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Helping high achieving Christian men have more intimate marriages. Start with episodes 1-4 for an introduction. Traditional marriage counseling, couples therapy, couples counseling and even Christian marriage counseling will tell you that a good marriage is based on compromise. Validating feelings. Sacrifice. I tried that for years. Unfortunately, it doesn’t work. That’s why most couples who go through marriage counseling are the same or worse off after. BUT, in my studies in neuroscience at ...
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The invalidation triple threat is when you: Tell your wife she’s wrong to think that way Tell your wife she’s wrong/immature to feel that way Tell your wife she shouldn’t be hurt by you acting that way/justifying your actions Doing this over and over is what KILLS marriages. So, stop killing your marriage TODAY. Doing this could very well save your…
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This may be the MOST IMPORTANT podcast I have done. I will have already incorporated it into the Strong Men Strong Marriages program. The truth is… I was closer to the end of my marriage than I realized. RECENTLY! And now things are on a trajectory to MUCH more joy and happiness. It’s already happening. Listen on the Strong Men Strong Marriages Pod…
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This week, when you get angry… Leave and do some exercise. That’s it. Keep it simple. Let me know how it goes. Watch on YouTube here. Dr. Mike P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create incredible sexual, mental and emotional intimacy with your wife, and create an amazing legacy for your family t…
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If you ever… Yell at your wife or kids… Make aggressive or threatening comments to them… Or get physical with them in any way… This episode is for you. If your wife has said she “doesn’t feel safe” with you… this episode is for you. High achieving men often have a temper. I’ve had issues and this episode is one for me for sure. You’ll learn simple …
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If you’re asking your wife to apologize because you’re right and she’s wrong… You probably won’t get very far. She’ll probably dig in and tell you why YOU are wrong and SHE is right. Instead, share how what she did HURT you. And ask her to apologize so you can feel like she cares and you’re on the same team. This requires emotional STRENGTH to make…
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If your wife blames you for her problematic behavior… Like infidelity, overspending, being mean or rude, not following through on her responsibilities… It can be VERY frustrating. Why can’t she just apologize? Why won’t she take ownership of her actions and change? Learn what will help her take ownership… And end your frustration… In today’s episod…
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First off... THANK YOU to the many of you who have already purchased the book! We are... -The #1 New Release in Marriage and Long-Term Relationships -The #1 New Release in Christian Marriage -The #1 New Release in Men's Christian Living THANK YOU again for your support! If you haven't yet (of if you want to buy more copies to share)... CLICK HERE t…
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If you didn't catch it Tuesday... The book is FINALLY DONE and ready for you on Amazon! Strong Men Strong Marriages: The Christian Husband’s Guide to Sexual, Mental and Emotional Intimacy. For this week only, through August 20th, the eBook is just 99 cents, and if you get the book and write a review, you’ll get access to exclusive content as a big …
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Well, it’s been a couple years in the making, but it is available TODAY on Amazon! Strong Men Strong Marriages: The Christian Husband’s Guide to Sexual, Mental and Emotional Intimacy. This book has all the tools, tips and lessons I’ve learned from my own marriage and from coaching hundreds of high achieving Christian men. And, if you purchase it th…
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To create a great marriage, you need to be a strong man. That includes: Spiritual strength (self-worth, self-esteem, self-confidence, mission and purpose, making and keeping promises) Mental strength (ability to challenge and change your thoughts) Emotional strength (ability to feel and release emotions in healthy ways) Physical and financial stren…
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There are days when you feel like you’ve had enough. You’re tired of the little to no sex… The lack of respect and appreciation… And feeling like you’re last on your wife’s priority list. You’re getting all the responsibilities of marriage… Making the money, helping with cooking, cleaning, and kids… But none of the benefits. It’s a tough place to b…
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If you want your wife to prioritize you… Don’t ask her to prioritize you. Figure out one thing that would help you feel like a priority. Maybe that’s making a meal, asking you about your day, or spending some time together. Unless you’re in a good place, I would wait on asking for physical touch, though that can also be a good request if you are. T…
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Your wife spends time with her friends… but not with you. She hugs your kids… but not you. She gets excited for other people… but not you. She seems to prefer to be on her phone more than talking to you. This can be VERY frustrating. But, there are things you need to STOP doing… And START doing… If you want her to prioritize you. Listen on the Stro…
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It’s easy to be distracted these days. But, if we’re easily distracted from our wife… We’re missing the chance to show her she’s important to us… And losing out on the chance to build trust and mental and emotional intimacy. When she talks to you today… Put your phone down Look into her eyes And let me know how it goes by replying to this email! Wa…
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High achieving Christian men are used to being right and being listened to. And, this works well in work and church settings. But, it doesn’t work that well at home. Learn the communication mistakes that leave your wife feeling unheard, misunderstood… And therefore NOT attracted to you… In today’s episode. And… Learn how to fix them so you can beco…
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Find And Apologize For 1 One-Up Behavior [Thursday Challenge] As a high achieving Christian man, I’m sure there’s at least ONE way that you’ve behaved in a one up, superior way towards your wife. Some of the most common are: money, sex, in-laws, parenting, religion, housework and time. Find one of those and apologize to your wife for it. Watch on Y…
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The Top 5 Reasons High Achieving Christian Men Struggle In Marriage You’ve succeeded in big areas in your life. Financially, in your career, in your church and in your community. But, your marriage isn’t where you want it to be. You lack intimacy. You’re recovering from infidelity (hers or yours). You’re facing separation or divorce. Why can you su…
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Strong Men Strong Marriages is 90 hours of focused work. You could spend YEARS trying to learn the skills to have great relationships with God, yourself, your wife and your kids. And you might never even find the skills that you need! Plus, in all your searching, you won’t be practicing the few skills you need to create great relationships. If you’…
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If you’re reading this email, you’re ALREADY spending time trying to improve your marriage. And that’s great. AND, if you want to improve your marriage in the most efficient and effective way for high achieving Christian men… You may want to consider marriage coaching, and Strong Men Strong Marriages in particular. You’re a smart, successful guy an…
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On Tuesday we talked about how to decide if marriage coaching was a good investment for you. Today, decide if you’re going to invest time and money into learning how to have a better marriage and better relationships for the rest of your life. It’s a skill, and you’ll learn it a lot faster with coaching. And, if you’re ready to invest… Apply here a…
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As a high achieving man, you like to invest. What’s the point of investing? To get a good return. Certainly return of money is important. But what are you going to use that money for? At the end of the day, what matters most to you? If you can get a return of a more intimate marriage and a better example for generations to follow… And learn how to …
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Want more fun in your marriage? Do something fun today! The easiest thing is to send your wife a funny video or meme. If you’re struggling, search “funniest memes,” find one that you would both laugh at, and send it to your wife. See? You’re having more fun already! Watch on YouTube here. Dr. Mike P.S. Reply to this email with the results of your c…
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Many of the men I talk to say that they want to bring the fun back to their marriage. But, they spend most of their time trying to talk about “the hard things” and solve problems in their marriage. The truth is, you don’t have to wait to bring the fun back. You can take the lead and start having more fun TODAY. Learn how in today’s episode. Watch o…
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Tuesday we talked about how to help your wife feel safe. Acknowledge that you’ve hurt her… And make the appropriate changes. Today you’ll acknowledge 1 way you’ve hurt your wife, which will help start the healing process. (If you want help on knowing what to do after that to make your changes last, book a call to see if our program is the right fit…
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How To Help Your Wife Feel Safe In Your Christian Marriage If your wife is saying she doesn’t feel safe… Either with her words… Or by distancing herself from you emotionally or physically… It’s time to increase the safety in your marriage. How do you do that? Not by telling her you are safe… But by SHOWING her. By getting into her pain and making t…
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Today’s challenge is to find a way to connect with your child. If you have more than one child, choose the child that it’s most difficult to connect with. And, find a way to “meet them where they are.” A great way is to join them in something that they already enjoy. Watch on YouTube here. Dr. Mike P.S. Reply to this post with the results of your c…
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Today I have a special interview with Cathy Himlin, LMFT from Himlin Consulting. Cathy specializes in helping parents, primarily fathers, navigate their relationships with their children during and after a divorce. Whether you are concerned about losing your children in a divorce and want to make the transition as smooth as possible… Or just want t…
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Tuesday we talked about releasing emotions in a healthy way. Today, choose 1 emotion… And choose 1 healthy way to release it. Then, let me know what you choose. And, if you try the release, let me know how it went. Watch on YouTube here. (Lorena new link here for YouTube) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eY13pnVVwwo (Lorena new links here for YouTub…
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Do you find yourself… Avoiding your emotions… Pretending like you’re OK when you’re not… Or wanting to avoid seeming anxious, sad or angry in front of your wife? A lot of us as men think that emotional strength is about not “letting emotions get to us.” But, emotions are like farts. They need to be RELEASED. And ideally, in healthy ways that don’t …
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Think of 3 reasons why your wife is RIGHT to create distance from you. How have you been a poor choice for her? Then, work on those 3 reasons. Make yourself a better choice. And, for a complete system to make yourself a great choice, join Strong Men Strong Marriages. Watch on YouTube here. Dr. Mike P.P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally …
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When you’re trying to save your Christian marriage… But your wife doesn’t seem to be trying… It can be very frustrating and defeating. You can feel lost and unsure of what to do. And, men often make significant mistakes when they try to save their marriage alone. Learn what those mistakes are… And what to do instead… In today’s episode. Watch on Yo…
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If you’re trying to save your marriage, you are probably praying for help. And that is a good and proper thing to do. AND, it’s also necessary to do MORE than pray to save it. It’s like praying to become a doctor. You can pray for it… But unless you go to medical school… It won’t happen. The same is true here. Definitely pray for your marriage. AND…
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Probably the most effective prayer to save your marriage is this. Pray to feel God’s love for you at a DEEP level every day. As you FEEL that love from Him… It will FILL you… Make you less needy, more compassionate, and more loving… And therefore more attractive. As a bonus, pray to see and love your wife as God does too. This video and this book h…
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If your wife is talking about separation or divorce… Or you need to save your marriage from being roommates for the next 30 years… There are 3 simple steps that will take you from feeling disconnected and stuck in your marriage… To having the fun, passion and intimacy again. Learn what they are in today’s episode. Listen on the Strong Men Strong Ma…
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OK. You have 3 days until Mother’s Day. What are your plans? Reply on LinkedIn and let me know! Watch on YouTube here. Dr. Mike P.S. Reply to this post with the results of your challenge! P.P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create incredible sexual, mental and emotional intimacy with your wife,…
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Mother’s Day is this Sunday… And it’s a great chance to show your love and appreciation for your wife. Most moms feel like they’re not doing a great job, or at least could be doing better. This is your chance to show your wife just how much you and your kids appreciate her. Show love and take leadership. That’s what’s ATTRACTIVE to your wife. Get s…
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From now on, each Thursday you’ll get a challenge to apply the material from Tuesday’s podcast. For this week the challenge is: Make and keep a promise. It can be big or small (though I recommend small), and it can be to yourself or someone else. Follow through on that promise… And reply to this email to let me know how it went. What was the prom…
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Self-worth is your inherent value. You have it just because you exist. God loves you and is pleased with you just because you exit. Self-esteem is the overall thoughts and feelings you have about yourself. Both of these are more about THINKING and FEELING. Self-confidence, on the other hand, is about DOING. You build self-confidence by… *Making a…
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Last week we talked about increasing your self-worth. Your self-worth is your inherent value, which doesn’t ever change and is great and infinite as a son of God. Your self-esteem is your relationship with yourself. In other words, your thoughts and feelings about yourself. Most high achieving guys have the mindset of “I can do better.” This is a m…
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I used to believe that I had to work to be worthy. That my self-worth was determined by what I accomplished. And, I still fall into that trap sometimes. But it is a trap. Because no matter how much you accomplish… You can always accomplish more. Instead of this trap, try the 3 simple steps in today’s episode. *See yourself as a beloved son of God…
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For most of my life, I’ve felt like I need to achieve to be valuable. I haven’t really felt like I could ever rest. I was either “growing or dying.” The last few weeks have shown me that this isn’t really what God intends or wants for me… or for you. Instead, we can find rest in knowing we are Sons Of The King. That we are loved, accepted and forgi…
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Today we get to meet Emmanual and Bekah Guarino, founders of Team Vulnerable. You’ll hear their story of how Emmanuel: -Struggled with pornography for YEARS -Eventually shared his struggle with Bekah -Found a way to work as a team to help Emmanuel overcome pornography… to the point that he doesn’t really feel tempted at all to view it Watch on YouT…
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Last week we learned about the problematic attachment styles in marriage. Today we’ll learn what we need to do to earn the secure attachment that we want in marriage. Secure attachment looks like: -A good balance between “me” and “we” -Feeling confident that your needs will be met -Expressing your thoughts and feelings and listening to your wife’s …
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You may have heard of the different attachment styles. Avoidant. Anxious/Ambivalent. Disorganized. And secure. Many high achieving men were brought up in avoidant, anxious/ambivalent or even disorganized homes. They learned the lesson that they need to figure things out on their own… and they did. That helped them be very successful in business and…
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Every marriage has conflict. In some marriages it’s very emotional and volatile, with screaming matches. In others, it’s buried under the surface with one or both spouses silently resenting the other. In others, one spouse wants to talk things out, while the other wants to avoid the conversation. Whatever your pattern is, there’s a reason for it. A…
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Recently I got my testosterone checked. I found that my total testosterone was normal, but my free testosterone was low. This got me started on a path to try to figure out how to increase both free and total testosterone NATURALLY. Because testosterone replacement therapy SHUTS DOWN your body’s natural production. Jason has a long history of helpin…
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When your wife takes off her wedding ring… It can signal a BIG alarm. Most men will either try to ignore this (while silently fearing what it might mean)… Become passive aggressive to “pay her back” for not wearing her ring… Or confront her in an angry way. Fortunately, there’s a better response that can lead to MORE intimacy and connection. Learn …
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There are scientifically proven ways to let our emotions flow in healthy ways. Those are: -Breathe -Name -Feel -Deal Learn more about these… with a specific example… in today’s episode. Watch on YouTube here. Dr. Mike P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create incredible sexual, mental and emotio…
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I used to be afraid of emotions. And really, I still am a little. From what I saw, when people got overly angry, they broke things or hurt people. If they got overly sad, they got depressed or even suicidal. If they got anxious, they froze and didn’t accomplish anything. I certainly didn’t want to do this, and so I took the approach of trying to “t…
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