Best Krista Van Derveer And Dr Will Van Derveer Podcasts (2024)

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84. Standing For The Kind Of Love You Want 21:56

18h ago21:56

21:56

Within our web of vows that help us maintain what we believe is possible in our relationship, gambling everything for the love we want is at the center. In this episode, we unpack what that means for us and how we work to bring forth every aspect of ourselves, even in challenging or uncomfortable conversations. Unless we take a real stand for the k…

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83. Why You Shouldn’t Love Your Partner Exactly The Way They Are 24:03

6h ago24:03

24:03

Dr. Will and Krista Van Derveer discuss why loving a partner exactly the way they are may not be compatible with growth and support in a relationship. They argue that unconditional love can become a cop-out for not truly supporting one another to step into their greatest potential, and that growth as a couple requires the willingness to acknowledge…

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82. Questions From Oprah – Candid Q&A For Couples 29:15

22h ago29:15

29:15

Join us as we explore Oprah's '110 Relationship-Boosting Questions for Couples,' asking each other spontaneous questions that not only led to unexpected insights for us as a couple but also highlighted areas where we need to gain deeper clarity in our intimate partnership. We get into topics such as: Is there such a thing as a “harmless” lie? How o…

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81. Healing After Heartbreaks & Betrayals with Sara Avant Stover 52:35

4h ago52:35

52:35

Today we have a special guest to talk about navigating the turbulent waters of heartbreak & betrayals, & the power of grief as a portal for healing & transformation. Sara Avant Stover just came out with her third book “Handbook for the Heartbroken.” We talk about her very personal & vulnerable journey from devastation to rebirth. This conversation …

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80. When Couples Can’t Stop Arguing 32:04

1M ago32:04

32:04

Do you ever get stuck arguing a TON? Or “processing” issues all the time as a couple? If so, this episode is for you! Listen in for strategies to break the cycle of conflict, hear Krista and Will’s personal experiences, and learn practical tools and techniques to disrupt the arguing and to foster better communication and understanding. [0:00] - Con…

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79. Duplicitous Lives? Our Take on “Dr. Death” & Andrew Huberman - Pt 2 22:20

1M ago22:20

22:20

In Part 2/2 of this series, we dive into the shadows cast by public figures accused of leading double lives, including the likes of "Dr. Death" Paulo Macchiarini and podcaster Andrew Huberman. This episode unpacks the intricate dance of deceit and the personal ramifications of their alleged duplicity. In this episode, we explore: Our immediate reac…

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78. Duplicitous Lives? Our Take on “Dr. Death” & Andrew Huberman - Pt 1 24:06

2M ago24:06

24:06

Inspired by people publicly accused of living duplicitous lives, such as "Dr. Death" Paulo Macchiarini, podcaster Andrew Huberman, & Bill Clinton, we dive into the complex dynamics of individuals who excel in their public personas but struggle with personal integrity in their private lives, specifically in intimate partnership. We share our persona…

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77. Sleep In Separate Bedrooms? 25:36

2M ago25:36

25:36

To sleep or not to sleep together? Celebrity couples like Cameron Diaz, and supposedly the Beckhams, are coming out about sleeping in separate bedrooms. On this episode of “The Art of We” we share our take on the benefits and drawbacks of both scenarios, and address the narrative that there’s something wrong in the relationship if couples are sleep…

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76. A "We" Definition That's A Relationship Game Changer 26:32

2M ago26:32

26:32

This definition of the “We” elevates partnership beyond the conventional. Listen in to hear a conversation between us, Krista and Dr. Will, that frames how we view our relationship such that we more quickly can make decisions, work as a team, and operate at higher levels of functioning. In episode 76 we revisit a fundamental concept of “The Art Of …

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75. Example Of Us Working Through Conflict (In Real Time) 27:37

2M ago27:37

27:37

In this episode, Dr. Will and Krista Van Derveer work through a challenge in real-time, sharing a raw and unscripted exploration of navigating work-from-home challenges. Without the safety net of rehearsals or preparations, listeners are granted an intimate glimpse into the dynamics of how they work through conflict while standing for both individu…

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74. Addressing Passive-Aggressive Comments 27:30

3M ago27:30

27:30

Addressing passive-aggressive comments like a ninja is highly satisfying. It can stop the aggressor in their shoes and wake them up to the impact they’re having. Most passive aggressive comments are simply unskilled communications of negative feelings. By directly and neutrally addressing passive aggressiveness, we can support each other to grow as…

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73. The Crucial Role of Your Relationship in Achieving Personal Success 25:22

3M ago25:22

25:22

In episode 73 of "The Art of We" podcast, hosts Krista and Dr. Will Van Derveer explore the concept that when individuals are genuinely supported within their partnerships, they unlock a unique level of potential that can be a pivotal foundation for personal growth and achieving one's greatest successes, and that transcends an individual’s mere hig…

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72. Conscious Relationship Endings 33:39

3M ago33:39

33:39

In episode 72 of the Art of We podcast, Dr. Will and Krista Van Derveer explore the value of conscious relationship endings, offering a transformative perspective on closure. This conversation not only equips listeners with strategies for achieving closure but also highlights the significance of embracing endings as a gateway to greater alignment w…

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71. Navigating An Introvert-Extrovert Partnership 28:48

3M ago28:48

28:48

In episode 71 of The Art of We podcast, Dr. Will and Krista Van Derveer share the challenges they encounter in their partnership with one person being an introvert and one being an extrovert. The differences in social needs can be a source of hardship when left unaddressed, however when there’s deeper understanding and collaboration, these differen…

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70. Relational Trauma From Past Relationships 22:56

3M ago22:56

22:56

In episode 70 of the Art of We podcast, Dr. Will and Krista Van Derveer dive into the nuanced world of relational trauma, exploring how past traumas from previous relationships can manifest and affect current relationships. This episode offers deep insights into the nature of relational trauma, the impact of unhealed scars on one's sense of self, a…

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69. Codependency Vs Interdependency 30:24

4M ago30:24

30:24

In episode 69 of the Art of We podcast, hosts Krista and Dr. Will Van Derveer focus on the critical distinctions between codependency and interdependency. The conversation highlights how codependency often stems from good intentions but leads to disempowerment and stuckness within relationships, especially when one partner enables the other. By con…

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68. Fights About Driving Styles 29:49

4M ago29:49

29:49

In episode 68 of the Art of We podcast, hosts Krista and Dr. Will Van Derveer explore the complexities of driving together as a couple, a topic that brings challenges for many couples. They share their own personal challenges together, including how driving styles and passenger experiences can reveal deeper dynamics in relationships, highlighting t…

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67. Relationship Values vs Agreements 17:27

4M ago17:27

17:27

In episode 67 of "The Art of We" podcast, hosts Krista and Dr. Will Van Derveer address a listener’s question about the difference between values and agreements in relationships. The hosts get into defining how values are used in different ways, and how to “operationalize” the values by turning them into agreements so they can actively live inside …

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66. When A Partner Doesn't Keep Their Agreements 24:47

4M ago24:47

24:47

In "The Art of We" Episode 66, hosts Dr. Will Van Derveer and Krista Van Derveer take a deep dive into the essence of relationship agreements. Building on the momentum from Episode 65, this discussion explores how couples can effectively create, sustain, and evolve their agreements, and specifically what happens when you make the agreements but the…

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65. How To Create Your Own Relationship Agreements (For Intimate Partnerships) 33:32

5M ago33:32

33:32

In episode 65 of "The Art of the Podcast," hosts Dr. Will Van Derveer and Krista Van Derveer share how to form relationship agreements in intimate partnerships, and the extraordinary kind of partnership that becomes possible when we move away from assumptions of how each other will behave and into mutually aligned agreements about how we do relatio…

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64. Getting Real With Jayson Gaddis + Ellen Boeder 47:18

5M ago47:18

47:18

In episode 64 of "The Art of We" podcast, hosts Dr. Will Van Derveer and Krista Van Derveer explore the intricate dynamics of conscious adult partnership with their dear friends and relationship experts Jayson Gaddis and Ellen Boeder. This deeply personal episode is a dialogue about viewing relationships as a growth path and the nuanced complexitie…

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63. Setting A New Year “Partnership Theme” 19:03

5M ago19:03

19:03

In episode 63 of “The Art of We Podcast”, hosts Krista and Dr. Will Van Derveer invite listeners to set a theme for their partnership this new year. Their second year creating a theme, they share the power behind a mutually agreed upon, fully aligned, “North Star” that’s different than goal setting but that sets the stage for the quality of life th…

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62. Our “We” Goal Setting Process For The New Year 24:51

5M ago24:51

24:51

Welcome to Episode 62 of "The Art of We" Podcast – a special episode marking the completion of our commitment to a full year of weekly episodes in 2023. In this episode we share how we will be reviewing this past year and our new and unique way of setting “We” Goals for this coming year. We introduce how we are tweaking our annual review process, w…

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61. How To Love Your Partner Through The Holiday Season 31:12

6M ago31:12

31:12

Welcome to Episode 61 of The Art of the Podcast! In this second-to-last episode of the year, Krista and Will delve into practical practices that can provide support to our partners during family gatherings and social events, especially during the darker time of the year. Released on the solstice, this episode aims to bring more light into your rela…

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60. Purpose + Purposeful Action 21:25

6M ago21:25

21:25

In this podcast episode, Dr. Will Van Derveer and Krista Van Derveer engage in a thoughtful discussion on the topics of purpose and purposeful action. Driven by their experiences, they highlight the energetic difference between purposeful action, where one consciously moves toward significant goals, and non-purposeful action, characterized by a sen…

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59. Gambling Everything For Love (Marriage Vow) 28:10

6M ago28:10

28:10

In Episode 59 of The Art of We Podcast, hosts Dr. Will and Krista Van Derveer delve into the theme of "Gambling Everything for Love." In this podcast episode, the hosts explore how this commitment (which they turned into a wedding vow) represents the fullest expression of limitless possibilities in a relationship. By risking old survival strategies…

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58. Supporting Each Other’s Greatest Expression (Marriage Vow) 29:30

6M ago29:30

29:30

In Episode 58 of the Art of We podcast, Dr. Will and Krista Van Derveer delve into another foundational agreement turned vow in their relationship. Join them as they explore the nuances of supporting each other's greatest expression and the pivotal role it plays in their partnership. The hosts share personal experiences, emphasizing the necessity o…

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57. Facing Loneliness This Time Of Year 28:25

6M ago28:25

28:25

In episode 57 of the "Art of We" podcast, hosts Krista and Dr. Will Van Derveer discuss the epidemic of loneliness and isolation, particularly during the darker and colder days of the year. They emphasize the importance of normalizing these feelings and acknowledge that even individuals in strong partnerships or with supportive communities often ex…

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56. WeOS: Optimizing Relationships At Work 23:59

7M ago23:59

23:59

In episode 56 of the "Art of We" podcast, hosts Krista and Dr. Will Van Derveer delve into the intricate relationship between personal and professional growth and what can be possible inside professional relationships that have varying hierarchical structures or power dynamics. They revisit Stan Taktin’s concept of "secure functioning" and introduc…

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55. Will’s “Me to We” Transition As A Business Leader 28:29

7M ago28:29

28:29

In this episode of "The Art of We," Dr. Will Van Derveer and Krista Van Derveer delve into the fascinating journey of transitioning from a "me-first" mindset to a "we-focused" perspective in both personal and professional leadership. Dr. Will shares his evolution from a solo psychiatrist to a leader in a large organization, highlighting the challen…

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54. Why You Need Relationship Agreements At Home + At Work 15:06

7M ago15:06

15:06

Welcome to Episode 54 of "The Art of We" podcast. In this episode, we explore two essential aspects why agreements are vital for the success of relationships, both at home and in the workplace. Too often, we only focus on what we need to “do” to accomplish our goals, rather than understanding the security of our relationships is an essential part t…

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53. Choosing The Right Business Partner 31:53

7M ago31:53

31:53

In episode 53, Dr. Will Van Derveer and Krista Van Derveer dive deep into the complexities of selecting the right business partner. They embark on a journey through the early stages of forming a business partnership or co-founder relationship, offering valuable insights and wisdom that go beyond conventional advice found online. The episode begins …

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52. Why You Want A "Secure Functioning" Business Partnership 26:39

8M ago26:39

26:39

In Episode 52 of "The Art of We Podcast," Krista and Dr. Will Van Derveer delve into the vital concept of secure functioning within the realm of business partnerships. Listen in to explore how secure functioning applies not only to personal relationships but also to the world of business. The key assertion is that the health, security and success o…

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51. Secure Attachment vs Secure Functioning In Partnerships 19:45

8M ago19:45

19:45

Welcome to The Art of We podcast, Episode 51, where we delve into the intricacies of adult relationships, exploring the concept of attachment styles and adult functioning. Dr. Will Van Derveer and Krista Van Derveer, your hosts, embark on a journey to clarify these terms and provide valuable insights to help you navigate your relationships. Attachm…

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50. When Partners Have Different Approaches To Aging 29:37

8M ago29:37

29:37

Welcome to episode 50! In line with Krista turning 50 next year, we are exploring divergent perspectives around big life experiences, such as aging, and the importance of these conversations in order to stay deeply connected and aligned as a couple. Using Peter Attia’s work to guide our exploration of health, we share the conscious and subconscious…

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49. Staying Connected While Apart 19:16

8M ago19:16

19:16

Something that we continue to learn about trips spent away from the other partner is how to stay connected and improve transitions. In line with this episode, Krista is hosting solo (while Will is traveling) and explores what she and Will are learning about each other when time is spent apart, and how to really care for each other when they come ba…

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48. Harnessing The Gifts Of Loss + Death 26:08

9M ago26:08

26:08

Trigger Warning: Discussion of death at 5:41–8:09 This is a special edition podcast episode: Eight years ago — on the exact day we recorded this episode — Krista’s previous partner to Will suddenly died. While we tend to think about loss and grief as negative experiences, we don’t always think about the richness or gifts that can be relieved throug…

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47. When One Partner Has Low Grade Depression 36:16

9M ago36:16

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When one partner shows signs of low grade depression, it can sometimes be hard to know how to effectively provide support. If left unaddressed, not only is there an “elephant in the room” but it also can leave unintended negative impacts on the relationship. Often, depression can be viewed as a “problem” that’s usually left up to the person who is …

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46. This Simple Shift Expands Our Access To Pleasure 31:34

9M ago31:34

31:34

Getting external support helps to take our connection and intimacy to the next level. In this episode, we recap our session with Somatic Sex Educator and Certified Sexological Bodyworker, Alyssa Morin. We share why we decided to book a session with Alyssa and disclose a key takeaway that’s created a big positive shift in our physical connection. We…

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45. Sexologial Bodywork + Somatic Sex Education (with Alyssa Morin) 46:55

9M ago46:55

46:55

Somatic Sex Educator and Certified Sexological Bodyworker Alyssa Morin joins us on this episode to explore cutting edge frameworks for improving intimacy and connection. Alyssa outlines practices to facilitate healing and get into deeper contact with what feels good. Plus, we look at how this branch of “parts work” can positively impact other areas…

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44. When To Seek Couple's Therapy 28:22

10M ago28:22

28:22

Our commitment to seeking external support for our marriage is rooted in our vow to lean on our community when we need it. We understand the challenge of deciding when to address issues within the relationship versus when it’s time to look for professional assistance. In today’s episode, we discuss the three types of external support we’ve used tha…

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43. How & Why We Take Solo Time 23:18

10M ago23:18

23:18

Deliberate self connection in the service of partnership is a practice that deeply serves our relationship. When we commit taking time to ourselves we can do the inner work of discovering what’s inside us at deeper levels. When we are in more touch ourselves below the surface layers, we can share ourselves more fully with our partners, creating a c…

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42. When One Partner Has An Exit Route 23:11

10M ago23:11

23:11

In a relationship, one partner may have an exit route, an external or internal dialogue that creates a one-sided connection. In our past relationships, backdoor exits were unilateral and not navigated together — instead, insecurity, blaming, and a dysregulated nervous system led the way. Everyone’s situation is different, but for us, making the cho…

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41. When To Have Difficult Conversations With Your Family Of Origin 26:49

10M ago26:49

26:49

For some of us, deciding when to address unresolved issues with our family of origin can be confusing. Many people choose not to directly address issues so as to not stir the pot. Other people go as far as doing family therapy as adults with their aging parents and other family members. For us, we find it helpful to get clear about the purpose or w…

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40. How To Start A Conversation About Negative Impact 15:59

10M ago15:59

15:59

To have deeply fulfilling relationships requires that we bring our A-game when it comes to being sensitive to how we impact each other and to bring care when we negatively impact one another. If we are not conscious enough to recognize when we’re having unintended negative impacts on other people or we are not self-aware enough to acknowledge when …

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39. A Curiosity Practice That Transforms Partners 30:47

11M ago30:47

30:47

We believe a critical element that separates an ordinary from an extraordinary relationship is the skill of curiosity. In a world that feels harder to be present, curiosity isn’t as accessible — which is why we try to come back to the childlike delight of questioning and discovering things. It takes intentionality, presence, and continuous practice…

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38. Money Honey! Finances, Prenups, Decision Making 32:00

11M ago32:00

32:00

The conversation around money isn’t always lighthearted, honey. Money is one of the top stressors and major areas of conflict for many couples, which is why we put as much care and attention to how we do finances as we do anything else. In our opinion, there’s not a right or wrong regarding how money is dealt with inside of a partnership, as long a…

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37. The Dark Side of An Optimization Mindset 28:27

11M ago28:27

28:27

We continue to understand the intricacies around impact, and its ability to overtake us if we’re not focused on seeking (and maintaining) a balanced mindset. In this episode, we share our conversation around optimization and how its dark side can create impulsivity and over time, become a threat. We also draw from our personal backgrounds — includi…

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36. Collaborating With Your Partner? 3 Lessons For Success 27:24

11M ago27:24

27:24

Collaborating with your partner is bound to have its challenges, but how do you navigate partnership on a large, public scale that not only involves collaboration — but also shared responsibility around representation and messaging? We’re taking a look at what came up in the dynamic of our relationship as we were confronted with feelings of control…

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35. Attachment Styles: A Path To Wholeness In Relationship - Part 2 (Wave) 23:30

12M ago23:30

23:30

It’s often said that relationships are like mirrors that magnify what’s happening beneath the surface, and recognizing attachment styles is one of the greatest ways to use that mirror. In this episode, we look at ambivalent attachment, or as psychologist Stan Tatkin refers to it, the “Wave” attachment style. The typical core injuries of “Wavy” peop…

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