organs from simply becoming a pile of ‘mush’ on the floor, we call this our Body. However we also have two immaterial parts, w…
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Locus of Control - n/a when there's sharks about!
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The Internal Vs. External Locus Of Control People who base their success in life upon their own efforts and believe that they are in complete control of their life outcomes have what we would call an internal locus of control. You might be able to recognize someone with an internal locus of control through his or her relentlessly stubborn and highl…
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How NOT to adopt a false sense of security!
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Whether you believe that your self confidence and trust is broken by a loved one having an affair, a destructive addiction, or the departure of someone’s interest in you, it requires a radical shift in your worldview to get things back on track. Emotionally adjusting takes time and energy, but is worth it as it builds maturity and a commitment to b…
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Many people in the world today live out their lives making their daily decisions based upon the decisions they made about themselves years ago. We develop core unconscious beliefs about ourselves as children; it’s in our childhood we determine our self-worth and value, our beliefs about who we are and what defines us – ‘the Glass Ceiling’ as it wer…
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Here's a modern adaptation of a very old story .... And so, a conversation between two of the worlds greatest philosophers, Socrates and Glaucon went something like this .... Socrates: "Why do people think that Personal Development is meaningless? Let me put it this way - imagine you're in a cave, all chained up so you can't turn your body at all, …
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FACTS, FAITH or FEELINGS ... What are the foundations of YOUR life? These three things are absolutely vital in determining the quality of our lives. It’s hugely important that we know something about each of them, but it is even more important that we get them in the right order and keep them there. Most people will generally put their feelings fir…
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“Give me six hours to chop down a tree and I will spend the first four sharpening the axe.” - Abraham Lincoln The lumberjack story is has been made popular by a reference to it in Stephen Covey’s 7 Habits due to the messages it carries with it. Like many stories this story has a specific meaning, the version I tell in this video carries a key messa…
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If you were to begin to define yourself differently, in a way that’s more empowering and accurate for who you are today, how would you describe who you’ve become? If you're unsure of how to even begin answering this question, the video should be able to offer you a few suggestions as to how you can begin doing this today!…
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TRUISM: Its tough to enjoy life when you’re not particularly confident in who it is that you are! People who haven't learned to accept and get along with themselves tend to have more difficulty accepting and getting along with others. I personally spent years having a hard time getting along with people, until I eventually grew to realize how the d…
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There are two sides of risks. Before Risk (where we find security and safety), and after Risk (where we find a sense of achievement, excitement and freedom). On the before side of Risk, you will experience: * fear * trepidation * hesitation * anxiety * doubt * sweaty palms * excuses * research and analysis, followed by more research and analysis (a…
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Some of the world’s greatest architects might suggest that the greatest prisons are those that have been built of cast Iron, reinforcement and concrete. However, I’m going to suggest that the most enslaving prison man can be kept in — is the prison of his own mind, the prison of his beliefs, the limitations of his thinking, and the nature of his ow…
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Many people in the world of business and in life choose to ignore the value and importance of personal authenticity. Companies will invest hundreds of thousands of dollars, even millions, to portray themselves as creative and as glamorous to consumers and on an individual basis, millions of people all around the world will attempt to portray themse…
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In order to act, you must have a purpose. If you want to act successfully in all but the most mundane affairs, you must embrace that purpose with a burning desire. Many people think they want to be successful, but since they do not back that thought with an intense drive, they never achieve success. Cultivate your desire. Feed it with thoughts of y…
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The thing about kids is that they often don't develop their fears and insecurities until they've been TAUGHT how by their 'often' insecure parents. Sure, some of the kids already have more natural ability than others, but from between the years of birth to around about 6 - 7 years of age, everyone is at the same starting line. It is only as we get …
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(Snippet taken from an article written by Lynn Hirschberg for Vanity Fair magazine in 1991) In 1990, Forbes estimated Madonna's pre-tax income to be $39 million (and her earnings since 1991 at $125 million); her Blond Ambition tour sold out in twenty – seven cities; her concert on HBO was the highest-rated non-sports event ever on that network; and…
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Perhaps the most powerful influences in your relationships, on your attitude and in your personality is what you say and believe about yourself in private. It is not what happens to you in life that’s important, but how you respond internally to the situation you find yourself in and what happens to you, that determine your thoughts and feelings, m…
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Here is one of my favourite inspirational tales and I hope you find it insightful: It wasn't long after the Gods had created humankind that they very soon realised that they had made a huge mistake. The creatures that they had created were so adept, so skilful, so full of curiosity and the spirit of enquiry that it was only a matter of time before …
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We all think that we'd know confidence if we saw it ... right? Isn't it what the person who speaks first and longest at the office meeting has? Isn't it what your friend who always seems so sure of their opinions has? Despite common cultural beliefs and opinions, Confidence isn’t about throwing your weight around or talking over people or always be…
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Practice doesn't make perfect - but it does make Permanent!
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Confidence is one of those rare commodities that successful people seem to have in spades, but then there are people who are very low in self-belief and who struggle to get anywhere in life. As I considered how to get more confidence and better results, I wondered to myself, “What comes first?” Do you need confidence to get results? Or do you feel …
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Introduction to the ULTIMATE Confidence Building Programme
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The ULTIMATE Confidence Coaching Program has been specifically designed in view of empowering you to maximise your personal confidence, transform the quality of your relationships, enhancing your communication skills with others and increase your Self-Esteem by giving you deep insights into who you truly are. This High Impact Coaching program will …
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For 'Singles' who don't wanna' to be 'Single' no more
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The single life can be either be one of liberation, excitement and creativeness - or one of desperation, anxiety and full of fear of being 'left on the shelf'. In this closing and penultimate podcast of the Relationship Coaching series I've been doing, I've focussed primarily on the singles by offering a message of hope and challenge for moving for…
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The penultimate principle for Building Relationships that last ... or is it?
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Over the last few months I have released these podcasts, centred around the theme of Relationships, how to get the most from them, how to enhance them, and how to build them based upon foundations that will outlast the test of time. This may be the last in this series, although it also may not be - I might have one FINAL bonus audio for you next we…
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If you decided that you wanted to go back to education and train to become a pilot, would you expect to have a few years of hard work to do? It's highly probable that you would, and I'm also presuming that you know it would take at least 5 years of commitment and dedication to achieve these qualifications and reach the level of skill necessary for …
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This is a practical exercise which gives you an opportunity to consider and apply some of the key principles and stories I've shared throughout this Ultimate Relationship Coaching Programme. It would be great to get your feedback on the changes you intend to make and also about your overall thoughts on the entire programme. I'll look forward to hea…
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How to Build Relationships of greater depth & meaning
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Some of the biggest challenges we can face in our relationships stem from the fact that many people enter into a relationship motivated by what they can get and attempting to find someone who’s going to make them feel good. In reality, the only way a relationship will last is if you see your relationship as a place that you go to give, and not a pl…
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A strong and healthy relationship can be one of the most effective supports in your life. Good relationships improve all aspects of your life, strengthening your health, your mind, and your connections with others. However, if the relationship isn't working, it can also be a tremendous drain. Relationships are an investment. The more you put in, th…
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How to stop 'Self Sabotaging' relationships
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Have you ever found yourself self sabotaging a relationship? And have you ever thought for a moment as to why you would even do this? One of the things that may help you to recognise self-sabotaging behaviour is to recognise that you are actually trying to protect yourself rather than sabotage yourself. We all have a survival part that is programme…
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The core beliefs of many religious groups alongside many of the world's greatest writings and literary works are based upon the ongoing struggle between good and evil that happens inside every one of us and is as old as mankind itself. Yet, while we're generally fully aware of our own personal inner struggles, we can be very quick to condemn others…
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'One day you'll find the right person at the right time and place, then wonder why it took you so long to find the right companion when they've been there all along.' Sometimes as you journey through life you can meet the right person at the wrong time for you, and other-times you'll meet the wrong person at a right time. The trick of life is being…
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“Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.” C Jung Relationships are the 'Cornerstone' of life and no matter what we say or think about them, we all need and crave them. It's not those superficial or meaningless relationships we crave, but the ones of meaning and depth in which we are able to be free an…
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Some relationships flourish, some survive in name alone and some will completely fall apart. In our current Western culture, relationships are often seen to be successful if partners stay together, whereas those relationships that break down are considered failures. This is despite the fact that many so-called successful relationships continue even…
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Sometimes it can feel like a distance or a void is growing in what may have once been a good relationship or friendship. In this video I have attempted to explain what this void is, where it comes from and how growing apart from some people can merely be 'Just a part of Life'. 'The quality of your life is the quality of your relationships.' Each of…
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A new perspective for relationships part 3
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Relationship forms the core of our experience as humans. We define ourselves and are defined by the nature of our relating. There is a universal concept called “interdependence” which would suggest that nothing exists independently. Everything exists interdependently. In applying this concept to relationship, we do not and cannot exist independentl…
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A new perspective for relationships part 2
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To "put things in perspective" means to see them from an objective viewpoint (or one that is generally different from your own and not based upon your emotions). For example: A young person may be emotionally devastated by a breakup with a boyfriend or girlfriend. The best way for that person to get over the hurt, is to see the relationship from th…
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A New perspective for relationships part 1
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Your perspective is the way you see something. If for example you believe that toys corrupt children's minds, then from your perspective, a toy shop will be an evil place! Perspective has a Latin root meaning "look through" or "perceive," and all the meanings of perspective have something to do with looking. If you observe the world from a dog's pe…
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This Lecture incorporates a story of 'Margaret's Bird', which tells about a bird who chose to value the security of his cage over freedom in the context of his very own life. Although security is most people's first choice in life, it may not be the option that provides us with the outcomes we truly want! A common problem that many of us face in li…
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Your most important relationship, is the one you have with YOURSELF.
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Your time is here on Earth is limited, so don't waste it by trying to be someone that you're not. It's true that if we don't know who we are in life, we'll never fully know how to effectively act, behave or build the depth of healthy and authentic relationships that we long for. The root cause of many of the challenging emotions we face in life thr…
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Episode 31: CHOOSE LIFE (an inspirational rant)
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Choose Life, Choose a job, Choose some mixed up priorities, Choose to conform to the rules of others, Choose to not speak up, Choose to pay high interest rates the bankers, Choose to conform, Choose Choice, choose some new toothpaste even ...... Choose Life! In free Life Balance Coaching podcast I've tried to share with you in a slightly different …
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Episode 30: YOU'RE your life's BIGGEST problem!
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So shoot me for what I'm about to say, but unfortunately for many it's true. Isn't blaming other people, our parents, the boss, society, the Church, circumstances or God!!! for the emotional challenges we face and experience throughout life a cop out! It's absolutely true that we have absolutely NO control over the things that happen to us in life,…
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Episode 29: Going BEYOND the New Year's Resolutions
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The start of each year in the time where we contemplate change, doing new things, we dream dreams and develop hopes and plans for what the year will bring. New years resolutions are the means by which many of us make some degree of commitment to making change, things we'd like to alter and things we'd like to resolve - however, could many of us be …
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